Where have people's manners gone?

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Listed something for sale. Get a message saying it is available and what are dimensions. No hello? No please? Such basics.
Edited to add: the dimensions are already in the for sale advert.

People that are brought up nicely have manners , simple and yes you are right OP basic manners are disappearing.

😂Sorry not sorry.

I do think the tone of that post was jocular though - I suspect that poster may have been exaggerating somewhat for effect.

Manners maketh the man,as my old mum used to say.

I have friends who always say please and thank you to the Alexa thingy!

Love a well mannered chap/chapess.

It's not small talk. It's just adding TWO TO THREE words. 'Hi', 'please' and 'thank you'.

When i worked retail i used to say please and shockingly thank you as well.
But i am old and think manners are important. They make life more pleasant.

I have two anxiety disorders, including severe social anxiety, and autism but I don't use it as an excuse to be rude.

I say please and thank you to my hens when I ask them to move out of the way when I collect the eggs. I think if it's bred into you, you can't not do it.

I agree and people are even worse when it's free. I remember receiving follow up messages two minutes apart "Dimensions... ???... Hello??? "

Apart from the fact it feels good to be polite, basic manners get you further in life. I’m a teacher and I always pull pupils up on please and thank you. I teach teenagers. I also notice manners in others, very much. If you want your kids to get on in life, good manners make a big difference.

I see questions from customers on a Facebook business page eg "do you have steak in stock". It's so rude especially since the lovely busy business owner who we all know the name of replies quite quickly. What's wrong with "Hi (name) do you have any steak in stock please?"

Neither do I. I am never rude to shop staff. Never.

But I went through Covid too and I haven’t become rude and entitled

What a bizarre comment. Do you not say please and thank you when making a transaction of some kind?

I think I might try that. Thanks for the tip

I agree and I agree it went with Covid. People don’t see people as other humans anymore.
people used to smile and say thanks in a shop if you let them go. Now they just ignore you, maybe just walk at you until you move.

I completely agree with you OP - it doesn't take a minute to say 'please' and 'thank you' People's manners are sadly lacking these days - just look at the horrific 'can I get' in a cafe or pub! What happened to 'please may I have' or 'could I please have'??

Funnily enough, that's exactly how I see it when I choose to ignore the rude, entitled individual and give whatever I have on offer to someone else. 😂

How old are you?

Long before that. Covid just made it worse.

I agree. I walk with my feet when it comes to shops and other service providers who can't be bothered with even the faintest of manners. Likewise, as a seller on Facebook, Ebay and others, I either ignore or sent blunt replies when a potential buyer has no manners or asks stupid questions.

I'm too old to tolerate it anymore.

Same with my business. I'm 100% pleasant, helpful and polite to my clients, hence not losing a client for several years and most clients staying as clients for 10-15 years and over. But when I get an email/contact form from a potential client and there is no sign of manners, I don't engage and don't take them on. I have enough work and don't have the mindspace to deal with difficult, arrogant or ill mannered people.

Nail on the head. Nothing wrong with simple pleasantries and they don't take up any time at all. It "oils" your social interactions with other humans.

Same with walkers/ramblers on our canal towpath. They come 2/3 abreast and expect everyone else to jump out of the way. I used to but don't anymore and now just stand my ground and they always look shocked that they have to fall into single file. Bad manners and arrogance isn't the preserve of the young nor male. Older/elderly women are just as entitled, especially in groups!

Sorry, but I'm laughing at the idea of cashiers having 'customer service training', We get half an hour with a till operative when we first start, everything else is picked up along the way - there is no 'customer service training.' There is very little training AT ALL.

(I always said please and thank you, by the way, but I'm old).

I agree op. It is very easy to say please and thank you. I must live somewhere very odd in the fact that cashier here say please and thank you and also chitchat if they can.

I started serving customers in our family "corner shop" as a young teenager. Saying hello, please, thank you and bye, was basic manners and certainly nothing that someone needs to be trained for! You shouldn't need "training" to say thank you to the shop assistant when they give you your change and receipt any more than the assistant should need training to say "please" when they ask for the amount due after ringing through the till. The World has gone mad when people seem to think they need "training" for basic manners! It's what parents and teachers are there for!