Fell over at work Christmas party

[Onslow1985]

Today is the morning after of a very boozy work Christmas party and I need a good talking to. The day was filled with wine and Prosecco and not much food! I’ve recently started a new team and I’m a few years away from qualifying as a solicitor. I’m 37 and other women in the team are the same age and have children. I’ve sadly had 5 miscarriages - I’ve been asked several if I have kids and why not and it was on my mind that I would be asked last night so probably numbing it with alcohol. The whole team were also really drunk and I remember a vague conversation about children and one the girls pulling me to one side and saying sorry & that she is also struggling to conceive. I also lost my balance on a high stool, slipped and took a solicitor down with me. He’s been really kind and told me to forget about it and don’t worry but I can’t stop panicking. My manager had went home by this point so didn’t see but I am so worried about my unprofessional drunken behaviour. Desperately fighting the urge to text every individual on the team with an apology. Am I wasting my energy on this? I’m hoping people won’t give it an extra thought. Dreading work on Monday….

Just laugh it off but going forward always consider that work events are exactly that, work and act accordingly.

Indeed…
Why did you imagine the whole party would be hell bent on asking you about your children or why you don’t have them, op?!
If it’s an issue, it’s an issue in the office as well, surely?

OP I really think it’s time for you to get some support to stop drinking. Real life, serious, professional support. You’ve shared a number of stories over the last few years on here putting yourself in dangerous situations as well as embarrassing ones. You’re getting blackout drunk sometimes and scared you’ve done something serious you can’t remember. It’s so, so dangerous. You need to seek professional help to stop drinking completely.

Don't text. See how things are on Monday. Sorry for your losses x

As a paralegal, a trainee and a NQ, I fell over drunk at the Christmas party every year. Now, as a Partner, I have to leave the party early so all the juniors can get happily wankered without worrying about me seeing them.

You’ll be fine OP. Just style it out.

I have been told that in Scotland, ‘had went’ is how people say ‘’had gone’. It sounds grammatically awful, but it’s an accepted form of dialect I think. I would not be impressed if a lawyer wrote like this in professional documents however.

I would expect a professional solicitor to use standard English. Ultra clear and precise communication is the bread and butter of lawyers, surely? I’d equally wince if, say, an English teacher made a howler - because SPAG is their stock in trade.

Most other jobs - no problem.

I fell over on a work night out last year and I wasn't even drinking! It was dark and I missed a step.
Unlike that time I try to forget (but of course never will) when I was drunk, fell down a flight of stairs and ended up with my skirt over my head, arse on show and my boss was right behind me. Thankfully he was incredibly drunk too and it was never mentioned . I did stop drinking not long after that though.
It will soon be forgotten about OP. I'd not mention it unless someone else does and just laugh it off if they do.

Scotland’s a fairly big place. There certainly are rough streets where they shout things like that at each other.

I got drunk at office parties and did things too. Damned if I’m texting anyone or telling anyone what I did though.

Don't honest yourself. Let it go. I can understand why you'd want to clear the air but probably best just to ignore it.
I have had the occasional drunken very emotional outpouring of raw humanity, things that I would hardly ever express to myself, and the right combination of empty stomach, alcohol, good vibe, friendly conversation, and whatever else it is that causes you to not mention these private things and then you spill it, I had that too. And my situation was similar to yours, including the topic. And yes. I definitely felt that I overshared, I was very embarrassed couldn't quite exactly remember 100% what I had said but knew it was more than I would have normally,... Also wanted to clear the air and have a reset but then thought no, let's just leave it alone. And I think that was the best decision. It was never mentioned again. Best to let it lie.

Correction, my first sentence was supposed to say don't punish yourself. Voice dictation sucks and I don't know where my edit button has gotten to.

Oh bless you OP. I get it I also can' conceive this baby talk and questioning is sending me in depression. Please don't worry. They might talk for a bit but before you know it someone else will get the shits during a meeting and your problem will be water under the bridge. Trust me, these things happen all the time. You don't need to text anyone, it was an accident nothing more. You didn't strip and damced on tables. I doubt anyone will bring it up, if they do laugh it off! Don't let your brain go into overdrive over a silly incident. Lots of love, sorry for your losses.

@PudULike "'Had went' is a common phrasing in some local dialects. If you haven't heard one of those dialects before, consider that you're not comprehensively familiar with every linguistic sub-group in Britain."

So it might be, but it's not what you'd expect from a soon to be qualified solicitor. Her professionalism will be questioned if she's writing or speaking to clients using poor grammar. I'm a born and bred Bristolian but I wouldn't expect my solicitor to offer me a "gert lush" service or to address me as "me babber"!

Falling off a stool could've happened to any one of your merry colleagues. It just happened to be you this time. It'll just make you seem more human 😁

Another one of your drunken stories, get some help for yourself.

Believe it or not it was a Bank!!! Many years ago though.

I looked at your posting history OP ,after someone up thread mentioned it.You clearly have an alcohol problem,this wasn’t a one off.Years of behaving like this,I promise you it is not going to get any better.

Pick up the phone to AA and get help,it is what I did in May 2003,I have been sober since.There is help,it is free and no waiting list.If you don’t want to phone,get yourself on a Zoom meeting,there are thousands of them daily all over the World.I will be on a London meeting on Zoom later on this evening.

I don't normally criticise SPaG online but this is someone who aspires to be a solicitor who will draw up legal documents and therefore I hold them to a higher standard.

I'll mention that to the CEO and Director that were among the last to leave our work do last night in a fairly questionable state (no judgement from me, I was with them!)
The blanket 'a works event is still work' statement that gets regularly used on here simply isn't always the case.
I think a lot of mumsnetters work in very corporate environments and work is work no matter what but lots of us work for smaller businesses that don't bat an eyelid at a drunken misdemeanour on a night out!
Having said that OP sounds like she has bigger issues with alcohol and this event should probably be the least of her worries.

Totally agree with this. I worked for a City legal firm and my department's Christmas parties were so legendary that other teams begged to be invited to join in. I fell in the coat rack at our last one.

“I also lost my balance on a high stool”

And now I’m wondering if you were standing or siting on the stool

Either way, chin up. I would act completely normal and professional, just say you had a good night.

”Had went” is quite common parlance in my birthplace, Glasgow. Even if it had been a typo, no need to point it out. I see a million typos every day!

Unless you fell on to a naked penis you've got nothing to feel bad about.

This is leafy Mumsnet, not the Gorbals back streets and closes!

I don't normally criticise SPaG online

Right, stick to that then because if you keep getting deleted for it, you'll end up banned eventually.

It's arsy, it's rude and it's completely unnecessary.