I’ve become a regular public loo

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Last week a female Amazon driver asked to use my loo and of course I said yes, she said she was desperate and explained it was difficult to find a loo on a route. I must admit although I said yes I did feel quite uncomfortable as she was a stranger but obviously wanted to help. Now today she’s asked me for the third time. I was having a bad day anyway but I did say do you have nowhere else to go but here? I kind of feel I’m just going to get asked every time she comes now because I helped her out and I hadn’t signed up to be the public convenience!

I feel bad for feeling this way but it makes me feel queasy. I can’t explain why I feel taken advantage of…anyone else had repeat toilet users?

Inappropriate? She only wants a pee. Christ. What's she gonna do? Eat your cat?

I would let her as we have one which is just inside the front door and Amazon are awful employers so I would feel sorry for them having to work for them. Ideally I would like to stop ordering from them altogether and am working on that. I can't believe people won't let workman use their loos. Have some compassion for goodness sake. If you are that germ phobic clean it afterwards.

Ah yes, good point - I think it might bother me less with it being a woman though.

If you can't handle showing a bit of compassion, just stop ordering crap off the internet

I let my Royal mail post lady use mine.. shes so lovely.. knows im disabled and is patient when she has a parcel and l need to get to the door... last week was throwing it down and freezing.. l filled up her flask with fresh tea too.

It would also bother me less.

I might say no if home alone and it were a man.

Again, you're not wrong, but areas vary so much. Some places you're tripping over loos - pubs/gyms/garden centres. Other places it's genuinely impossible to think of anywhere to get to that wouldn't take at least half an hour to divert and come back again. I DO think it's reasonable to ask people if you get caught out, but also bot offended if you'd rather I didn't and you politely refuse.

To the people mentioning a shewee, they're hard to use when dressed in full winter gear.

And the absolute worst time was during covid - every business shut/obviously can't ask customers/working 14 hour days due to all the loo roll deliveries!!

Oh and getting changed after a period flooding can be .. problematic

Oh, indeed - I'm not saying that people shouldn't ask if there are no feasible alternatives. I'm just saying that they should reasomably factor in the time for you to go, whether you can find a public toilet or you have to ask a custoner nicely.

was it clean? That was so nice of them though but I wouldn’t fancy cleaning a toilet on my property constantly used by strangers

I would absolutely have no problem helping a fellow human being out, who is doing a job that is essential to us all.

Maybe we could just say that, if you can't easily use an empty bottle in your van or find a tree to discreetly whip it out and go behind, it's clearly not a job that you should feel entitled to have. Equal employment opportunities have just gone too far now.

We could go back to the good old days when, even in places where there were public toilets, there were only ones for men - because women would all be at home all day, whilst the menfolk were out and about at work and at leisure, wouldn't they?

Tough love: it was your choice to be female, so you should have thought about earning a living in future before you decided not to be born a boy........

Even the ones mentioned upthread where they've left a stinky turd, I'm sure they didn't just do it for fun. Would it be better for everybody if they shat themselves in their van. You'd be waiting a lot longer for your parcel if they had to walk like John Wayne whilst they were on their rounds... and the poo lodging in their pants wouldn't smell any less bad to all and sundry at their doorsteps than it would have done after being flushed down an actual toilet.

Don't you or your family/friends sometimes have a poo that leaves it a bit 'high' afterwards? If so, does it kill anybody, or do you just open a window and it dissipates in a few minutes?

Obviously it's your choice to say Yes or No; but I never understand the people who like to shame and blame other humans for having to poo sometimes, and for the fact that their poo smells like everybody else's poo does.

Seriously?!? No probably not if there aren't any on her route. And clearly from the responses on this thread she wouldn't be able to find anyone willing to let her use their loo so a bush it must be.

It’s hard being a driver, don’t begrudge her, think of it as a tip! My poor bus driver had to go in the bushes last week because his normal loo (Sainsburys) is shut earlier on Sunday of course, at least it was dark I suppose

We have an outside toilet (old farmhouse) and are very happy to let postman and delivery drivers use it. Cuts both ways as postie and Evri man in particular always go above and beyond to bring parcels around to back of house where they know we usually are. But do appreciate that it’s a bit different to people traipsing through your home, plus we have had the same two for years now and feel like we know them!

Don’t answer the door and she will leave the parcel outside. When she’s gone pick it up.

Oh FFS we need the laughing emoji back 😂😂

Tell her to call in at petrol stations like everyone else does....There are plenty around with facilities...

If I were you, I’d say “it was ok once or twice but I’m not comfortable with this becoming a regular thing”. Or report her to Amazon

lol that’s a hot take 🤣

Offered breakdown driver who came the other day to save my dead car if he needed to use the facilities. Can’t see the problem.

Thanks for all your wisdom I’ve been chuckling at some of the fruitier responses! Just to clear up, we live in the countryside so no public loos too near but maybe 15 mins drive away, I can’t stop ordering from Amazon as the kids (grown up) and my husband use it and we are a big family! Plus we have no major shops nearby so it’s very useful. We don’t order ‘crap’ it’s things we need and gifts for Christmas etc.

I did allow her to use the loo each time, so I didn’t ever refuse and I won’t refuse next time, I really do appreciate hard it is for women out on the road, I just didn’t want to be her pee stop as I was a soft option, rather than asking someone else. Although I feel uncomfortable I can easily give it a quick spray and wipe when she’s done, and to be fair there was no smell😂.

A lively discussion and you gave me pause for thought in summary I think I was being a bit mean. Btw I would also allow a man to use the loo but I think they just pee in a bottle don’t they? Lucky them.

Lots of areas, no. It can actually be worse in towns. If you're on housing estates for 6 hours, there's often nothing. Sure there'll be a supermarket somewhere, but if it's across town there's no way you've got time to go.

Let the poor woman pee and retain her dignity for god’s sake! It’s a bathroom 😳