Burst my friend's bubble?

[Flyingmonica]

My friend goes on about her son likely being tall - 6 foot 3 based on the UK growth chart. Would I be unreasonable in telling her that because she isn't very tall, this is unlikely to be the case and that the growth chart predictions are rubbish?

She is sold on the idea of her son being tall and her son has come to believe that too but I think that now he is approaching puberty, he may become very disappointed.

Should I just leave it be or should I give her a dose of reality?

What? What do you mean by this? Burst my bubble how?

But you have no more idea of what reality is than her?

my mum was the tallest in her class at 11 and then stopped growing. DH was 5ft4 at 14 and grew to 6ft at 18

Your notion that parental height can say what height is just as predictive as height charts so you don’t know how tall he is going to be

and more importantly why do you care

The growth charts aren’t exactly accurate anyway. At aged 3 they predicted DD’s height to be 5ft 9 (I am 5ft 8 so not improbable). She stopped growing aged 13 at 5ft 4. She’s 21 now so defo isn’t getting taller.

It’s not something that can be influenced greatly anyway. I have DS1 at 6ft (17), DS2 at 6ft 1 (almost 16) and DS3 who’s 5ft 4 ish (13). DS3 is significantly shorter than his brothers were at his age so I’m guessing he’s probably going to be 5ft 9 or 5ft 10 max. But we will see, his voice hasn’t broken yet so there’s time.

I’m curious, how tall are you? And if you’ve children how tall are they?

@Flyingmonica Have you completely exhausted all other options to piss off your friend and hurt, not only her, but her child too? If you've absolutely run the gamut off every other way to inflict sadness, then it wouldn't be at all unreasonable for you to forecast someone's genetic potential to cause hurt. Not at all. Go ahead, and report back.

If your friend isn't as hurt as you evidently want her to be, we can definitely help with ideas on how to cause pain to somebody who calls you a friend and her children. 👌

One of the kindest things you can do is just let her be. Why nit pick?

Ok. This is a LOT of data for shine apparently not being obsessive.

firstly you have no idea how tall the lad will be. We all know people with outlier dc. The young builder I have here at the moment is 6’4”. His parents are not tall. 5’2” and around 5’9. Probably taller when they were younger but not much. His siblings are average heights.

my family are short apart from one son who is 6’. Not spectacularly tall but way out if line with the rest of us.

so you really don’t have a clue. Do you have this compulsion to tell friends that their dc are extremely average intellectually too and that although they enjoy football/painting/athletics they they are not going to make it as pros?

why are you so compelled to do this. It’s weird.

Can’t believe this has gone on so long. OP, what do you want to gain from telling your friend? Because clearly you do want to gain something.
And don’t give us any more of that bollocks not setting them to be disappointed in the future. It’s completely irrelevant because it has absolutely nothing to do with you and doesn’t affect you anyway.
So just say honestly, what do you want to gain from telling her?

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Why do you care?
you don’t know how tall he will or won’t be, if he’s just turned 14 he’s got another 5 years to go before he reaches his height anyway.
My son is 6ft at 16, always knew he would be tall even though I’m 5’1 because his dad is tall and he was born long, not that it matters much.
You don’t sound like a very good friend.
Friends don’t go out if their way to burst each others bubbles.
you seem more invested in her sons height than she is, and frankly quite strange.

It's really not uncommon for children to be taller than their parents. I tower above both of mine. I'm 5'8". I tend to date guys 6' and over, but that's just because heights are complementary. I wouldn't discount a decent guy based on height.

Do you not recognise your own words? They’re in the very title of this thread.

I’m about 5 ft 4, my husband is 5 ft 10 and our 12 year old is the same height as him.. he’s always been on the top centile for height and followed it. He’s on course to be 6 ft 4.

My brother are 6 ft 4 and 6 ft 1. Mum is 5 ft 5, and dad 5 ft 9.

if does happen…

Don't be so ridiculous! You don't sound like much of a friend tbh. I'm sure whatever height her son is they will both cope, without your input.

My mum was short by my brother is 6ft6. Shoe size is a good indicator. Boys are always taller than their mothers anyway.

This is weird? Who cares about your friends sons height? He quite possibly could be tall. I know loads of people that are taller than both parents (some by quite a bit). You also need to take into account the general heights of other people in the family. Ie. DP is one of the shorter men in his family, most are over 6ft. His son is looking quite likely to be taller than him (and very much a lot taller than his mum).

No idea why there’s ever such an emphasis on men being above 6 foot. Genuinely can’t fathom this being the holy grail of height. Her DS will likely be a similar height to her DH, usually the way it goes. He might be slightly taller but unlikely to go way above unless he has some other tall members of the family.

You need to stay out of it, it’s very strange that you’re so invested.

My mum was 5ft my dad is 5ft6. I’m 5ft 8 and my son is 6ft4

Even on this thread, almost all are waxing on about their tall DC and brothers and sisters.

Because it links to the topic of your thread and people are trying to tell you your hypothesise is potentially wrong.

Anyway to further disagree with you, my brother is probably around 5ft6 and has never given a shite about it nor got hassle over it. So no I dont think height matters.

My ExH is 5ft 5. I’m 5ft 6, so I was sceptical that our DS was predicted to be tall. He’s 6ft 2 now, yet his sister is 5ft. My Dad was tall and his other 3 grandparents were all very short. DS obviously got my Dad’s tall gene.

You seem weirdly invested in something absolutely inconsequential that has nothing to do with you. It comes across that you’re jealous and want to put her in her place.

How old and tall his he now? My DS is 11 and 5’7”

He must be on the 99th percentile or something though at this height.