to find it utterly vile when people boast about how much money they have?

[FreddysTeddy]

I just find it so crass when people insist on dropping their salary (or worse, their husband's salary) into conversation/onto threads.

AIBU to find it a bit vulgar? Is it some kind of old-school British thinking that makes me feel like this?

Plus, people who are happy and confident don't tend to need to boast about things so I always have a tendency to think that the boaster is telling porkies anyway.

PP - I just thought I'd mention your husbands salary before you did!

It is crass to talk about it in a kind of 'name-dropping' way.

You are right. They are very grim and feel that they have something to prove.
I prefer to brag about my many talents. When I think of some I'll let you know.

actually it's 2000 for houses.

Someone at dh's company had the bright idea of posting everyone's full addresses on the company intranet, so dh went on there one day to find out exactly how much some of the directors had paid for their houses. It was millions in some instances.

Suffice to say our address is not on said intranet .

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fortunately i don't know anyone like this. i frankly don't care what anyone earns.crass to crow about it too

cannot imagine how you can boastfully casually drop salary into conversation?how does that work?

Me NoCashLotsaFlash: want a sausage rooll/fruit shoot/deep fried mars bar/can of irn bru

MoreCashThanFlash: Ach naw hen ma man earns £255,765 and i have no more room in my gucci bag to squeeze 'em in. Hen

Why is it still considered crass and vulgar to talk about money?

People on here talk about their husbands making pirate noises during sex, their haemharroids, their discharges, their bum hair, their bunyans, their dandruff, their acne, their disgusting dirty kitchens, their infestations, their stains, god knows what.

But mention money and everyone has a fit of the vapours.

Honestly.

Totally crass. Always a sign that someone has something to prove.
And it's funny how the women who boast about their husband's salary are often married to boring fuckers, which makes me feel they're trying to compensate for something....

I could use a can of IrnBru. This bairn is ruining my cut with its antics.

As Beyonce sings:

'If you're gonna brag
Make sure it's your money you front
You got no one else to give you what you want . . . '

I think boasting is crass where money is concerned. I don't think that all talk of money is, because sometimes it does come into conversation, especially when discussing childcare costs in relation to salary. I have often said it isn't worth my while to work at the mo due to lack of wages and have then gone on to say (not boastfully) that had I still been in the RAF on x amount it would have been worth it iyswim.

I am on both sides of the fence. I knew a friend of a friend, who I couldn't bear - she would spend all her time saying how she hated driving the BMW, especially when she was towing the jet-ski . She also flashed her Rolex at me, which was a fake.

But I am also guilty of it. At a Xmas work do, one of my senior colleagues asked me what my DH did. When I told him, he said that sounds like a right f boring job. I couldn't help myself. I replied that yes, he found it boring, but he earned 3 times what my boss did, so he managed to put up with it. (Actually, even as O type this, I am sniggering at the thought of his face heee heee).

But it is equally insensitive for thin people to say, oh I can eat whatever I want, in front of fat people (like me).

I work with a lot of people who earn more money than dh and I and I never tell people (when asked) what we are getting your children for xmas. We save and budget for everything, but at work, they other workers seem to brag on how little they spend on their kids.

Just say
"Isn't money like sex? Those who have lots of it don't talk about it."

I brag about how little I spend on my kids too

Why on earth have you chosen such an unflattering name?

We are selling our house.

I have been taken aback by the number of people who have asked me directly how much we are selling it for.

It just seems crass.

The name. It's how I feal at the moment.

feel

I sort of distunguish between established money and unestablhsed money. Those of my firnes with unestablished money tend to brag as their dhs or their own sudden salary increas is so new to them, they tend to drop it, or what they do with the money into every conversation. And I am happy to leave them to it. Let them enjoy it. They sure deserve it, why not rejoice in their good fortune. Those whith established money show much more tact. Sooner or later the unestablished money will become established, and teh person in question will have learnt to deal with the new situation.
Go easy!

Oh absolutely, boasting about money shows no class whatsoever

(daringly puts class & money in same sentence on MN )

Maybe it's just me, but does anyone have a friend who'll tells you the cost of everything she buys or the cost of everywhere she goes? Why?