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TallulahBetty · 05/12/2025 13:42

havasack · 05/12/2025 07:39

She threatened to suspend care a few months ago and then she added a £10 a day late fee. So she’s had at least an extra £100 from me that she hasn’t earned at all.

This HAS to be satire. I require it to be.

Sahara123 · 05/12/2025 13:43

pinkstripeycat · 05/12/2025 07:52

It’s called an invoice and it’s perfectly normal to wait until someone has billed you before payment them. You are funny

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Yes but this was due last Monday , so she’s already 4-5 days late …

Janiebirdy · 05/12/2025 13:47

Late payments for a sole trader can result in bank charges and not having the funds to pay bills. We tend to work on narrow margins. I had a number of clients over the years who would pay late and I would have to chase them up. One of them would even forget to pay after a reminder! I can understand you feeling annoyed at her for embarrassing you but she must’ve been really annoyed at having to nag you for payment.

TwoTuesday · 05/12/2025 13:47

I'd be careful OP. Late payers are annoying. She may "sack" you. Nurseries are much stricter than childminders ime and charge in advance, when the kids aren't even there, notice periods etc. Good childminders are worth keeping sweet.

Dissappearedupmyownarse · 05/12/2025 13:55

havasack · 05/12/2025 07:35

On Thursdays I meet my childminder at the school gates to hand over my 1 year old while I’m picking up my 6 year old.
We had a brief chat and then she said (in front of a few other people) she’d seen we’d been away at the weekend and that ‘maybe I should pay my childcare bill before I book holidays’. Three people turned around and I was bright red in the face. How unprofessional!
For context - payment was due Monday and she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days then I always pay! I’ve never not paid.

I’m thinking of transferring to a nursery as there may be more professional boundaries in place. She should not have mentioned that in front of others. AIBU?

Unprofessional of her to say it in public but I imagine shes pissed off at you for constantly paying her late!
How would you feel if your salary was paid late every month and you had to keep reminding your boss to put the money in your account? Shameful behaviour on your behalf.

CunningLinguist2 · 05/12/2025 13:56

havasack · 05/12/2025 07:35

On Thursdays I meet my childminder at the school gates to hand over my 1 year old while I’m picking up my 6 year old.
We had a brief chat and then she said (in front of a few other people) she’d seen we’d been away at the weekend and that ‘maybe I should pay my childcare bill before I book holidays’. Three people turned around and I was bright red in the face. How unprofessional!
For context - payment was due Monday and she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days then I always pay! I’ve never not paid.

I’m thinking of transferring to a nursery as there may be more professional boundaries in place. She should not have mentioned that in front of others. AIBU?

pay her on time, without being prompted every month. Being late by "just a day or two" is annoying. Doing it habitually is very annoying. Set up a DD or SO - she's not your mom who has to remind you to do your homework.

CunningLinguist2 · 05/12/2025 13:58

TallulahBetty · 05/12/2025 13:42

This HAS to be satire. I require it to be.

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Sole trader here (entirely different field) and can confirm that late fees are standard for those clients who just cannot be arsed to ever pay on time without reminders Every Time. It's a fee for my time and inconvenience. OP sounds deluled and entitled in equal measures :D

Pluvt · 05/12/2025 13:58

havasack · 05/12/2025 07:39

She threatened to suspend care a few months ago and then she added a £10 a day late fee. So she’s had at least an extra £100 from me that she hasn’t earned at all.

She has earned it. She’s wasted her time and effort chasing you.

yabvu sorry

CunningLinguist2 · 05/12/2025 13:59

havasack · 05/12/2025 07:39

She threatened to suspend care a few months ago and then she added a £10 a day late fee. So she’s had at least an extra £100 from me that she hasn’t earned at all.

Oh, she earned it all right. For managing your payment schedule as you seem unable to do so yourself. Late Fees are entirely standard when you don't pay your bills.

Laura95167 · 05/12/2025 14:06

She shouldnt need to send reminders.. you clearly know the date the payment is due

rainingsnoring · 05/12/2025 14:09

havasack · 05/12/2025 07:39

She threatened to suspend care a few months ago and then she added a £10 a day late fee. So she’s had at least an extra £100 from me that she hasn’t earned at all.

