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AIBU?

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Unfollowed on SM

125 replies

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 13:27

So ive known this friend for more than 35 years. Some arguments on and off through the years but we always make up and get back to normal. It’s not a intense friendship as we don’t really share friends so a few times a year we meet up which is nice. Deep down i don’t think her life is exactly as she would want it is married with 2 children but i sense some bitterness there. Anyway along comes social media we are both on insta i tend to post a lot just family stuff holidays etc she not so much. A y way about a year ago she decided to un follow me and when i asked why she just said she doesnt need to see what i post and how we can be friends with me without following me. She follows other friends.
I wanted to ask opinions on this and AIBU that she isnt a real friend as she seems offended by looking st my life style. Occasionaly i might send a photo of something she might be interested in and she will look at ot but hardly ever comment.
Thiughts please.

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25percentoffeverything · 01/12/2025 16:57

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 16:47

@25percentoffeverything actually she loves what I love 😂looking back now it’s actually unrealistic for people to comment on this not knowing the personalities of us both. So it’s fine. I will try to delete my post as I’m actually now bored

she loves YOUR selfies, YOUR days out and YOUR family holidays? 😂 Are you sure about that? 😂

GeorgesMarvelousCalpol · 01/12/2025 16:57

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 16:23

So interesting to see the usual nasty people on here (not all)who are clearly sad and agressive. AT the end of the day i know its envy which is very sad from a friend. I was just interested to see what people would say as ive never posted on here before. Even if i was bored of a friends posts i would just scroll past. Someone mentioned likes on here it’s nothing to do with that as lots of people look at stories etc and never comment but to actually unfollow a friend is nasty and envious. I mean jesus christ if you are jealous of anyone at least hide it🤦‍♀️

Despicable Me What GIF

😕

BeAmberMember · 01/12/2025 16:58

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Oh bless your heart.

Are you 12?

Grow up hun.

Stop thinking your life is valuable based on your posts on insta and how they're received. And if people aren't liking or hearting or saying #blessed #life goals #greatmama then they must be jealous.

It's quite sad.

When you grow up you'll realise and feel embarrassed.

GeorgesMarvelousCalpol · 01/12/2025 16:58

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 16:47

@25percentoffeverything actually she loves what I love 😂looking back now it’s actually unrealistic for people to comment on this not knowing the personalities of us both. So it’s fine. I will try to delete my post as I’m actually now bored

I really hope MN don't pander to this "I'm not getting the response I want... so I'm deleting this..." but no doubt they will 🙄

PatThePenguin · 01/12/2025 17:01

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 13:48

I would like to add that i don’t post boring stuff😂as i said holidays days out interesting places occasionaly selfies

Not boring to you

But you don't get to decide that for her 🤷‍♂️

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 17:02

@BeAmberMember god I’d love to meet you in person you’d know about it for sure

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25percentoffeverything · 01/12/2025 17:02

GeorgesMarvelousCalpol · 01/12/2025 16:58

I really hope MN don't pander to this "I'm not getting the response I want... so I'm deleting this..." but no doubt they will 🙄

Identifying details, innit! 😂

Which is a shame, because it really wouldn't hurt for some people to have a glimpse of how obsessed by social media some grown-up are, and how they are completely defined by them.

OhDonuts · 01/12/2025 17:07

@leicester66

to actually unfollow a friend is nasty and envious. I mean jesus christ if you are jealous of anyone at least hide it🤦‍♀️

Judging by this sentence alone - I can tell you that she has unfollowed you because you are one of those narcissistic types that social media often attracts. Only narcissists assume everyone is jealous of them 🤣

GeorgesMarvelousCalpol · 01/12/2025 17:09

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 17:02

@BeAmberMember god I’d love to meet you in person you’d know about it for sure

Not sure if that's meant as a threat or not, but it reads like it. Perhaps you'd like to explain yourself?

