Do you update your OH when you are out for the night?

[Candykitten0173]

My DP rarely updates me throughout the night if he is out for the night, we have DC. This means I often have no idea what time he’s coming home and he just rocks up without any pre message to say he’s coming back.

I wouldn’t say I’m angry or anything I just find it bizarre as I am always one to just sent a courtesy text to give an update or say I’m on the way back.

AIBU to think this is unusual behaviour in a relationship with kids? Or are we just different people?

My dh texts me about a million times if he goes to a hospital appointment nevermind a night out that he's not done in years (he's disabled and not working atm unless these meds work).

Last bus back from localish big town is 10pm and he can see where I'm at on life360.

Well, doesn’t it depend on what time you get home at? DH isn’t going to be awake at 3 am to read a text from me saying I’m in a taxi.

Giving your other half a rough indication of when you’ll be home seems like a common courtesy. If you’re usually home at ten but your partner wakes up at 3AM without even a a text from you and realises you’re not home they’re going to worry!

Also, in the extremely unlikely event that something has happened to you on the way home, there’s at least one person who’ll notice before the morning and be able to contact emergency services.

I wouldn't want regular updates. A text if plans change or when on the way home is sufficient and that's what I do. I might text if something has happened that I want to share but I wouldn't expect a reply necessarily.

OP clearly you do want updates and it bothers you not to get them, but your husband isn't wrong or unreasonable not to do so.

if you would care to read all my posts in the thread you’d understand what I meant.