I’m not going to have a present (or at least not a thoughtful one!) am I right to be annoyed?

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Basically my DH delayed buying my present (although I didn’t think it would sell out) and now there’s nothing else to get me!

I get beauty freebies from work and there’s nothing else I need not want.

so I’m stuck ;(

Just to flip this on its head, I am the same this year and actually felt incredible grateful that I am so content in life I can't think of a single thing I want or need.

Felt way more important than having something to unwrap.

Steer clear of the alhambra, they're very much done now. So so faked, like the cartier love bracelet. Think it's only teenagers buying new ones these days!

Agreed.

That’s not really the case (to an extent) it’s just that I wear things til they literally have no life in them. Case in point these converse… most people would get new ones (water filters through the sole) but I don’t think they’re done yet!

most of the thinks I own are a mix of things from the past 25 years.

Love it!

Have you looked on eBay, vinted, Depop, poshmark etc for the same poster? If they had several of them I bet some will be bought for resale.

New converse for when the old pair give up the ghost??

The thing is….. I still have the black leather pair that I bought 3 years ago. Plenty of life still left in them, so I reckon I truly will only need a replacement in maybe 3-5 years?

I have converse from when I was 18, and still wear them! (In fact my previous pair of black ones before these ones were from that time). So in 20+ years I’ve only had two pairs of the same type that I do wear heavily.

Oh that's a shame. I hope you can think of something else you'd like.

It's not really that "meaningful" imo if you have to tell him what to get in the first place.

To me, it's the thought and the effort that counts - there's plenty of time left for him to make or buy you a gift, let your DH with his years of knowledge of you, and the things you love, choose something he thinks you'll enjoy.

But your title bemoans the fact that you're not getting a "thoughtful" present. It sounds as if that is nothing new and is, in fact, something you have taken a decision about. Moreover, having made that decision and your strategy having failed this year, I think you'll just have to lump it/buy something yourself/put up with something you will inevitably judge as substandard from your husband.

So you're just being silly/stubborn for no reason.

Seems the main band snow patrol have opened for that are well known is U2

about the post - the whole point of presents is someone knows you and has thought about you to pick something, not to just buy from a list. I would hate it if I had to tell my husband what to buy for me

Is there any chance he got it and is going to surprise you?

and I would agree with that sentiment if the parents throughout the years hadn’t been useless/pointless and not necessarily super cheap.

ive done list in past years as somebody else suggested, but the only thing that would have been nice is makeup but I now get it for free!

i can’t name his band as it would be a giveaway! But they had their own Peel session ;)

Hasn’t everyone?!?😂

I never get Christmas or birthday presents because I don't see the point in people spending money on me.

I always buy well for others and that's where the fun is anyway so I really don't see why you'd even want a present in the first place never mind why you'd give not getting anything a second thought. You sound a tad selfish and self absorbed.

These Spotify things are utterly ridiculous 🤣

Spa day without him, new converse, or a good book and a box of chocolates all seem like reasonable options. If he won’t not accompany you on a spa day if that’s what you want for Christmas that sounds somewhat controlling. It sounds like you have a lot of rules in your head (and/or relationship) that aren’t actually making you happy and that you could maybe let go of.

It's the 9th of December. Over 2 weeks until Christmas. The men in my family are usually still shopping on Christmas Eve!

Well if you have everything you want then don't have a present, simple surely? Christmas is for kids, if you want a fuss making of you then wait until your birthday. I've not had Christmas presents for decades, it makes Christmas way more relaxed and enjoyable. Just enjoy your Christmas without needing presents, savour your good fortune!

I wouldn't be 'happy with a box of chocolates or a nice scarf'. Honestly, the people on here have such low standards and then wonder why their husbands treat them like dirt. Because you let them!!

You sound like a martyr.

Pahahahaha I’m sure if anyone I knew in rl saw this they’d think these were mine 🤣🤣. I am exactly the same.

You sound entitled and painful op, I actually feel sorry for your husband.