Would you say something?

[hazelowens]

My ex husband remarried on the 11th to the woman he moved in with (as a flatmate) the night I told him to leave and go back to his girlfriend. He has always denied he had an affair and that they only started as a couple a few months after him and I split up.

At the wedding someone was doing a speech and said that their relationship started in 2013 but didn't become serious till late 2014 when he arrived on her door step with his bags. We had split up October 2014. Our boys were sitting hearing this speech and they looked at each other going mum and dad split up in 2014 not 2013.

100% say something but also, this is his 3rd wife??? 5 kids by different women. Yikes

Yip he has 2 kids with wife#1 and 3 kids with me. There is a possibility that he has a boy with a girl he was with when he was 16.

I dont think he has been single except for a month or so between leaving wife #1 and meeting me since he was 16, he is now 61. I don't know if he could actually function in the world as a single person.

Okay 😂

It must have been hard for your sons to hear that from strangers at a wedding. How are they?

As if this man is going to “squirm” if the OP starts pointing out she now has proof his now wife, who he’s been with for well over a decade, began earlier than he said it did.

I think he’d probably end up laughing with his mates about it over a pint

They are okay. Our middle child just said that he thinks his father an even bigger idiot than he did before the speeches. Our oldest and youngest just said that they should have told the speech giver to take that out the speech as his 3 younger kids where in the room. I suspect the new wife gave them the details as my ex has the memory of a sieve, he has all 5 DOB of the boys on his arm as he can never remember when they were born.

I really don't think there's any point in saying something. Your ex is delusional fuckwit and you won't make any difference to the story he tells himself and others about what a good guy he is. Why waste your energy? He did you a favour when he left, be thankful for that and move on.

my son filled me as soon as he came home. He told me the only reason he went to the wedding was to pet the fluffy cows. He got to pet the cows and he met family he didn't know he had.

So he obviously actively despised his father and his partner before even knowing about the affair? @hazelowens

Despise is a very strong word, he stopped going to see his dad when he called and said he couldn't come to his big appointment about his heart as he was working. He went onto Facebook to find out he had actually gone for lunch with his now wife and her family. He told his dad that it wasn't the not going it was the lies. He decided after that he wasn't going to stay with his dad. I asked him every week to go see him for about a year then decided myself that if his dad wanted to see him he could ask him himself.

I would definitely call only going to his father’s wedding was *to pet the fluffy cows. *would strongly indicate someone despised their father even before knowing about the affair.