I’ve become a regular public loo

[PinkScot]

Last week a female Amazon driver asked to use my loo and of course I said yes, she said she was desperate and explained it was difficult to find a loo on a route. I must admit although I said yes I did feel quite uncomfortable as she was a stranger but obviously wanted to help. Now today she’s asked me for the third time. I was having a bad day anyway but I did say do you have nowhere else to go but here? I kind of feel I’m just going to get asked every time she comes now because I helped her out and I hadn’t signed up to be the public convenience!

I feel bad for feeling this way but it makes me feel queasy. I can’t explain why I feel taken advantage of…anyone else had repeat toilet users?

As a one of emergency it was kind of you to let her but she clearly has decided this is her toilet stop now rathet than planning her day or breaks to involve a toilet stop. There are service stations and supermarkets everywhere with public toilets. Tell her next time she asks that you were happy to help in an emergency but from now on you think it would be best if she plans her route a little better....then suggest the nearest supermarket or petrol station as an alternative.

I would be tempted to buy her a SHE WEE, as a gift for Christmas! 😆 💛 🤣
And I would order it off amazon 😆

https://www.shewee.com/

@PinkScot

She could carry a camping toilet in the van 😬. I go car camping and manage this in a normal car.

It's rude of her to keep asking, she needs to plan her day better including what she eats and drinks so she isn't caught short all the time.

I could never be any kind of driver. My bladder is the size of pea. I need to be close to a toilet always.

This. I was surprised that you keep getting the same Amazon driver. I get a different one every time.

At least you know that she doesn't have wee-y hands when she handles your parcels - unlike all the male drivers using an Oasis bottle!

There are not toilets everywhere. My current route is 2 villages, there's one pub that only opens at funny times. I will be in these villages (and outlying farms) for 6-7 hours. Diverting several miles for a supermarket (closest petrol station doesn't have a loo), is completely impossible in the time frames needed.

Only possible once your van's quite empty. Also, I never feel at all comfortable doing this right next to a stack of hello fresh boxes.

Me neither - and if you add GI issues to the mix...

Not all supermarkets have loos and neither do petrol stations. As I always say on this sort of thread the lack of public loos is a disgrace and has a disproportionate effect on women (of course) and the disabled/elderly (also of course). And, delivery drivers whose employers are greedy sh*ts.

I would use this as an opportunity to make a friend, but my loo is in the porch near the front door.

It's outrageous that Amazon and the other companies don't factor in any time at all for toilet visits. If you don't have any bowel-related conditions and good sphincter control, you can probably hold on for a poo until you get homes; but who can go a full day without a wee - and why on earth should they be expected to?

My loo is in my hall so I would let someone use it. Personally I have endo and a full bladder is incredibly painful due to both deposits and scar tissue. It is just a wee and I really do feel for these people being monitored to within an inch of their lives on their routes.

On very hot days I also hand out cold bottled water to them too. I can see on the map how close they are so just have one ready in case they want it.

Order her a She Wee from Amazon as a gift and give it to her when she delivers it 😀

I mean, you're not wrong, all of the bosses absolutely don't give a toss, but I don't actually think this is really solvable by them. Areas are too variable, so we kind of do have to rely on goodwill sometimes.

I wouldn’t begrudge someone a wee when they drop off a parcel and mine is only accessible by trapsing through the house.

That’s so nice! My mum knew her old postie so well that she would always say: “If you need to spend a penny just ask, you’re always welcome.” And in the summer she’d order extra Magnums as she knew they were the ice cream that postie liked (no time for a cup of tea but ice creams are portable!). My parents moved three years ago but mum and the postie are still friends on Facebook!

What about it makes you feel 'queasy'?

Don’t listen to the people who say you should stop ordering so much. We get deliveries about 4 days a week 🤦‍♀️ DH is a right shopaholic 😂 Not once has anyone ever asked to use the loo. If you set a safe place she’ll probably still ask so you’re just going
to have to say no I’m afraid. Your house, your rules.

I.hope you make it clear to people who quote to do work for you that a toilet is not included in the deal, so they can add a chunk extra on to cover the inconvenience?

She really needs to plan her need for the loo so it can take place at a coffee shop/McDonald's/home/at the depot. Easier said than done possibly. But she mustn't get into the habit of 'saving it' knowing she can use yours.

I know the poor blokes go in bottles but I guess what do the women do?

I guess you have to keep the door of it shut at the time she might come, and say someone's in there?
She can't just wait hopping on the doorstep surely?

@BillieWiperHow to say you don't live in a rural area without saying that you don't live in a rural area!

No I just let them know when they are here as it’s a HA property so I don’t get to speak to anyone in advance to book anything. It’s never been a problem nobody has minded

I understand your reasoning but I hope you've asked the cafe? Bit cheeky if you're letting the tradie go begging favours, when he has no other options.

Probably means they're less likely to help delivery drivers in their hour of need, if businesses have to accommodate anyone working locally tbh.

Our local village church is always open in the daytime and it has loos anyone can use...... Amazon drivers and anyone else who is desperate should look for the local open church. But don't be a skinflint. Put a small donation in the offering box to help pay for loo paper and cleaning stuff 😀