Burst my friend's bubble?

[Flyingmonica]

My friend goes on about her son likely being tall - 6 foot 3 based on the UK growth chart. Would I be unreasonable in telling her that because she isn't very tall, this is unlikely to be the case and that the growth chart predictions are rubbish?

She is sold on the idea of her son being tall and her son has come to believe that too but I think that now he is approaching puberty, he may become very disappointed.

Should I just leave it be or should I give her a dose of reality?

It's just none of your business. Leave them to it.

You seem overly invested and weirdly gleeful about something that has literally no bearing on you or your life.

Can't believe you deemed this thread worthy... With friends like you, eh

What a stupid thing to get so worked up about. Who cares if she wants her kids to be tall???

I fear it would just make you look like a bit of a dick actually. Just leave it.

Again, why are you so bothered about this ? It’s a family issue for them.
Nothing to do with you at all !

You don’t seem like a great friend and you can’t predict the future. Anything you say will seem malicious.

You’re being very odd about it. Maybe he will be tall. DH is 6 foot and both his parents are less that five and a half feet. I’m 5 foot 5 and my boys are both 6 foot.

But most of all who cares. They’ll find out soon enough 🤷‍♀️

It may not depend on your friends height but perhaps the child’s father and/or family members.

my husband’s parents aren’t tall but him (6ft 1) his brother (6ft2) and even his sister (5ft 7) are all tall. Their grandparents were tall and some of their uncles also.

I’m 5ft 4 and my lads are both tall too. I have very tall cousins too.

Edit: also, both my kids don’t shoot up until they hit puberty too.

Who cares if she likes to think her son might turn out tall? So what if he reaches puberty and ends up disappointed?

Wanting to "give her a dose of reality" and "burst her bubble" makes you sound mean and petty. Leave them both alone.

PS> For what it's worth, we always thought our DD would be tall and she was always on the tall end of the centile chart. Going into puberty she was 5ft 3. Now she's 5ft 9.

You both sound a bit crackers to be honest. Being tall isn't an achievement it's just how it is.
I'm 5' 4" and dh is about 5' 9" and both sons are over 6ft and dd is about 5'10" . My mum and both my grandparents were quite tall and all dhs relatives are quite short.
It doesn't matter at all so I would keep quiet if I were you.

Time is the best fortune teller and will "burst your friend's bubble" all on its own.

Why do you feel the need to be The Sorcerer's Apprentice? It sounds as if you are unhappy that she has a hope that makes her happy.

It's strange how your friend is so eager for her son to be a certain height (it's not something that would worry me or most parents I imagine.)
What's even stranger though is that you seem so eager to disprove her prediction and bring her down.

Don't you have something more worthwhile you can focus your attention on?

I don’t think people should go on about how tall their child is or will be like it’s something to be proud of. It’s just genetics (and a bit of nutrition) nothing to boast about or be smug about.

I have a very tall son and a very short son, so this annoys me.

Oh and the growth charts underestimated their eventual heights, they’ve both surpassed the red book estimates that you get from plotting their pre-school curve, and both still growing,

Why does it matter????

The growth charts follow statistics so if he has been following a high percentile line then there is a reasonably high chance statistically he will keep on that line so could certainly be tall.

Both my sons are predicted to be 6ft1 and 6ft 2 by the charts. My daughter about 5ft 8.

Height matters to you OP, clearly.

Just keep your comments to yourself and leave your 'friend' alone. Let her look at a growth chart if she wants to. I cannot imagine ever being so invested in a friend predicted her child's height - why are you so bothered about it? Do you have a very small DS - are you worried her DS will grow bigger than yours or something?

She doesn't need your 'dose of reality.' You sound pretty mean!

You are way over invested in this- why do you even care?!

we’re another short family who have randomly produced a 6 footer. It does happen.

Yet, almost all of you are talking about your over 6 foot children or brothers and sisters. There is a hypocrisy there.

Surely you see this is overstepping the limits of your role as a friend? She's not going to magically agree and thank you. It's likely to harm your friendship and to what end? So you can possibly say I told you so at done point?

Why do you give a toss what she thinks about her kid’s height? Just let her say her piece, pretend to agree and move on. I do this all the time with people.

Height doesn’t matter! Unless you’re super shallow.
my own husband is 5’8 and both of my boys are 6ft. So what?
You sound gleeful about trying to take your supposed friend down a peg or two. Do you like her? Why exactly does this bother you so much? Do you have a son and you’re worried they won’t be tall?

I'll never understand this sort of thread.

OP: Hey everyone! I have thought of a way in which I can be cruel and spiteful to my friend for no reason! Should I do it?

MN: Er, no, probably not.

OP: You're all bastards.

It’s a bit worrying that the OP has written off any male as unattractive who doesn’t get to 6 foot.

Who cares, about any of it? If this is seriously the thing in life that irks you most, you need to get a grip.

Do you have a short son or a short partner? Why are you so spiteful at the thought of it?