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AIBU?

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To report the cleaner

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EmotionalLimbo · 28/11/2025 16:25

I'm a PhD student and work in a doctoral school office with several other researchers, all doing our own thing. It's a wonderful quiet space and we're very lucky.

Well quiet that is until the bins are emptied every afternoon. I'm not sure if the person who comes in is a cleaner because I've never seen her do any cleaning in this office but she might do in other parts of the building.

She's just so loud. She's talking on the phone using Bluetooth earpieces so it looks like she's talking to herself. It's so distracting and it's not a work conversation because it's a foreign language.

I've contacted the estates people to ask them to tell her to stop as it's annoying everyone but nobody dare say anything. It's not my job to tackle her.

AIBU?

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EmotionalLimbo · 28/11/2025 17:06

Bundleflower · 28/11/2025 17:04

But shes also doing her work in her workspace. Your work isn't, you know, any more important than hers. Christ.

Not the point. Her role involves, I'd assume, various parts of the campus. Ours doesn't.

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Doggielovecharlotte · 28/11/2025 17:06

EchoedSilence · 28/11/2025 17:01

How dare she disturb your very important work. Her being a foreigner too,

It also must be less disturbing as it’s a “foreign language”

so presumably you don’t tune into it

and yes it’s her workspace too

gollyimholly · 28/11/2025 17:06

I used to work in a very similar such environment (PhD student in both wet and dry lab situations). If a cleaner came and made some noise for a fraction of the day I think pretty much everyone I worked with would be able to tolerate it. I think YABU.

NovemberMorn · 28/11/2025 17:06

A cleaner deserves as much respect as the managing director.

If you would feel comfortable reporting him or her for disturbing your peace for a few minutes, because they are doing their job too loudly, then I suppose it's a fair point.

EmotionalLimbo · 28/11/2025 17:08

NovemberMorn · 28/11/2025 17:06

A cleaner deserves as much respect as the managing director.

If you would feel comfortable reporting him or her for disturbing your peace for a few minutes, because they are doing their job too loudly, then I suppose it's a fair point.

We all deserve to work in a suitable environment.

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Doggielovecharlotte · 28/11/2025 17:08

OP you are of course assuming everyone need silence at work

maybe for her she needs talking

some cultures see silence differently you know

that’s why it would be good to deal with it yourself face to face as you’d find out

usedtobeaylis · 28/11/2025 17:08

EmotionalLimbo · 28/11/2025 17:05

Nobody wants anyone to be sacked and it's stupid to suggest that. We want a workspace that's quiet.

But you know you're effectively putting her manager on to something you could easily deal with yourself.

You're not being unreasonable at all for wanting her to be quieter and she's being rude and unprofessional, but I do think it is unreasonable to go straight to her manager without giving her the opportunity to rectify it without managerial involvement. Especially if she's literally only in to empty the bins.

bettyboo9 · 28/11/2025 17:10

Maybe you could all have a rota yourselves and empty the bins personally. Job done 👍

BeWellJ · 28/11/2025 17:10

So you've already reported her. What is the point of this thread?

bettyboo9 · 28/11/2025 17:12

Does the ‘cleaner’ have a name and is being viewed as a human doing their job? Doesn’t sound as such

EmotionalLimbo · 28/11/2025 17:12

bettyboo9 · 28/11/2025 17:10

Maybe you could all have a rota yourselves and empty the bins personally. Job done 👍

I don't think so. We're not getting paid for a start. Might think about putting it to estates though ... Thanks for the idea @bettyboo9 💡. You'd really like me to name the cleaner? On Mumsnet?

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NovemberMorn · 28/11/2025 17:12

EmotionalLimbo · 28/11/2025 17:08

We all deserve to work in a suitable environment.

And she deserves to work somewhere where people are not looking down on her, or creating an atmosphere whilst she does her job.

Doggielovecharlotte · 28/11/2025 17:13

Need to get paid OP for everything 🤯

you can free yourself for 5
minutes!!!

FoxRedPuppy · 28/11/2025 17:15

How long does she spend in your office. That is important to how reasonable it is for you to complain.

Doggielovecharlotte · 28/11/2025 17:15

I think OP you know this is a bit off and none of you wanted to confront her because you knew it was off so you went over her head

and your posting here to get reassurance you did the “right” thing

well you didn't - try having a chat with the women and getting to know her, understand where she is coming from

SL2924 · 28/11/2025 17:15

If it’s a quiet workspace then yes of course she should respect that.

ForkOnASausage · 28/11/2025 17:16

I think this would be like working in a library and someone comes in making noise. I think this is the part people are missing. The PhD students are researching, it is a quiet space until the cleaner comes in. It isn't the noise of the bins it is the loud talking that is the issue I think.

We had this in our office, a quiet morning twice a week, no phone lines open until 10.30am so we could actually crack on with work. It was bliss, you got so much done.

Instructions · 28/11/2025 17:18

It would have been far more normal and reasonable to look up, catch her eye and ask her to keep the noise down please.

Doggielovecharlotte · 28/11/2025 17:18

ForkOnASausage · 28/11/2025 17:16

I think this would be like working in a library and someone comes in making noise. I think this is the part people are missing. The PhD students are researching, it is a quiet space until the cleaner comes in. It isn't the noise of the bins it is the loud talking that is the issue I think.

We had this in our office, a quiet morning twice a week, no phone lines open until 10.30am so we could actually crack on with work. It was bliss, you got so much done.

But libraries now allow noise and even talking on phones because they’ve realised it’s monocultural to assume everybody prefers silence

RedTagAlan · 28/11/2025 17:18

EmotionalLimbo · 28/11/2025 16:46

I don't know what punching down means. We don't make calls or take calls here. It's a quiet workspace. Asking her to be quiet would also embarrass her in front of other people. It's less embarrassing and more effective if her manager does that.

You are doing a PhD and you don't know what "punching down" means ?

Wow.

PatThePenguin · 28/11/2025 17:18

EmotionalLimbo · 28/11/2025 16:46

I don't know what punching down means. We don't make calls or take calls here. It's a quiet workspace. Asking her to be quiet would also embarrass her in front of other people. It's less embarrassing and more effective if her manager does that.

Rubbish.

It's more convenient for you to report her because it would mean you don't have to grow a spine and speak to her like an adult.

cgpcbtm · 28/11/2025 17:19

Just ask her to keep the noise down.

bettyboo9 · 28/11/2025 17:20

You might be surprised the amount of PHD students who also do cleaning to help fund their studies. When you work out the low hourly rate, divided by the minutes it takes to empty the bins, it really wouldn’t be worth the researchers going to the Estate because you wouldn’t get paid for a quick task to empty all the trash you all accumulate. It smacks of self entitlement and feeling far more important than the humble ‘cleaner’
Get over yourself

EmotionalLimbo · 28/11/2025 17:21

ForkOnASausage · 28/11/2025 17:16

I think this would be like working in a library and someone comes in making noise. I think this is the part people are missing. The PhD students are researching, it is a quiet space until the cleaner comes in. It isn't the noise of the bins it is the loud talking that is the issue I think.

We had this in our office, a quiet morning twice a week, no phone lines open until 10.30am so we could actually crack on with work. It was bliss, you got so much done.

Thank you.

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Parsleyforme · 28/11/2025 17:21

How long does it take for the bins to be emptied?

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