To refuse to go to party week before Christmas

[Coffeesoon]

It's mil birthday a week before Christmas and shes having a party. Meal out in restaurant with 25/ 30 people. We have been sick for Christmas before and i dont want to be sick this year or the kids.
I dont want to incase we pick something up in a busy restaurant, dh thinks im.being ridiculous. Sil has form for bringing her kids to things when they clearly have coughs and colds without telling us and then giving it to my kids!
Am I over thinking this and should I just go? Dh thinks its not an option to not go and that he and the kids will be going whether I go or not.

sticking the oar in

I love a mixed metaphor 😄

I’m aware. I’m not eliminating risk I’m reducing it. So I might come into contact with 20 people instead of 60 people yes I can still get ill but the lower numbers of people the chance reduces. Do you understand probability?

This. If you don’t go will you all be self isolating in the run up to xmas?

Organising your social calendar on the basis that you MIGHT catch something seems a bit miserable to me.

@Coffeesoon - don’t take any notice of the doom spreader posters. The irony of one saying avoid the mainstream media! Of course they are leaning into “story of the day” which is flu.

A rump of people (and of course they sit hunched on social media all day) just luuurrrrved lockdown and for it to happen again - heaven! Fwiw I am “clinically vulnerable” and quite germ phobic so I am not gung ho about things, just moderate.

The isolation thing doesn’t work unless you all stay away from all people - in order to avoid Christmas illness - since last week at least. Just missing mil’s birthday but not school and crowded shops is daft!

btw the flu vaccine is very different from the initial covid vaccines. Not having the flu vaccine is foolhardy - flu is not a bad cold.

If you don't want to go, don't go , but this is a poor excuse.

Germs won’t be so picky will they? Ooh miss that one out as she isn’t socialising!

@firstofallimadelight

understand probability, yes, but just going to work and doing the essentials and no socialising and nothing fun just for the sake of one day, Christmas Day, sounds very dull to me. Life is for living.

Yeah I get that, im not judging anyone.
I did go on my Xmas work do (end nov) I met friends for a catch up last week and we saw Santa at weekend . This weekend family are visiting. It’s just the week coming up to Xmas we stay in and tbh it’s nice to have a bit of chill time (and organising time ) before the mayhem starts. And it’s not one day for us, Xmas eve my gran has everyone round so I see all my cousins and catch up. Xmas day my family comes to us. Then we go away with in laws 26-29. Then we are spending new years at my DDs. So it’s like a week of fun.