Daughter 100s of miles away at uni having ‘bad trip’ . Help

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Hi . Posting here for traffic but really I just need help. I don’t know what to do. DD rang me an hour ago from her flat at uni 100s of miles away. Said she felt ‘schizophrenic’. Wanted to go to hospital. Admitted she’d taken an edible at a uni party . I don’t know anything really about edibles as they weren’t around when I was at uni. I assume they are cannabis. I spent 20 mins talking her down and telling her all would be fine. Listen to some music. Try to relax. She said she was going to the loo. I said ok call me back as soon as you’re finished. I have called her 20 times she’s not answering. DH reckons she’s fallen asleep and ‘will be fine’. What to do? Can I assume she’s ok? Do I need to call the halls of residence to do a welfare check? I don’t even know her flat number

Oh, phew, she's okay. Good to hear!

Glad she’s ok. Now on the morning tell her what a stupid selfish twat she has been. One pill CAN kill.

I’m pretty sure she will be ok. She will have slept it off. Don’t think she’ll be doung that again soon. How worrying for you but you gave good advice.x

Also, can depend on what type of weed was in it. Some has very high THC component , particularly parts of Europe , that can bring on a month or more of psychosis. Regular weed is generally fine, but I'd probably be going to check on her just to reassure myself if you are able to at all. You'll know straight away if she has any long lasting effects.

So glad she is ok OP. You entirely did the right thing

I’m not sure why this is seen as a right of passage or even why anyone laughs. I lived in the Netherlands and have seen lives destroyed this way. People thinking they can fly. Lives ruined by psychosis

my message to my kids is - touch drugs if you want but you risk death or permanent mental illness. It’s not ok. It ok not to want to try drugs.

Agreed. And I’ll add two words - county lines.

Bless you op. So glad she’s fine. Kids eh?! 🙄

I wouldn't read her the riot act as someone else suggested- if she's in a sticky situation in the future you want her to call you, whether that's drink/drugs/dodgy boyfriend/dodgy house party. Be nice, point out that people get spiked and she needs to be very careful in the future. If a low dose of something allegedly fun made her paranoid and unhappy she's better off avoiding edibles & cannabis. Cannabis is much, much stronger now than in the 90s

If her flat mates are so unsocial can she ask for a flat swap? People will have dropped out by now and there may be spaces.?

I would flag this risk as well - worth checking what their policy is and maybe could considering getting a friend's number off her (with both parties' agreement) for if it were to happen again.

Bless you OP. So wonderful that your DD feels able to call you at times like this. I hope to have a relationship like this with my DDs when they are young adults 😍

But he was right, there was no need to worry.

Urgh gummies can be the worst!

im a seasoned recreational weed user, it helps my arthritis and I enjoy a little vape on a weekend but was given some 100mg gummies and omg I was absolutely fucked up by them 🤣 ended up giving away the pack.

i promise they are not dangerous or anything OP so dont worry, just intense and absolutely not to be mixed with alcohol ime!

If it’s an edible she definitely has fallen asleep which is a good thing.

when you get hold of her tell her to drink some water and have something sugary. Also of she is going to imbibe any substances she hasn’t had before she should go with 1/4 and wait an hour or two

Glad things are ok OP.

I took recreation drugs in the late 80s and early 90s which was still stupid, but less dangerous than taking them now. Back then, you sort of knew what you were taking. Now, with so many more chemical substances being shipped in from China and India and sold in clubs and on the street, and traces of fentanyl in things, it's a much scarier landscape.

I would urge any parent with kids at Uni to follow groups like 'The Loop' who share info about what is currently circulating at different Uni towns and what to look out for, and have open conversations with your kids. I have DC at Unis in Notts and Manchester - both big party cities - and I regularly share The Loop posts and info with them. Thank GOD, neither gone down the class A drugs road (yet), and fingers crossed that the moment for that has passed, but I know both deffo smoking weed sometimes with mates so I stay vigilant and keep talking. By talking and sharing updates with them, they can pass on to friends and try to prevent someone else doing something stupid, and I also hope that the constant reminders will give them pause for thought in a moment of temptation.

Hope that doesn't sound too preachy!

It's good that your DD felt she could call you. It means you are doing excellent parenting in my book.

Yes indeed! Good job 👏

This is worrying for you and I hope she's OK.
I ate hash shortbread once at uni and absolutely freaked out - thought I was going to die! Obviously that was an extreme reaction (and of course I was fine when it passed off), but I wouldn't have wanted to repeat the experience.

> they weren’t around when I was at uni
If you were born after about 1945, yes they were

Glad she's ok! Sounds like you have a good relationship

How stressful. Glad she is ok. Why are some teens so stupid. When I was growing up we had this ad in TV. Maybe that’s why we never touched drugs or cigarettes and I none of my friends at school or university did it either.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=BHubxKRlx4g&pp=ygUXbGEgZHJvZ2EgbWF0YSBjb21lcmNpYWw%3D

Instead of telling her not to do it again, talk to her about why she’s unhappy, does she have any friends there ? Can she join any groups, is Uni for her if she’s so unhappy. Can you both talk to a counsellor there ?
Then talk to her about being safe around drugs and alcohol, friends taking care of each other.
Get a number of a friend that can check on her if the same situation comes up.
Remember, she called you, that says a lot for your relationship. ☺️

Glad she’s OK. Suggest asking her if a friend who lives nearby would mind her giving you their number for emergencies.

If she calls you at such times, you can’t do much other than advise her or ask someone local to help, given you’re so far away. And so worrying when she then didn’t let you know she was OK or pick up.

I bet she’s mortified today that she woke you up.

To the posters saying they did it at uni and were fine... The problem is that weed nowadays is much stronger/purer. It really is not the same. https://www.bath.ac.uk/announcements/cannabis-strength-soars-over-past-half-century-new-study/

Edibles claim to be cannabis, but the reality is it's an unregulated and illicit industry.

Most edibles I come across in my work are SCRAs - Synthetic Cannabinoid Receptor Agonists. They aren't really cannabis, they are chemicals which hit off the same receptors in the body.

You may also know of this as spice or mamba and the effects are wholly unpredictable because you haven't the faintest idea what you're taking.

You might get the ones that act like cannabis and are soothing and calming. You might get another which makes you scream and hallucinate before vomiting all over yourself and passing out.

Edibles are NOT safe drugs. They are just the next step in the drug dealers attempts to make spice look attractive.

Spice is often adulterated still further and this can include synthetic opiates which are exponentially stronger than morphine or heroin.

I cannot stress enough that some of these edibles have killed people, and not even contained opiates.

Edibles are very different and much stronger than you think. Weed is stronger than when we were young. You absolutely can have what feels like a bad trip.