Is your family is snobby when it comes to homemade dishes

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My in laws are very snobby when it comes to homemade food.

When I say snobby they wouldn’t judge a single mum relying on something pre made for example but when it comes to the stuff they eat they massively favour homemade stuff. I just find it amusing tbh! They all get VERY excited when someone brings over homemade bread and desserts. Wanting to know what recipe/method you chose. All birthday cakes are homemade. I swear a cake from Tesco would sit completely unopened in the fridge.

There is one vegetarian family member and my sister in law is going to make an entire veggie wellington just for him. I suggested just getting something from M&S and she completely baulked at the very idea. Tbf everyone is a good cook.

It definitely stems from MIL. Who grows her own food, makes chutneys etc. They would never dream of shoving in an Indian selection from Waitrose as starters like my family doesx

I just find it fascinating tbh.

Anyone else have family like this? Even croissants are homemade!

They don't sound snobby from your description, they just sound like they enjoy cooking and appreciate home-made food.

My family were like this growing up and tbh I much prefer homemade. If there is a stall at a fair or something like that I would always choose the homemade cake over the shop bought, I feel it tastes so much better and just feels more wholesome. I feel like there’s a big move towards this now due to the heightened awareness of upfs. I am impressed they make their own croissants though, not sure I would have the patience for that!

I wouldn’t call it “snobby.”

What’s snobby about giving your food some love and attention?

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I'll happily eat food at other people's houses but I always cook from scratch because it is tastier, less expensive and has less sugar, additives etc.

Most of my family does the same and we are all interested to share recipes. We all enjoy food.

I don't like most shop bought cakes - too sickly - so I'd probably give them to the local youth club. I wouldn't throw them away.

My other sil who also married in thinks it comes from a place of insecurity. I wouldn’t necessarily say that. But it’s amusing that she’s psychoanalysed this compulsive desire for homemade food.

Homemade is generally much nicer so I don’t blame them. I do eat pre-packaged food but definitely prefer homemade.

I just think there are some things where shop bought is just as nice - spinach and artichoke dip as an example. I have no idea why my ILs would bother!

But home made cakes and bread are just nicer!

I find a few choice shop bought things are better/ no worse than home made (Christmas pudding, houmous and chip shop chips spring to mind), but that's fairly rare.

If someone is a good cook, homemade food generally is nicer than shop-bought - there's nothing snobby about appreciating that, surely?

I'd much rather eat (for example) a slice of home-baked cake or bread than something made in a factory.

Homemade croissants certainly demonstrate commitment to the 'cooking from scratch' cause!

I don’t see it as snobby at all. Homemade is definitely better

It's mainly an issue of time isn't it? Are these home-cooking people also doing full-time jobs, most of the housework, shopping and childcare? I think it's a bit nasty to be judging someone for bringing something shop-bought.

I recognise this family. I think I married into it!

I'll always remember meeting DH's family for the first time for a buffet and offered to bring desserts.

I rocked up with 2 Sainsbury's taste the difference puddings, and they remained firmly untouched!

Makes me chuckle but at the time I couldn't work out what I'd done wrong.

Op, it isn't a compulsive desire for homemade food.

I love my ds and want him to eat healthily. I've already had cancer once and am advised by the NHS to eat 30 different fruit & veg a week to optimise my immune system.

So I cook from scratch but I'm equally happy to go to a decent restaurant that does the same.

I think the term you might be looking for is “foodie” not snobby 🤦🏽‍♀️

I love to cook and experiment and know what we are eating, and did as a single mum struggling. I’d be really upset if I thought my in laws thought I was somehow a snob for it.

Homemade is much nicer. A really nice loaf of homemade bread is an amazing thing. My nicest food memories involve butter slowly melting into homemade bread still warm from the oven.

Homemade baking just is nicer, though. That’s not snobbery.

Nothing sounds snobby, or insecure. They just sound like people who enjoy food and cooking and have an interesting in it.

The judgy one here is you.

My family definitely infinitely prefer home made food, for us, it's aroha (love) and care. It's the fun of swapping recipes, talking about the whole process (had to go to three, yes, three bloody supermarkets to get the right ginger, can you BELIEVE it?!).

On the other hand I unfortunately found out that the shop bought baked goods and desserts in this country are bloody gorgeous, and I love the sodding ready meals too. . .

I’m like this. I just generally prefer things I’ve made myself. Or that are homemade. A cake from Tesco etc isn’t nearly as nice.

Nothing sounds compulsive or snobby about them. They are more interested in homemade food and enjoy it. It's just a preference. And an entirely unremarkable one.

But nothing in the OP suggests that her relatives do judge people for bringing something shop-bought, she just says that they are enthusiastic when people bring home-made food over, and that she thinks they wouldn't want to eat a Tesco cake. Both of which seem fair enough to be honest.

This doesn't sound like snobbery to me, it's people who can cook and enjoy food. PIL are coming for Christmas they are vegetarian everyone eldest isn't, I will make them a roasted veg blue cheese filo Wellington thing I have made before and they love. Everyone else gets a home cooked meal, I wouldn't treat them differently. Dips and things are often so easy to make and do taste better, they're also not full of preservatives/sugar

From your first post, it isn't your SIL who looks down on them for preferring home-made food, it's you. I've never heard of anyone putting people down for making their own food tbh. It should be them looking down on you for preferring mass-produced crap.