Throwing Christmas cards on the floor is rude

[TheTamerShrew]

AIBU?

My child wrote a card to each child in the class. I am proud of her, as she has sen, so this takes more effort than most. She made the decision herself and wrote them all herself.

Two children in the class threw them on the floor. They apparently don't celebrate Christmas, but these were not religious cards, just fun cards with seasonal decorations on them.

AIBU to think that basic manners should apply and children should accept cards gracefully?

YANBU, utterly utterly rude

Most people celebrate Christmas in this country, clearly these children hadnt been taught to respect that. They couldve just accepted the cards said thank you took them home and let the parents bin them.

For some children, the Christmas holidays mean the rmno presents/tree, an increase in drug/alcohol misuse at home, an increase in domestic violence, having to find places to go all day every day because they are not wanted in their homes.

Some children have SEN.

Some children come from lovely homes with courteous parents who have tried to teach their children manners, but are still rude.

There's a myriad of possible explanations.

You have no way of knowing which apply to these children. And it doesn't really matter. Teach your daughter not to measure herself by the responses of a minority and that the important bit was the care and kindness she put in, which says so much more about her than these kids' response. And then move on.

I would say pick your battles. Your daughter chose to write them, that’s fine. Personally I think it’s environmentally damaging, but that’s my view and yours in yours.

A few kids chucked them. Either they were protesting as they don’t celebrate Christmas or they were being cheeky/rude/silly depending on their intention.

It wasn’t polite of them but they’re kids and not all kids behave how we’d like them to at all times.

There is no evidence that these children have sent. Most likely they are just rude and poorly brought up.

I also reject the sentiment that all badly behaved children must have seen, and Sen is an excuse for bad behaviour. It is far too simplistic, and sets low expectations.

I will raise with the school regarding the rudeness, any suggestions for how? My daughter has said they have done this to others, together with making inappropriate statements.

The children who threw the cards on the floor are ignorant. Even kids with special needs should have been taught basic manners by 10/11....but they were probably just nasty little sods, with no respect for others feelings.

“Don’t celebrate Christmas”?🤔

@CurlewKate mmm,that crossed my mind also.

How do we know the school hasn't dealt with this anyway?

Good for your dd. Those dc are rude and ignorant

What were the inappropriate statements?

Jehovah's Witnesses ?????!

Maybe the children are upset by all the fuss over Christmas which they don’t get to celebrate. Or maybe they just don’t get the point in Christmas cards or understand the significance of what it meant to your DD. They’re still quite young, so yes it’s rude and they should know better but kids often make mistakes. What did the teacher say?

A bratty thing to do, no excuses.

Some people who are religious (religions that aren't Christianity) find it offensive to receive Christmas cards or presents. Even if they are not "religious" cards, a seasonal card given in December is still likely to be intended and taken as a part of a Christian holiday. Most religious people are very understanding about a kind thought and well wish, even if it's relating to a religion that isn't yours, but some find it offensive. As a teacher, it's a tricky time - I've had as many parents complain that their child has received or was asked to make a Christmas card (when religion was not previously disclosed) as have complained that their child was left out or singled out when given an alternative activity!

I totally understand why it would have been horrible for your child, but as an adult, try not to be too judgy about it. They're children, and living in a country that loudly marks Christian festivals in schools and throughout society whilst wholly ignoring or barely acknowledging theirs, and it is bound to bring up some complicated feelings that 10 year olds may not be equipped to deal with in a mature way.

Could very well be (the parents who objected to Christmas card craft in the school I taught in, were). Could also be:

Islam
Sikh
Hindu
Buddhist
Pagan
Scientologist
Atheist

Tell your dd that sadly some children don’t have good manners or know how to be kind. But she’s very lucky because you taught her both of those things. Tell her to forget about how those children behaved, there will always be people like that.

Rude behaviour by the kids but definitely don’t raise it with the school. Don’t be THAT parent. Kids that do that sort of thing will already be well known to staff for poor behaviour. They don’t need your moaning as extra admin to deal with. And your dad doesn’t need/want to be the child of the moany parent! You’ll be singling her out to be picked on/laughed at by those kids.

Hmm.

@WeNeedToTalkAboutIT aaw no Satanists ,how disappointing.👹

Jewish?

Mountain and molehill (though I'm sure you'll be back shortly to dripfeed something they've done which is much worse)
Out of 20-30 kids, two were a bit rude. It doesn't need 'addressing'. Just tell your DD not to pay them any mind and and to remember the majority of the class who I'm sure appreciated it.

What do you want to happen how would you like this resolved, your dd gave Christmas card 2 kids were rude not all children have "beautiful manners" and it would probably benefit your Dd if she knew that not everyone appreciates her.

I agree with other posters that many children will not celebrate Christmas and may be unable to accept a Christmas card. But unless the children concerned have significant special needs, at that age, they should be able to explain why they can’t accept cards and nothing excuses not having the most basic of manners. To throw cards that they have given on the floor is really rude and should have been addressed by the teacher.

It is not all about your child, to an adult they were rude but what now?