Wearing pyjamas around the house?

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Just a lighthearted one!

At weekends I always come downstairs in my PJs, have a slow morning and a cuppa before getting ready for the day. And in the evenings, once I’ve put my daughter to bed, I normally get straight back into my PJs (as long as I’m not expecting company!) and then go downstairs to watch TV/relax until it’s actually time to go up to bed.

My friend seems to think this is weird and that pyjamas should only ever be worn in the bedroom. For clarity, we’re not talking anything revealing — just long bottoms and a T-shirt, the comfy kind you could answer the door in if the postman knocked!

Surely I’m not the only one who does this? Is wearing PJs around the house really that unusual?

Would love to know what everyone else does!

Totally normal! I would always get changed for the day, even if staying at home (although I'd never stay home all day unless really ill). I like doing kids bedtime in my PJs, it makes me feel more relaxed

If you want to do that in your own home you can. It's totally up to you.

Personally, I find it a bit off, so your friend isn't the only person who thinks this. I read all these threads about people in 'pj's' all day long and can't really get my head round it. It makes me think of people in hospital. Even on old people's homes they get the residents dressed in the morning.

I have loose trousers I wear at home but with normal jumpers/ shirts. Maybe in my head these 'pj's' are traditional type pyjamas and in fact they're not.

If I come home and I'm not going back out I will often put pyjama bottoms on. I wouldn't get up and stay in the same pyjamas I've slept in though, and I always have a shower/ bath.

It's nobody's business what you wear in your own home.

I have loose trousers I wear at home but with normal jumpers/ shirts. Maybe in my head these 'pj's' are traditional type pyjamas and in fact they're not.

This is a good point. My PJs dont look like traditional PJs they look more like lounge wear/slim joggers so they wouldn't actually be much different to loose trousers really

I have been known to change into “day pyjamas”. I’m still relaxed but feeling refreshed, Your friend sounds like the kind of person who relaxes in jeans and a bra. Weirdo.

What the hell is your friend on about!?
PJs all day some days. I do have a shower and clean my teeth and that but some long lazy weekends the pjs stay on all day.

I didn't mean to imply that you personally were. This comes up on Mnet all the time. Not answering the door if not expecting anyone kind of thing. I've never lived like that, not would I want to. I do live in a very safe place though and would always advocate for vulnerable people to put safety measures in place.
If a mate doesn't answer the door, I ring them. If sick -offer help. In bath, leave. Having sex? Leave. It's not a big thing.
These are close friends btw not people I hardly know.

Thanks and yes, I think friends dropping by is great.

Yep. Pack of biscuits or bottle in hand as appropriate to the time of day. Love it.

I don’t lounge around downstairs in the same thing I’m going to sleep in which I think it what ‘anti PJ’ folks assume is happening.
I’d be cold in PJs downstairs but I can usually be found wearing a version of cosy trackies and jumper/hoodie when at home which is basically the same thing

Where did you get paranoia from?

Many people would find it rude if someone just turned up at their door expecting to be let in.

I would.

But then I don't answer the door if I'm not expecting anyone or anything. I know MN can't seem to wrap their head around that but I know plenty of people who don't.

And not because they're paranoid or anxious but because why would they?

I wear very comfortable loungewear around the house and then change into pjs or tshirt before bed.

I can’t understand how you can cook, clean and sleep in the same clothes so maybe your friend meant the same. Its not about pjs it’s about change. DH sometimes uses one of his pjs as a loungewear but he won’t sleep in it he will changes into another before bed.

Because it might be a friend? Someone who's broken down? A bunch of flowers? Why would you not answer the door? Interested.

I certainly don’t consider it rude if someone pops round to say hello. Friends don’t need appointment to visit.

Cup of coffee or glass of wine provided too, depending on time of day. It’s a friendship house.

I wear pjs so often my dog gets excited when I put my bra on because she thinks we’re going for a walk

If im in the house im in lounge clothes. If i know im going out, ill get dressed but nope, lounge wear or pj's

Which is fine.

You do you.

But it's also fine that other people and think and do differently.

But the default on MN seems to be like you did, not accept differences and assume people who don't welcome people just turning up at their door as weird, paranoid or not living in a 'friendship house' or somehow not having friends.

I have a wide circle of very close friends.

But none of us just turn up at each other's houses without checking its convenient first. Seems basic courtesy to me.

None of us are "paranoid" and we all have active, healthy social lives.

Juts because people are different to you doesn't mean they are paranoid and friendless which is what some people are implying here

I didn’t suggest anyone should do what they are not comfortable with! I merely stated what l did. Where did l say that others should do the same as me?

Because none of my friends would ever just turn up. In the world of mobile phones there's no need to.

And someone broken down? A) not my problem and what would they be expecting me to do to help anyway? B) I live on the second floor so there'd be 10 flats to go to before getting to mine on the buzzer system.

Flowers? I don’t know anyone who would send me anything without first telling me to expect something and if I'm expecting a delivery, I answer the door.

So I don't see why I would answer the door if not expecting someone or something. It's 99.9% guaranteed to be someone or something I don't want - JWs, scammers, political candidates.

I didn’t use the word “paranoid”, l merely explained what l personally did. At no time did l criticise anyone else for what they did.

Last Sunday I kept my Pyjamas on all day, did housework and prepped a roast dinner. As the roasties went in the oven (at 4pm), I went and had a bath and put clean ones on. We even had dinner on a tray. It was bliss after a very busy Saturday of two Choir performances followed by a late night Christmas party. Plus, there’s things like this I never discuss with people anyways.

I feel grotty in pjs when I’m up and about so will always get dressed when I’m up and only put them on when I’m going to bed.

If I have a bath in the evening I”ll put them on but I’m not really a bath fan.

I also have bouts of insomnia and have found that I need to keep clear sleep/awake boundaries - pjs = sleep and my brain goes a bit haywire if I don’t get dressed/put pjs on too early.

Just don’t understand the query or why it’s thought this would be odd?

PJ’s are my standard. I now wfh the majority of the time and pj’s are my ‘work uniform’. I have a top on hand in case I need to be on camera for a meeting, then I do a quick switch and switch back the minute the meeting is finished. I then put on another fresh pair of pj’s for bed so I can start the cycle again😁.

If I need to go to the shops of a day, I change into regular clothes and then change back the minute I get back in the door as I find pj’s more comfy. If I have to duck to get something of an evening I just stay in pj’s as I am beyond giving a fuck. I do wear ‘proper’ clothes if going out for dinner or the theatre though.