Things you do/have done that most mumsnetters would frown upon!

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Just for fun.

What are some things that you have done in the past or do now that you know most MN’s would find you unreasonable for?

I’ll go first:

• I’m so unbothered if you choose to have a child free wedding and my children aren’t invited. Even close family weddings. It’s your day I’m not going to kick up a fuss that you haven’t invited to my children. You’ve probably given me at least 6 months to a year notice, I’ll just arrange childcare. If I can’t - then I can’t come and you can’t be mad at me!
• Chose to have 2 elective c sections for no medical need.
• Given my children chocolate occasionally before the age of 2.
• Son slept in a cot until almost 3!

I'm chronically early and wash my sheets every week, but otherwise yes yes to all this.

I was actually thinking of this as a thread title OP, great choice. I have loads that are frowned upon 😂.

Like you I don't give a shit if you have a child free wedding or not. If I can't get childcare then it's my issue.

I had evening guests at my wedding. Nobody declined the invitation or stopped speaking to us!

I genuinely couldn't give a shit about UPF food. Don't get me wrong my children eat healthy homecooked food but they also have ready meals, pouches etc and I have absolutely feel zero guilt about this. I use supermarket pizza and bread and have quite frankly better things to be worrying about then analysing tinned tomatoes and fretting about using stock cubes.

I'd rather jump off a cliff than be a SAHM. My eldest went into nursery at 9 months and my youngest will 8 months. Zero guilt and furthermore I regularly use annual leave days for myself and keep them in nursery.

I use loo brushes. I hadn't even realised this was a thing until I came on here.

I have regular time away from my children and don't miss them when I'm gone.

I adore my MIL and in-laws but I'd rather scrape my own eyeballs out than entertain my own siblings.

I always answer my door.

I formula fed and made my husband share night feeds. Also absolutely love a dummy!

Me and my husband both have friends of the same sex that we meet for drinks and meals with. No issues with it at all.

I also had my children in my mid-late 30s. I'm fine but according to certain sections of mumsnet, having babies at this age means I should "be on my knees" with exhaustion and have been crippled by pregnancy of which neither applies to me.

Oh god, loads.
I was a financially irresponsible but well travelled and happy adult until I was 30. And even now, my time and MH means more than pushing myself to make more money.

I reuse things until they break before I replace them.

Towels are changed weekly but beds, aim for 2 weeks but can be a few days overdue.

I send loads of Christmas cards and am disappointed that the amount we receive is dwindling.

I like the odd unannounced visitor.

I have a loo brush

I believe Christmas and birthdays should be fun and it’s fine to buy silly presents for children.

I share towels with my kids. Sometimes. I believe this is the ultimate sin.

Sleep trained my child.

Attended pro-Palestine demonstrations.

Supported trans rights.

Oh I also don't mind Bayliss and Harding it has never given me thrush or a.rash it is just shower gel.

Oh also - swearing is a useful part of the English language and can convey a lot of feelings in one or two words.

And my house and clothes aren’t particularly tasteful. They’re colourful and I like them.

Great thread. It’s life a confessional, but I am sober !

I love dogs

My dog sleeps on the bed, until recently we had 2 Labradors to cuddle every nite.

I take my dogs to cafes with me, and occasionally the pub.

You are generally welcome to bring your own dogs and children to my house, but do not expect me to banish my dogs

My older boy used to climb into the dishwasher for a prewash - and I let him

I wear trainers without socks.

I wear shoes in the house, and I don't ask visitors or workmen to remove theirs.

I allow workmen to use my toilet.

I poo in public toilets, with no shame or inhibitions at all.

I believe that germs are good for your immune system, and immaculately clean house = wasted life. I like seeing houses that look lived in.

I have a cat (a crime in itself to some MNetters), and I let him outside, although he is restricted to the garden by cat-proof fencing. He still brings in his trophies, though.

From the very beginning, I thought lockdowns caused much more harm than good (not merely the following year, when people saw the damage to their children and to many other things), and I think it was very wrong that the government's only method of communicating was to "frighten the pants off the public".

Only made a chicken last one meal

I open the door when people ring the doorbell.

I drink half a bottle of wine a night and I've never considered I need to go to AA.

I drive.
I’m happy to drive long distances - alone.
I am capable of going places without my dog.
I don’t infantilise my DH or my DK.

I like my neighbours
I answer the door and love people dropping by
I invited some family members to my wedding simply because they're family and i didn't want to hurt them.
I don't think it's good parenting to sometimes put adults needs before a childs

My babies slept in their own rooms, and on a different floor, to our bedroom from their first day home. I breastfed both (so was in there a couple times a night). It wasn’t actually the recommendation then to have them in with you for the first six months. I also gave them real food from four months (still breastfeeding, one of them til they self weaned at a year). I’d do the same today.

Apart from the child one (I'm child-free), this is me.
The shower thread where people had conniptions at the idea of a neighbour being in their shower particularly amused me.

Oh god this. There was a recent thread about this and someone literally posted a 20 step process of how even booking something so mundane like a dentist appointment caused them so much mental stress. Things like "thinking about booking the appointment", "putting it on the calendar", "anticipating traffic".

Absolute madness, it's wonder some people make it out of bed in the morning if they can't cope with something routine like a kids dentist appointment.

Ooh, some more inspired by others:

Love wine, including while breastfeeding and the occasional glass when pregnant.

Planning a second baby in my 40s.

Happily unmarried, pay more of the bills and self-funded my maternity leave, my partner pays me 'rent'/pays towards my mortgage which is in my name only.

Pop my kid in front of Bluey when I need a minute or 30.

I don’t care if other people park outside my house.

I let my kids joke around with me including the odd swear word. Dds friends are in shock at how me dd talk to each other playfully. They say they'd be grounded for life is they spoke to their mums that way.

Also I respect the kids who have changed their pronouns and identify as whatever. If they want to experiment with their identity then the teenage years are the perfect time to do it. I don't support actual transition before adulthood, but it's harmless if a girl wants to be called he/him for a few months.

I celebrate my birthday
The ensuite bathroom is used for all bodily functions that a toilet is designed for
I socialise with work colleagues
I wore a running top twice last week without washing in between 🫣 because it was my best high viz one (it didnt smell - but I was running alone anyway if that makes a difference!)

I don’t mind if sanitary products are scented. I firmly believe that NO-ONE else can smell if I am using one, despite the craziness on here where people say ‘I can smell if a woman in the next room is wearing one and it always gives me me a migraine’ - what are you, a bloodhound? Such a load of crap.

I also think lots of people need to man the fuck up and stop moaning they have ‘anxiety’ when they are a bit worried about something.

Serve starters with Christmas dinner...

What is the deal with loo brushes anyway? How do people clean poo off a toilet anyway? Are people honestly shoving their hands down the toilet and cleaning it with a cloth and then walking around the house with a shit smeared cloth to the washing machine thinking that's somehow more hygienic? Or leaving shit smeared antibacterial wipes in the bin smelling away as an alternative.

My loo brush and toilet are regularly soaked/cleaned with bleach. So far no one has had any horrendous illness due to it!

I walk my dog off the lead in our local park