Is this a joke? The poor woman has to remind you every month because you are late to pay her every single month? Why is it her job to remind you to pay your bill? Are you her child? She may be relieved if you decide to give notice but beware that the nursery will also expect to be paid on time.

babyproblems · 05/12/2025 14:11

You definitely should be paying her ON the day it’s due. Not after. Not a few days after. She shouldn’t have to send you any reminders!!! You’re basically counting on her manners to not call you out - really shitty by you actually and I wouldn’t be surprised if she had a waiting list, that she picked someone else instead of you who pays late. Maybe she feared your reaction so decided to make a comment in public; equally it’s December and people need their pay to continue their lives and Christmas preparations. Maybe she’s been waiting for her pay to organise her own Christmas holiday. Yet you can’t be bothered to pay her when it’s due. You should pay on time, every time. Without fail.

Pearlstillsinging · 05/12/2025 14:12

You are very lucky that she is still taking your child! She is running a small business, I guess that your payment is at least 1/4 of her income. Does she feed your child at all? It wasn't very professional of her to mention your debt in front of other people but I vet she is absolutely fed up your late payments.

honeylulu · 05/12/2025 14:14

Oh dear. This lacks so much self awareness I wonder if this is actually a reverse from the childminder.

Her comment was hostile and embarrassed you ... but ... you were late with payment, you've been late with payment before to the extent you triggered a late payment charge and caused her to threaten to withdraw services. She's probably sick to death of being messed around. "Only a few days" can make all the difference if she has direct debits coming out. If your employer paid you late regularly wouldnt you be furious?

Find a nursery if you want. You'll find they certainly won't pussyfoot around you if you don't pay on time.

FletchFan · 05/12/2025 14:14

havasack · 05/12/2025 07:39

She threatened to suspend care a few months ago and then she added a £10 a day late fee. So she’s had at least an extra £100 from me that she hasn’t earned at all.

Here's a thought. Perhaps pay on time? It's not up to her to remind you. You need to set yourself reminders.

So entitled.

AutumnLeeves · 05/12/2025 14:15

YABU

I imagine you’d have something to say if you were paid late?

Laura95167 · 05/12/2025 14:16

havasack · 05/12/2025 07:39

She threatened to suspend care a few months ago and then she added a £10 a day late fee. So she’s had at least an extra £100 from me that she hasn’t earned at all.

You know you owe money on Monday, you wait until its 2-3 days overdue with no care for her bills or commitments and only pay it when she chases.

Good for her, if she embarrassed you the truth is an absolute defence. I hope everyone heard her

Shoes232 · 05/12/2025 14:17

I feel so embarrassed for you that you don’t pay your bill and you’re annoyed at her about it. She’s right and good for her for saying. I’d be packing you off to the nursery.

ShizIsWicked · 05/12/2025 14:20

It's my first language lol!!!

The irony of the entire OP's posts really only justifies sarcasm although pretty sure that flies waaaaay over their head and now believes that you are an avid supporter of her audacity!

TheIceBear · 05/12/2025 14:22

Regardless of whether or not you paid late or not it was rude , unprofessional and uncalled for to say it like that in front of people. If it’s an issue she should speak to you privately. Yanbu

ShizIsWicked · 05/12/2025 14:24

Laura95167 · 05/12/2025 14:16

You know you owe money on Monday, you wait until its 2-3 days overdue with no care for her bills or commitments and only pay it when she chases.

Good for her, if she embarrassed you the truth is an absolute defence. I hope everyone heard her

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Don't forget she has just returned from a weekend break away while the childminder (arguably her most critical supplier) has charged her £100's meaning, if OP is honest, on average 2-3 days late paying always, that's at least 6 months of late payments.

Omgblueskys · 05/12/2025 14:31

Op why are you late paying her, why haven't you set up a standing order or DD why ??
Imagine she turned up late for your children god for bid,

Cakeandcardio · 05/12/2025 14:35

Probably sick to the back teeth of being paid late

icouldholditwithacobweb · 05/12/2025 14:37

YABU. PAY HER ON TIME!

Whattothinkaboutit · 05/12/2025 14:38

It's got to be a joke that you've already paid late ten times. Of course it's not an extra £100 for nothing it's the extra mental load and effort of having to chase you. What if she's got direct debits set to come out on pay day? Can't you just set up a standing order?