To not apologise to sibling

[Bearingsbear20]

It's another inheritance one!

My sibling and I had a verbal agreement that I would take DF's whole estate when he died (as I'm the only one named in his will, sibling isn't as they don't get on, they keep saying he was abusive when they were a child etc. which is stupid as he's pleasant now) and my sibling would take DM's.

DM died earlier this year somewhat unexpectedly and didn't leave any legal will. We then found a draft will naming sibling as taking the bulk of the estate and leaving me a small remainder. This tallies with what DM told me i would be left, as she phoned me up before she died and told me she was trying to 'make it fair' between us.

Initially I told sibling to sort out all the administrative stuff for DM's estate as I was about to have my first DC and was too busy to take it on. Sibling initially was communicative, let me know what was happening. Involved me in the funeral etc.

After a few weeks I told sibling I wanted 50% of mum's estate as per the law since there was no valid will and that i would buy sibling out of their share of the house. Sibling then mostly stopped talking to me, I couldn't find out what was happening with the estate etc. and we argued several times. Sibling was insisting I was doing the wrong thing for pushing for my 50% and they kept mentioning DF's will, which is unreasonable IMO and I find it sad they are talking about this before he's even passed. Sibling wanted to put DM's house up for auction and said they'd be in touch when the estate admin was sorted and would follow the intestacy rules. Then they started selling off assets e.g. the car without consulting me.

I went and got a solicitor to send a letter to my sibling as I wasn't getting any detail about the estate and they were refusing to have me buy out 50% of their share of the house. The solicitor sent a few letters and eventually now sibling has agreed I can buy out their share.

They're now not talking to me though and have refused to see me over Christmas etc. until I 'acknowledge what I've done'. I don't see that I've done anything wrong, I've just pushed for my legal inheritance, and sibling cut contact first. So AIBU?

The sibling is the executor. And it is they who are selling the property at auction.

Was it you OP who wrote that other thread "I dog-sat for my Granny when she went to visit her dying friend and then changed the locks and have been squatting for ten months. AIBU for not forgiving her for falling out with me!?"

Love the way you are ignoring the feedback. 🐂💩

This is a typical thread where the OP seeks validation gets told by majority they are being unreasonable yet still decides to stick their fingers in their ears and say they are following the legal due process

@Bearingsbear20 very glad your no relative of mine your money grabbing and selfish and clearly have zero moral compass if you think it's acceptable to ignore your DM draft will and think you are the one being wronged here.

I hope your behaviour is a permanent wake up call to your sister. Definitely don't need people like you in her life!

yes but op wants her 50 and to buy the other 50% from sibling based on auction price

I find it very hard to believe that the rest of your family think you are doing the right thing. Unless there's some huge backstory you're not telling us. Your posts are increasingly trying to justify your actions and it's not working. I hope your mum comes back to haunt you.

How utterly convenient for you. You sound grabby and entitled. Shame on you.

The sibling ( executor) would have agreed or set a price for the auction to sell at.
The OP has no say over the fact the house is being sold at auction, nor the price.

Btw how is a verbal agreement legally binding?

It isn't.

But previous post you’re selling for a profit

no, most of the family think I'm doing the right thing. When I own the house I'll be renovating it and selling it at a profit more than likely. There's a lot of relatives who think sibling is BU for getting so upset over it and not talking to me and DF anymore.
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Keep your story straight, it’s embarrassing!!

But you said you were going to flip it and make a profit ?
Your behaviour is appalling.

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History shows us that's the best way to get to 1000 posts! Maybe there's a record attempt here.

Nasty.

this is either a reverse or you're a twat, I cant decide

God you’re horrid. Your siblings is better off without you & your nasty father

You've written your opening post almost like a "reverse" - that is it's really clear from the opening post that you completely backtracked very abruptly on your ling standing verbal agreement with your sibling (and also that your sibling did all the work sorting your DM's estate alone, on the understanding you were sticking to the agreement).

It's strange that you've worded your opening post to so clearly explain that you very abruptly backed out of your ling standing agreement, without so much as a new reason (desperately needing money suddenly or similar) yet are doubling down on it in later posts.

You are not doing anything illegal, but ethically on very dodgy ground considering how abruptly you seem to have done a complete U-turn at your sibling's expense.

You had a verbal agreement that your sibling would take DM's estate and you would take the DF's. Now you are taking legal action for 50% of DM's will and don't think your sibling should have any of DFs or take legal action for 50% on that when the time comes? AND you are minimizing their lived experience with your father, dismissing your sibling's feelings by saying that your father is pleasant now?

No wonder they don't want to speak to you! You are a HORRIBLE sister.

Embarrassing isn't it 🙄🤢

You're coming across as a money grabbing bitch - and BVVU

I didn't think so,as we could all say anything for a bit of inheritance 😔

Exactly. My parents were divorced and my mum had remarried. Mad my dad died very suddenly and didn’t leave a will, so my brother and I inherited his estate. It took us all of two minutes to agree that everything shoukd be split three ways with our mum. The fact that my mum had left my dad, my brother had lived overseas for 20 years by that time, and I was the person who spent over two hours driving every week to spend the day with my dad was irrelevant because sharing the money was the right thing to do and was what he would have wanted.

Sorry you sound really scummy.

I imagine your family are agreeing with you just for an easy life.

You had an agreement with your one and only sibling and you went back on it.

You're putting money above family.

Good luck, you'll need it.

This can't be a real thread. No one can be this immoral. And I obviously mean you op, not your sibling.