Throwing Christmas cards on the floor is rude

[TheTamerShrew]

AIBU?

My child wrote a card to each child in the class. I am proud of her, as she has sen, so this takes more effort than most. She made the decision herself and wrote them all herself.

Two children in the class threw them on the floor. They apparently don't celebrate Christmas, but these were not religious cards, just fun cards with seasonal decorations on them.

AIBU to think that basic manners should apply and children should accept cards gracefully?

ok, crack on
If I have broken MNHQ guidelines then I am sure they will tell me

I do not know these children. My daughter decided to write cards on her own accord, with no input from me. She wrote cards to the entire class, so that nobody will feel left out, which made perfect sense to her.

That doesn't sound like an apology. You are clearly rule breaking: please read the site rules and take notes. I suggest informing yourself.

Once again, just because what has happened does not fit in with your narrative, does not mean that you have any right to cast aspersions. Troll hunting is banned.

Your daughter sounds very kind, writing cards out for each classmate so no one would feel left out.
The kids that threw the cards on the floor are ignorant, but I would tell your girl not to worry about it, the ones who accepted and appreciated the cards are the ones she should concentrate on.

And next year, I hope she remembers not to include everyone.

Thank you. Yes we will definitely have to rethink how this is done next year, though she won't be at this school anymore.

Having SEN, she previously experienced that everyone received something apart from her, so she was mindful to include everyone.

It doesn't sound like an apology because its not

That makes it even worse

Hope they get pulled up on it, surely it is quite a nasty and serious thing to say

Just as i expected

Get your kids to a better school

Here comes the dripfeed. Just as predicted.

Ah, and here it is.

I guess perhaps you felt you were too subtle at the beginning and weren’t getting enough of the type of responses you were looking for, so made sure to add that last sentence at the end.

Like clockwork!

@TheTamerShrewthis is a great learning opportunity for your daughter. Giving something doesn’t obligate the receiver to act in any particular way. Nobody has to accept something if they don’t want to. Better that than make yourself “that” mum with the school.

The school is addressing this, honestly, I was pretty shocked. Unfortunately, there are people here who prefer to call me a liar rather than acknowledge what has has happened.

It was more that your agenda was clear at the beginning. And instead of being direct, you just alluded to it, and pretended you were just bothered by the rudeness of throwing the cards on the floor. It was disingenuous.

Anyway, offensive slurs should be dealt with, so I hope the school does so robustly and that your daughter is ok.

The children were rude, for whatever reason, but this isn’t because of religion. Some people, including kids, are just rude and mean. It’s not the most pleasant lesson to learn but it is an important one. Your daughter now knows that these people aren’t worth the effort she’s gone to.

Some children, and adults, have just been bought up with no manners. 🤷‍♀️

Not much you can do about it really.

I grew up in an incredibly multicultural city and had classmates of all faiths. The only religion who wouldn’t and couldn’t accept Christmas cards were Jehovahs witnesses. Muslims, Jews, Sikhs and Hindus all joined in with giving and receiving cards. We knew we couldn’t give the Jehovahs cards so didn’t.

With this in mind, throwing someone’s card on the floor is rude as hell irrespective of whether you celebrate Christmas or not.

No, I just refuse to apologise when I have done anything wrong
I hope you were less offensive when you discussed this with school and they agreed with you completely and agreed to address it as a matter of urgency, therefore totally vindicating you
Well done

I think the best practical thing you can do is post on Mumsnet more often.

I'm not sure why it is, exactly, but this sort of thing seems to happen mostly to those who are newly-registered.

Yes it’s horrible and quite arrogant behaviour