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Things you do/have done that most mumsnetters would frown upon!

613 replies

Watermelonsugar345 · 16/12/2025 11:47

Just for fun.

What are some things that you have done in the past or do now that you know most MN’s would find you unreasonable for?

I’ll go first:

  • I’m so unbothered if you choose to have a child free wedding and my children aren’t invited. Even close family weddings. It’s your day I’m not going to kick up a fuss that you haven’t invited to my children. You’ve probably given me at least 6 months to a year notice, I’ll just arrange childcare. If I can’t - then I can’t come and you can’t be mad at me!
  • Chose to have 2 elective c sections for no medical need.
  • Given my children chocolate occasionally before the age of 2.
  • Son slept in a cot until almost 3!
OP posts:
xanthomelana · 16/12/2025 12:07

I use fabric softener and have a blended family, I didn’t stay single until my kids were at least 30 so I’m selfish.

SeaToSki · 16/12/2025 12:07

When they were little my dc all had a strict routine and I sleep trained them at 5 months. I also used to make their baby milk up 24 hours worth at a time and keep it in the fridge, then microwaved it to take the chill off

Backtorealityerr · 16/12/2025 12:08

I got on really well with my MIL and I welcomed visitors with my newborns and was absolutely delighted to hand the babies over so I could have my arms back for a while.
Only use the word boundary when talking about land !
Call my friends for catch ups ,answer the door to unannounced visitors because a reasonable person will understand if I am busy.
I have a great relationship with my family and enjoy their company.
Was a very relaxed Mum of teenagers and picked my battles.
Drink more than a thimble of wine when socialising.

KStockHERO · 16/12/2025 12:08

> Use human cutlery to serve the dog's food. Wash the dog's stuff in with ours - knives, forks, bowls, towels, bedding, everything.

> Sleep in bed with the dog every night.

> Don't like children and have no desire to spend any time with any of them.

> Love Christmas and go massively OTT with decorations, tree, food, drink, presents for DP.

> Swear a lot

> Don't work very hard in my job and couldn't give a shit.

> Never been to, or seen the appeal of a spa.

TaupeRaven · 16/12/2025 12:09

xanthomelana · 16/12/2025 12:07

I use fabric softener and have a blended family, I didn’t stay single until my kids were at least 30 so I’m selfish.

Ooooh, same! And my family is happy, which MN firmly believes to be impossible for poor children from a broken home with a selfish mother...

Alwaysoneoddsock · 16/12/2025 12:09

I love unannounced visits. I hate booking in a visit. You find me as I am and I’m confident enough to be happy with that.

I open my door and I don’t know who’s there.

Front door is often unlocked.

A chicken is eaten at one meal. Salad is a side dish.

I love dogs.

Some people’s take on gentle parenting is not parenting.

Edited to add more - this is cathartic OP

TittyGajillions · 16/12/2025 12:09

I let my cat sleep on my pillow with me and I kiss him on the nose all the time.

I love dogs 😱

K0OLA1D · 16/12/2025 12:10

I have tattoos and wear leggings

whentwilightfalls · 16/12/2025 12:10

I have a son, who loves trucks, tractors and cars, and a daughter who loves dolls, princesses and fairies.

They both forward face in the car and have done so since around fifteen months.

They attend(ed) nursery part time.

Notmyreality · 16/12/2025 12:11

My kids and I regularly eat beige food especially chicken nuggets. Yum!
My kids watch screens sooo much.
I sometimes flush with the toilet seat up
Ive lived in Dubai and thought it was great
I don’t think all men are useless wankers
My DH carries the mental load and does a far better job than I ever could.
i do OnlyFans not because im desperate or even need the money but because my DH and like it.

Cynic17 · 16/12/2025 12:12

Not had a child.
Don't "do" Christmas.
Barely do housework, and don't care about it.
Don't track my nearest & dearest.
Think friends are more important than family.
Never use hand sanitiser or wear a mask.

Greenfinch7 · 16/12/2025 12:12

Sleep with my kids
Have no routine with young kids, including lots of travel in different time zones from an earl age
Use and share towels until they are about to start to smell
Don't always change sheets between guests if they are clean single people and close friends or family, (especially duvet covers)
Didn't have any screens in our house until kids were 12 and 10
Have hardly worked (for money) since having kids (they are adults now) I am not happy about this, but it is just how it happened and financially it was possible

Menopants · 16/12/2025 12:13

I live my life without the burning resentment of the 'mental load' every time I have to spend 5 mins online updating the car insurance or similar.

Eyesopenwideawake · 16/12/2025 12:13

I shower 2/3 times a week. Ha!

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 16/12/2025 12:13

I’m covered in tattoos and in love with a trans man.

princesspadam · 16/12/2025 12:14

I drink in front of my children - if anyone needs A&E we’ll get a taxi
i love holidays without my children - in fact if they’re coming it’s not a holiday
i I have a toilet brush
i I don’t monitor anyone’s phone use or screen time
i I don’t AirTag or stalk my children

Owly11 · 16/12/2025 12:15

Oh I don't wash my bedsheets, towels or clothes very often, I drink alcohol most days, I don't believe a child's 'needs' (aka wishes) trump everyone elses and I never, and I mean NEVER eat a massive salad.

Cosyblankets · 16/12/2025 12:15

I had a child free overseas wedding
I don't ask anyone to remove shoes
I have an en suite and i like it
I answer the door
We don't share finances
I let my dog off the lead (because he's well behaved)
I take my dog to the pub or the cafe

Barney16 · 16/12/2025 12:16

It's the chicken. A chicken lasts one meal and there are only two of us.

MrsAvocet · 16/12/2025 12:16

I'm a cyclist.

TofuEater · 16/12/2025 12:16

I am fine with trans women using the same loos and changing rooms as me

TinselTina · 16/12/2025 12:16

Have 1 child
Left crap marriage when child was young.
Have re married. Im a Heathen

BarnacleBeasley · 16/12/2025 12:18

I like all my neighbours, and happily take parcels for them, let them have showers in my house if they're getting work done on their bathroom, move my car if they need the space, etc.

I am intermittently teaching my child to read before he starts school.

myglowupera · 16/12/2025 12:18

I carried on with a pregnancy instead of having an abortion.

ModernLife1sRubbish · 16/12/2025 12:20

I've had sex with married men for fun and feel no guilt or shame.