25percentoffeverything · 01/12/2025 17:11

GeorgesMarvelousCalpol · 01/12/2025 17:09

Not sure if that's meant as a threat or not, but it reads like it. Perhaps you'd like to explain yourself?

they're just trying to derail the thread to get it deleted...

GeorgesMarvelousCalpol · 01/12/2025 17:16

25percentoffeverything · 01/12/2025 17:11

they're just trying to derail the thread to get it deleted...

I probably should have ignored it!

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 17:16

Who are you that I should explain myself to you🤦‍♀️@GeorgesMarvelousCalpol

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pictoosh · 01/12/2025 17:19

OopOop · 01/12/2025 13:40

I’ve got a really really good friend, who I adore. I have unfollowed her on social media because she posts far too many boring updates about her kids 🤷🏻‍♀️. I’m really not bothered about seeing every time they climb a tree or jump in a puddle.
She’s still a good friend.

This was my first thought...I can like someone perfectly well but find them a bore on SM. That's not intended as an insult...you can post whatever you please.

MrsPrendergast · 01/12/2025 17:25

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 13:48

I would like to add that i don’t post boring stuff😂as i said holidays days out interesting places occasionaly selfies

Respectfully.....these are the type of posts I find very boring indeed. Perhaps your friend does too?

GeorgesMarvelousCalpol · 01/12/2025 17:27

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 17:16

Who are you that I should explain myself to you🤦‍♀️@GeorgesMarvelousCalpol

😆🤣😆🤣
You're obviously my teenager... stroppy, rude, you're the only one that's right, the rest of us know nothing...

I couldn't give a flying fuck! But you obviously want your thread deleted because - as I said above... stroppy, rude, you're the only one that's right, the rest of us know nothing...

MrsPrendergast · 01/12/2025 17:28

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 16:47

@25percentoffeverything actually she loves what I love 😂looking back now it’s actually unrealistic for people to comment on this not knowing the personalities of us both. So it’s fine. I will try to delete my post as I’m actually now bored

Hilarious. "I'm not getting the responses i want so I'm going to have a tantrum."

Grow up. No wonder your friend unfollowed you

Boomer55 · 01/12/2025 17:31

Most SM stuff is totally boring to others, even if you like the posters. Why would anyone want to know where x went for their holidays?

MyCatLovesCardboard · 01/12/2025 17:33

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 13:52

personally i enjoy seeing my friends having a good time and posting happy moments and special times. Must be just me

People are different. Not everyone thinks/feels the way you do.

Createausername1970 · 01/12/2025 17:43

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 17:16

Who are you that I should explain myself to you🤦‍♀️@GeorgesMarvelousCalpol

@GeorgesMarvelousCalpol is a member of MN and therefore one the people who's views YOU asked for.

Greggsit · 01/12/2025 17:52

leicester66 · 01/12/2025 16:47

@25percentoffeverything actually she loves what I love 😂looking back now it’s actually unrealistic for people to comment on this not knowing the personalities of us both. So it’s fine. I will try to delete my post as I’m actually now bored

No! Please don't! If you delete it nobody will know what a wonderful life you have and we won't be able to be jealous of all the holidays you take.

ComedyGuns · 01/12/2025 19:22

I do think this is a bit odd and I’m wondering if she is perhaps jealous of the way your life has turned out compared to hers, and your regular social media posts have become triggering for her. This is no way your fault though - it’s her problem.

Forthelov · 01/12/2025 19:42

I would be offended if someone unfollowed me, not gonna lie. I would pretend I couldn’t care less, but I would mind really.

OopOop · 01/12/2025 19:44

I don’t think I’d notice if someone unfollowed me. Do people generally check their follower list?

25percentoffeverything · 01/12/2025 20:24

OopOop · 01/12/2025 19:44

I don’t think I’d notice if someone unfollowed me. Do people generally check their follower list?

It seems some do...

ironic when they have such interesting and busy lives and so many interesting things to post accordingly 😂

BartholemewTheCat · 02/12/2025 05:04

Oh man, OPs posts are embarrassing to read. 😂

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