Where have people's manners gone?

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Listed something for sale. Get a message saying it is available and what are dimensions. No hello? No please? Such basics.
Edited to add: the dimensions are already in the for sale advert.

I was a Woolworth's Saturday girl and this is what we were trained to do.

The shop keepers in my little local shops - greengrocer, butcher, baker still say please and thank you.

Half the time they say nothing. Just show you the card reader.

Buying something off marketplace is “business”?

No good business person would communicate with clients without manners. I’m going to guess you’re rude to people too if you think it’s ok not to say please or thank you.

I agree OP. They should still be polite.

I see posts on our community group. They simply launch in and sat”looking for a plumber to fix xxx” no Hi, no thanks. Honestly, it’s terrible.

Dragged up!

😂😂😂 wtf. Babe this is probably Facebook market place, not business. Also you’ll find if you ever go into business, with no manners you won’t do very well.

Exactly

I do sometimes feel like an oddity, because I get the impression some of the people I interact with don't understand "please" and "thank you". The place I live now is much better for that kind of thing so hopefully it hasn't died out that much.

@XenoBitch would you freak out if a cashier asked you "how are you today?" or just said "good morning" ?

I’m on free groups on fb , it’s even worse when you’re giving something away and people post … il have that , or il take that off your hands , some would just say Me … so many don’t say please or thank you . It’s like they are doing YOU the favour when there’s a lot more who want the item and are grateful . The group now blocks anyone who replies with no manners coz it was getting ridiculous. .

I totally agree with you OP. The level of ignorance around is breathtaking- as just evidenced.

I agree manners are lacking, and I’ve noticed it isn’t just teenagers, if anything they’re actually a lot more polite than many older people!.

I was shopping this weekend and stopped at the escalators to let a group of ladies through with a little smile and “after you”, they looked at me and blanked me, no smile, no thank you.

The same day I waited by a door to let a lady with a pushchair in, the woman behind me barged past the both of us.

I don’t necessarily expect kindness from people, and I wasn’t upset that I didn’t get any, but I have just noticed that manners and kindness are severely lacking.

I always call them out by saying loudly “you’re welcome”.

I blame Alexa.
Alexa lights on
Alexa play Christmas playlist
Alexa lights off.
No need for please and thank you. I don't have Alexa so I've never gone into the mode of asking for something without using please and thank you. I dare say if you get used to doing it at home it ceases to sound jarring and you start to use it in your normal life when addressing actual human people.

If it’s facebook marketplace those are set questions you can click on. It’s completely faceless so you can send the same question to multiple people.

There's a cafe in France that charges 7Euros for a coffee but 1.40 if you say please! I agree OP!
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-25347423

Manners are free.

I agree OP, it's sad how rude and blunt we've become, and the attitude of "well I don't know them nor want to be friends with them so why should I be polite to them?" is so fucking depressing.

I worked retail for 10 years and always said please and thank you to customers 🤷‍♀️ in a rough as pig shit shop too so there's no snobbery here. I'm not sure the latest batch of retail workers' lack of social skills ought to be seen as a positive or normal thing!

Manners cost nothing, and my nearly 2 year old has already learnt he doesn't get anything without a please or thank you!
For the record I used to work in a supermarket and always said that's x amount please. People are so rude these days! Even if it is an auto message on marketplace you can still (and I do) edit it to say please and thank you.

I love the responses that just say "Best price?" without even a "Hi, I'm interested"

Best price for me? £10, 000 upwards please!

I agree OP. I would definitely say hello/please/thank you. It’s just very basic manners. I always say thank you in a shop too. A lot of the kids I teach say thanks as they leave the room, I say thanks as they hand glues etc back in. It’s just polite. Covid messed up so many things and manners seems to be one of them.

People are time poor & digitally overwhelmed.
Soon, if not already , AI will be msging you delightfully polite msging on behalf of no-manners-Neil or Nora. Is that better because AI showed manners even if person who pushed button had none ?

I have several onine shops where I sell antiques and vintage. Most of my customers are polite but you do get the occasional one who thinks I am a "shop girl" and can talk down to me.

Not along ago a customer bought an item with a good discount. After they had paid they sent me a snitty message saying that resellers should not be able to buy things at auction and only collectors should be ablt to do so. They used the work "reseller" like it was a filthy name. I pointed out politely that unless you go direct to the farm or the manufacturer that most things we eat, consume or use are sold on by a middle-person, ie a reseller. Thats how capitalism works. I got an abusing message back telling me how corrupt and unscrupulous I was hoovering up all these goods. I refunded her payment, cancelled the sale and blocked her.

Instinct and experience tells me that when a customer is rude and abusive before you have even shipped the item they are going to turn into the buyer from hell further along the line. People like that who have some kind of inner rage going on are not going to learn.

Yes, I would actually but I have a diagnosed anxiety disorder. If I go shopping, I want the bare minimum of interaction. Scan & Shop is a blessing for me.

Yes I do. I worked in retail 30 years ago and I was trained to say ‘that’s £5.99 please.’

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Saying “Hi, can I have measurements please?”

Is NOT asking someone to be your mate. It’s just basic manners. If you run a business, you are polite to customers. Why can’t customers be polite back? This world is broken man.

So true!! Treating other humans like a machine…

I’ve started to give a smiling, “You’re very welcome” to people who do this.

Or "manners are free".