Unfollowed on SM

[leicester66]

So ive known this friend for more than 35 years. Some arguments on and off through the years but we always make up and get back to normal. It’s not a intense friendship as we don’t really share friends so a few times a year we meet up which is nice. Deep down i don’t think her life is exactly as she would want it is married with 2 children but i sense some bitterness there. Anyway along comes social media we are both on insta i tend to post a lot just family stuff holidays etc she not so much. A y way about a year ago she decided to un follow me and when i asked why she just said she doesnt need to see what i post and how we can be friends with me without following me. She follows other friends.
I wanted to ask opinions on this and AIBU that she isnt a real friend as she seems offended by looking st my life style. Occasionaly i might send a photo of something she might be interested in and she will look at ot but hardly ever comment.
Thiughts please.

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What sort of a world are we living in where people who don't follow you on SM are not "real" friends?

You have no idea why she unfollowed you, you are just assuming. You actually aren't being very nice about your friend. No-one has to look at your SM. I'm surprised you realised she'd unfollowed you, I wouldn't have a clue and wouldn't care. As you can probably tell from this thread, some people feel quite strongly about SM posts about daily life.

I have a lovely friend who seems to post everything on SM. She's an upbeat and happy person and I guess she supposes everyone will be interested in her zillions of holiday snaps, every coffee/lunch/dinner out, every family members birthdays and everything she, her DH and her adult children are up to. TBH we aren't and it gets boring.

you sound nice

Good work to those who saw this coming early on. MN always delivers!

Glad op came back to confirm what an arsehole she is 🤣

It's the gift that keeps on giving.

Fucking hell! 😳

No. Ugly is dropping long standing friends because they dont gush over you on social media.

Give your head a wobble pls

Damn, did I miss OP being even more of a knob?

I’m not sure why she couldn’t have just muted you.
social media can be triggering for people particularly if they aren’t satisfied in their own lives.
I admit that seeing some people’s posts can make me feel abit shit sometimes, but I’d just
mute rather than unfollow.

Oh I think I’ve missed something

That is boring for other people. Im
not interested in selfies. Your days out and holidays are only interesting to you.

She suggested that if she ever met some of us in person we would "know about it"
I imagine the friend is starting with SM

“Come and have a go if you think you’re hard enough”. I’ll preemptively tag myself at the local hospital and if anybody wants to know why I’m there I’ll reply “DM me babe”.

And name calling like only a 5 yr old in a school playground would (actually 5 year olds would probably have more sense).

I've got one like that and on top of that, it's memories of her kids jumping in puddles.

She stays muted.

I know, one cannot imagine why anyone would block her on SM (or IRL)

I had a friend block me on Facebook, and I literally never ever post anything! I think it might have been a pointed dislike of me… just guessing.

That's your opinion She may feel differently.

Holidays can be fun if you are on holiday yourself but seeing it day in day out on other people's SM is boring.

She has done the right thing by unfollowing to protect her peace for whatever her reason is. She doesn't need to justify her self to you. As long as she hasn't done or said anything that's hurtful I don't see why you would question her on what she does. Isn't your own life fulfilling enough for you?

Imagine being over the 12 and caring about who follows you on social media
bless

Now I see why she unfollowed you!

I find it a little weird tbh - there is a mute button on Instagram that means you can stop seeing people’s posts and/or stories but continue to follow them, it’s almost like she’s making a point not following you. I also genuinely believe that friends who can’t be happy for you when you are living your best life, aren’t real friends. I once had someone unfollow me only to continue watching my stories until I made my profile private… people are odd!!!

I don't follow my best friend on SM and she doesn't follow me, the reason being I see her on average twice a week.

That sounds very boring to me…why on earth do you think anyone would think your selfies were in any way interesting?