Burst my friend's bubble?

[Flyingmonica]

My friend goes on about her son likely being tall - 6 foot 3 based on the UK growth chart. Would I be unreasonable in telling her that because she isn't very tall, this is unlikely to be the case and that the growth chart predictions are rubbish?

She is sold on the idea of her son being tall and her son has come to believe that too but I think that now he is approaching puberty, he may become very disappointed.

Should I just leave it be or should I give her a dose of reality?

But not to you. He's not your son so why worry?
He might be disappointed not to make six feet? And?

Also they won’t be disappointed because they won’t reach a set date and know he’s stopped growing! By the time they realise he’s got to scrape through life at a shameful 5 something they’ll have been used to him being that height for ages and realise it’s far less relevant than his Nobel prize/triple life sentence (delete as appropriate)

@Flyingmonica don't be ridiculous. Your height is fairly unimportant to anyone. Where have you got the idea that it’s a tragedy not to be tall??? Open your eyes a little.

What do you mean by why does it matter? Are you saying society is not rife with tall vs short, particularly in regards to men? Is it suddenly a surprise that people care about height?

As others have told you, with examples, it doesn't always figure that a son will be a similar height to his father.

My Dad was 5'10", my mother 5'4". My older brother is 6'1", my younger brother 5'8" and I'm 5'4".

How tall is she and how old/currently tall is he.

My Aunt is 5ft1 and Uncle 5ft10 and my cousins are 6ft and 6ft2

I am 5ft4 DH 6ft and DS is 5ft11 at 13 and rapidly approaching overtaking his Dad. His sister on the other hand is fully grown at 5ft3

the point is of course that her height chart method and your parent height measures are both equally fallible. They can both get a a
sense a prediction of what height someone could be just that is all

You should definitely tell her. Absolutely.
Obviously your opinion is very important and she will change her opinion immediately and warn her son of all the abject misery that is ahead of him due to him not reaching lofty heights.

Or you could concentrate on your own life and mind your own business instead of trying to score some bizarre point. What point that is, I have no idea because this is a very odd thing to not only think about but to also post on a public forum.

Perhaps height does 'matter' OP but I think you're missing the point here.

You want to burst your friends bubble and basically tell her the growth chart is a load of nonsense. This is a totally separate issue to the 'height matters' debate. Just leave her to her charts and her predictions and be a better friend.

I don’t care about height regardless of your insistence of it importance. You really do need to forget this nonsense.

It's a surprise that you are concerned about this scenario with your friend and her son.

I think out of the posters on this thread, your friend and you, the person most obsessed by height is you, OP.

No it wouldn't, it would come across as petty and strange.

He will end up whatever height he ends up and he can deal with his feelings, whatever they are, at that point.

Their feelings are theirs to deal with and have nothing to do with you. Let them be disappointed, if that's what's coming. They'll cope. It's fine.

It's a very odd thing to have such strong feelings about, and I mean your feelings, not theirs. Maybe work on why this annoys you so much and deal with that.

OP is clearly ITCHING to smuggly tell her "friend" that her children will not attain great heights.

Go on, OP, tell her and let us know how it goes. And let us know how the friendship goes (because you're clearly not engaging with the majority on here).

I think if you try to burst her bubble he will end up being 6’ 3” or 4” just to spite you, and to give her something to rub in your face until you are dead.

You don’t sound like much of a friend!

I’m 5ft 8, DH is 5ft 10. Growth chart uk shows DS will be circa 5ft 11. That is as I would imagine it to be. Maybe theirs is too

Burst my friend's bubble?

Quite a telling choice of words, OP…

I wonder how many other times you’ve gleefully burst her bubble.

She doesn’t even know what a frenemy she has in you.

I meant why does society think it's "better" to be tall? I'm probably a bit thick but I just don't get it.

Giving her a ‘dose’ sounds like you think she deserves some sort of punishment for having the audacity to hope / believe that her son will be tall. Why does she need a dose of reality? Why does this seem like an irritating fantasy to you that you want to stamp on?

So true. My friend’s son grew to 58ft and now has to live on an island off Orkney so he doesn’t trample any buildings

But why is it your job to say anything at all?!

You can't say you don't have an obsession and spout this together with making out you have some sort of moral duty to tell this woman and her son!

I find your reaction to your friend very unsettling. Why would you want to give a friend a dose of reality? IMO this says more about your friendship than you caring how tall her son will be. Hopefully he will go through puberty happy and healthy and become a well balanced adult - tall or not

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I’m 5.2 my sons are 6.0 and 6.3

Schadenfreude - why would you piss on someone’s bonfire - how mean 😢