to find it utterly vile when people boast about how much money they have?

[FreddysTeddy]

I just find it so crass when people insist on dropping their salary (or worse, their husband's salary) into conversation/onto threads.

AIBU to find it a bit vulgar? Is it some kind of old-school British thinking that makes me feel like this?

Plus, people who are happy and confident don't tend to need to boast about things so I always have a tendency to think that the boaster is telling porkies anyway.

yy boring to talk money round the supper table

but tbh if someone on here says I earn £200k i dont bat an eyelid

belgo thats a very old school aristo thing to do

My friend I am sure does it to boost her self, and a particular friend of ours that we both know, loves to play the poor relative to her rich one!! Panders after her no end, makes me squirm.

I know which thread you are on about, and I also find it slightly boaking when someone mentions their partners salary on a thread where people are struggling to get a weekly shop in under £50.

It would be great to be finacially secure, but im happy as a pig in shit with my life tbh.

and she boasts that everything is ethical/bio/recycled whatever. She's very interesting actually, but she says it all in a very competitive way.

that's cos you're effing minted Enid

Unnecessary yes, and sometimes insensitive but not vile.

It does depend on the context though.

Totally agree with the op except I find it funny that they feel they have to inform me of such detail - bovvered I am not!

I really think you are being odd when it comes talking about holidays for eg
I mean what are you meant to do
Pretend you went to Butlins to make other people feel better about themselves???

Just for the record, I did not bring it up on that thread......it was mentioned during a debate about something where the salary was relevant.... I think Xenia was saying how crippling being a SAHM was and I replied.
So before all decide what a crass bitch I am might they remember that a) I did not bring it up and b) This is not real life and none of my friends (due to the state of my house) would have any idea how much dp does or doesn't earn. This is anonymous and supposed to offer the freedom of expression.

i domt think it matters that much

people live in all kinds of different ways

Any type of boasting is normally done by crashing bores, who I would generally avoid like the plague.

I don't give a hoot how much money someone has, and I have some v rich and also some v poor chums, but they all have something in common - personalities

I think it cuts both ways tbh.

I don't see why people should feel the need to drop their six figure salaries into every day conversation, but similarly I'm not sure it's appropriate to go telling the world how hard-up you are either.

But I don't think it's wrong to discuss your holiday/your new house etc. And I find there's a real culture on mn that people seem to think that no-one would be allowed to admit to owning anything for fear of upsetting those who can't afford it.

Should I not be allowed to discuss my holiday because there are people who can't afford one?

LL, I didn't bring it up Conniedescending did. I wouldn't mention how many children you had on a TTC thread or would that be you boasting?

posieparker - I've no idea what you posted but it's always a good idea to remember that the internet isn't as anonymous as you think it might be.

i'm off to search for that soapmakers thread.

what the hell happened to it?

i just ordered some glycerine soap base for a bit of fun on a rainy day.

Yes it is crass. And actually I don't think generally people on MN are especially quiet about their cash - they might not talk about actual earnings but they talk about expensive brands of kitchen/handbag/shoes etc. And that's fine if it's on an appropriate thread.

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I agree with both WannaBe and LL.

Using what WB said, there's nothing wrong, IMO, starting a thread in the Travel section asking if anyone's been to xxxxx, and roughly how much would it cost in August. The only people likely to reply are those who've been to xxxxx in August and who know how much it costs ...... cue chat amongst like-minded holidaymakers exchanging travel tips, restaurant recommendations and money saving tips (or moans about how expensive it is). That's not boasting, that's context.

It would, however, be very crass to interrupt another thread where someone is feeling very down about not being able to afford a holiday of any description for years (& with no prospect of doing so in the near future) and breezily inform everyone that you always go to xxxxx (insert expensive resort). What on earth would be the point of that, except to boast ?

The point was a) I didn't bring it up and I was joking, being tongue in cheek about the salary.... ffs.
Chequers, the point about TTC is that I wouldn't drag out someone's fertility successes and then sit back and allow them to be ripped for boasting. Perhaps I should not have made the remark about his salary being more, but I thought it was something humorous between Connie and I and hadn't realised that she was being quite so scathing and agressive.

What I find annoying is people fishing to find out how much DH earns or what I used to earn.

i was introduced to a woman once who within five minutes had asked me what my husband did, how much he earned and how wed paid for our house
i was gobsmacked
i avoid conversation with her now (v occasionally see her at dc related things)