Burst my friend's bubble?

[Flyingmonica]

My friend goes on about her son likely being tall - 6 foot 3 based on the UK growth chart. Would I be unreasonable in telling her that because she isn't very tall, this is unlikely to be the case and that the growth chart predictions are rubbish?

She is sold on the idea of her son being tall and her son has come to believe that too but I think that now he is approaching puberty, he may become very disappointed.

Should I just leave it be or should I give her a dose of reality?

This is a really weird thing for any of you to be hung up about.

This is true, in one of my kid’s year groups one of the tallest in the class at primary school has ended up as one of the shortest now they’re in sixth form. It really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.

My mum is 5”1, I am 5”9

My MIL is 5”4 and my OH is 6”3.

It happens!

Why on earth does it matter?

My DC is actually shorter than both parents despite looking like they would be taller than they are. They don’t care and neither does anyone else as they are still a normal height and iIt’s never caused any issues.

There are greater things to feel concerned about, although it sounds like you are not actually concerned whatsoever and tbh don’t sound like a very good friend.

Who are you to do this? Do you know for certain?

It’s a pretty mean thing to do to someone you call a friend.

I have a friend where both parents are approx 5’4” & 5’8” and they are well over 6 feet.

I have honestly never been this overly invested in the unknown height of a child!
might I suggest you get a hobby or something op so you have something to distract yourself from this non issue?!

Just leave her to her wishful thinking. This is not something you need to insert your opinion into. Say 'yeah' and dismiss it.

Op why do you care about this? 😂 neither of you know how tall he’ll be, just leave it.

Why on earth would you do that? What a strange thing to be so bothered by. You sound petty and mean. Leave her alone I’m sure she (and he son) will cope just fine if he doesn’t end up being that tall- it’s not that deep!

My brother in 6ft 2, my Mum is 5ft 4 and my Dad is 5ft 7, not sure why you would want to ‘burst her bubble’.
My 12 year old is taller than me and hasn’t started puberty yet, based on his foot size at the moment I’m hoping he’ll be tall otherwise he’ll look like he’s wearing flippers 🙈

What an unkind and unnecessary thing to want to do.
I am 5'2", husband is 5'8". Our younger son is close to 6' at 15.

Honestly you have no way of knowing what height her son will be end up.

You can do the mid parental height method or look at growth charts but neither are fool proof. Short parents can produce tall children as there are other factors in play. My friend and her husband are about the same height (171cm). As am I which is why I know how tall they are!

Her brothers and Dad however are tall and her husband is a bit of an outlier (shorter) for his family.

Their son is much taller than either of them. Not sure of his exact height but 6 foot plus.

I have no idea why this has become a thing for you two. But I suggest you let it go.

My own brother was always quite little at primary school. Neither of my parents was very tall 5'5" and 5'10". My brother however is a giant! 6'4'". And my sister is a midget (and loves it when we tall her so).

My sons dad is about 5.11 and my son is 6.3 so it’s pretty unpredictable I’d say

Boys care how tall they are or are going to be. So it matters. The UK growth charts are not good predictors, I don't think. How many of your kids ended up in the range the UK growth chart said when they were kids?

My friend's son is early puberty and I just don't see how he is going to grow to that height. He probably expects to be over 6 foot.

The other thing is this

My friend goes on about her son likely being tall - 6 foot 3 based on the UK growth chart

She's actually basing this on something involving collected data and data from her son.

The growth chart is more likely to be accurate than you just looking at her parents and saying "oh well I know better than that".

Good scientific basis for your belief there then.

Lordy.

YABU

When was the last time you took your friend out for a cocktail/coffee and cake? Genuine question.

Well my friend is 6’ 2”. His mum was. 5’ 3” and his dad was 5’ 6” so just because parapets are short doesn’t mean son won’t be much taller. Several things influence height including genes and nutrition so your prediction is just as likely to be wrong saying he won’t be that tall as your friend’s saying he will be. Either way it’s not your place to say anything

I'm 5 ft 4, DH is 5 ft 7, DS (18) is very nearly 6 ft 2. He's towered over us both for years. He's much taller than all his grandparents as well. He does have one tall uncle but that's it.

But it’s not your issue. It sounds like you just want to be spiteful.
What sort of friend does that make you ? Especially with your choice of phrase : “burst her bubble”, so you can sit back and gloat ?

Why does this bother you so much ?

You all are pretending that height does not matter. It does. I do not have an unhealthy interest in this. Is it so hard to understand that by by relying on a growth chart when he was young to set expectations about his height may cause issues? I don't even know why they have this growth chart from baby setting expectations for adult height.

It’s not something that I’d care about if a friend was saying this. How odd