to find it utterly vile when people boast about how much money they have?

[FreddysTeddy]

I just find it so crass when people insist on dropping their salary (or worse, their husband's salary) into conversation/onto threads.

AIBU to find it a bit vulgar? Is it some kind of old-school British thinking that makes me feel like this?

Plus, people who are happy and confident don't tend to need to boast about things so I always have a tendency to think that the boaster is telling porkies anyway.

ok. spelling influenced by wine tinted glasses. sorry

Disappointed not struck by a bolt of MN lightning.

Actually I don't know anyone who is boastful about how much they've got, rather they boast about how little it cost.

Yes, it is a little like "Oh my, I never realized I would only pay £5k for a Mark Warner holiday with the family!!

Tis vulgar

I have never been more of a pauper than I am now. THe car I want cost £100.000, more than 4 times what it cost in good old London. I am boating about how much it costs. YET I say, I cant friggin afford it. SO I am ok. (I could not even afford it in London, that is why I bought something totally differnt second hand. So I am like KM too)

Well, you must spend it all on lego.

uh uh. no

There is a reverse syndromw which is equally obnoxious though - of pretending not to have any money whilst being really quite wealthy. I mean no-one would know on MN but in RL it's disconcerting and strange

Well you know what, KM. I was really surprised today. I have a friend, she lived in this gorgeous house. Perfect. But she is the type of person who is never satisfied, and is very into Facade. She has just swapped her house and garden for a really swanky luxury flat. She has two children, aged 6 and 5. Today she called me, and said, " I cleared out my kids things, as we are moving, and you know, we are planning to buy everything new, so we are dumping furniture and toys. Would you like three carrier bags of Lego?"

YES SURE!
But I felt really sorry for the kids.

I just find it a bit strange tbh.. I don't think what money I have or have got makes me any different as a person.?
Therefore I wouldn't ever really mention it.

threads like this you mean, Freddy?

KM. Yes, exactly. I was asking her, "but do your children agree!? Dont they want the lego anymore?" (all our four boys would be eagerly playing with the lego together when meeting up) She said mmmmm. "If you dont take it, I bring it to the tip." So I said, yes, bring it. But I wont give it to my boys just yet. I shall safe guard it in case her boys change "their" minds.....IYSWIM

I cant imagine her boys wont miss it. So, I rather store it, than for her to take it to the tip. But the sad part, I dont think Lego fits with her homes aspirations....

Coudn't she have given it to a childrens charity?

No, they are total believers in "the tip". And, on previous occasions, she and her husband have axed into firewood, beautiful cabinets, cots, and other furniture. THis time, when she started talking about being a bit fed up with her sofa, I said to her, dont take it to the tip, please, let me have it. (It was only 2 years old)

i earn over 500 psetas a minute.

what is your problem?

They sound like FIL. He broke up a lovely piano they had just to annoy MIL. All it needed was a bit of tuning and I would have taken it! Dh bought me a piano a couple of years later.

I have a close relative who makes me feel guilty if I dare to buy anything, she asks the cost of EVERYTHING and turns her nose up is she thinks I've spent too much. She tells me whats a waste of money it is.

Its actully turned me into someone who feels guilty about anything new I buy and now whenever someone compliments me on anything I've brought I quickly tell them how much of a bargin it was and how how cheap I got it.. even if I didn't.

I hate myself for doing it and everytime I catch myself I say I'm never going to do that again, I'm going to take the compliment, say thank you and move on but I never do, I find myself telling that I how cheap it was!

Its not like we have a lot of money, me and dp are both working class and have no ambitions to climb the social ladder. We worked hard to save a deposit and buy a house and we work even harder now to pay the mortgage and provide a nice life for dd, I should feel proud of things I've brought her instead of guilty.

i dont distinguish betwen establised/unestablished/anti-disestablishment.no siree can i spend it!oh it is all mula to me

i kind of equate people who yakyak about money as having metaphorical small willy syndrome.you can talk it up all you want- no on is really interested

now where is my irn bru

anyway i am stingy good with money!

even have my emergency "just in case" £20 in my purse. always have my emergency money with me. never had to spend it either

scottishmoney - my dh always has an emergency 50 euros in his wallet - and I always spend it