To just let 2 year old sleep in my bed?

[Tykia]

We have 2, 9 & 13 year old and the 2 year old has always been a rubbish sleeper, he’s never slept through the night, constant wake ups ect and I didn’t do anything different with him compared to the older two.

Me and DH both work full time in fairly stressful jobs and I just need to sleep!

He used to go down in his cot really quickly but would only last a few hours then he would be up every hour or so just wanting a cuddle/to sleep on me (even if it was me holding him in his bedroom sat on the floor). The last couple of weeks he seems absolutely traumatised even entering his bedroom.

We have tried the CIO method and it just didn’t work, I think it made him scared of his bedroom tbh, and it just didn’t feel like that is the right approach for him.

As a last resort last night I put him in my bed with a baby monitor on (i went up to bed around 2 hours after him) and he slept for 11 hours STRAIGHT!!!

is it stupid to just let him sleep with us so we all actually get a decent nights sleep? Or am I truthfully just setting ourselves up for disaster further down the line?

Any advice would be massively appreciated.

If it works for you then do it 🤷‍♀️ DD1 (2.5) cosleeps with DH in our bed, I cosleep with DD2 (4 months) in the spare bed as its safer for DD2 being a baby and all to not have DD1 or DH in the bed with us. We do encourage DD1 to sleep in her own room and always put her to sleep there first, eg if she does sleep in her own bed all night we make a big fuss about what a big girl she's been etc. But no stress if she doesn't either. She is noticeably better behaved and has less toddler meltdowns during the day if she cosleeps tbh

Or maybe it would be better if a 2yo wasn't scared at all?

I've just reread your post (skimmed it the first time) and I think you were joking 😂(at least I hope so..!)

My siblings and I learned never to disturb our parents at night and I have childhood memories of lying awake for hours in silent fear.

It's musical beds in my house. Read into that what you will 😂.