Daughter 100s of miles away at uni having ‘bad trip’ . Help

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Hi . Posting here for traffic but really I just need help. I don’t know what to do. DD rang me an hour ago from her flat at uni 100s of miles away. Said she felt ‘schizophrenic’. Wanted to go to hospital. Admitted she’d taken an edible at a uni party . I don’t know anything really about edibles as they weren’t around when I was at uni. I assume they are cannabis. I spent 20 mins talking her down and telling her all would be fine. Listen to some music. Try to relax. She said she was going to the loo. I said ok call me back as soon as you’re finished. I have called her 20 times she’s not answering. DH reckons she’s fallen asleep and ‘will be fine’. What to do? Can I assume she’s ok? Do I need to call the halls of residence to do a welfare check? I don’t even know her flat number

Edibles often/almost always made with synthetic cananoids/spice and can be
really horrible experience. Unlikeoy
to be dangerous but mentally worse than just weed

I dont think I could leave my child i n this state and not do a welfare check. Id want to know they were safe..

It could be a sweet. Cannabis edibles come in the form of haribo style gummie bear sweets. They seem to be more common now than cakes.
Some are stronger than others but wear off after a few hours. As others have said it could be magic mushroom edibles. Either way the effects will wear off soon

I would absolutely get someone to check on her and if I couldn’t find someone I’d be straight in my car. If you don’t know what she’s taken - if you can’t be 100% - you don’t know how serious her reaction to it is. It’s ok everyone giving their experience, but you don’t actually know what she’s had.

My lad tried brownies at uni.. first and last time... his mates just laughed, my son ended up in a&e feeling desperately ill... we're all affected differently.
He was OK but has suffered with severe anxiety ever since and never touched any drugs, so that was a good outcome.

I really hope your girl is ok...I would definitely check up on her..... for your own peace of mind.
🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞

But she doesn’t know what she’s taken? If her daughter is naive to drugs, she won’t be completely sure either. But of a flippant comment. She 100% needs checking on.

As someone who has fallen asleep on the loo whilst intoxicated, although that was down to lots of strong cider rather than edibles, I'd say your husband is probably right. However, you need the reassurance that that is the case, so I'd agree with phoning the halls to do a welfare check just to be on the safe side. Once she's sobered up she'll probably be mortified, but it's an important learning experience.

I hope she is ok? Have you heard from her?

I had a horrific whitey in my late teens and it was horrible at the time but funny now to look back on.
hopefully after some rest she’ll feel better xx

I would say white out from edibles is far safer than passed out drunk, from experience of both. She'll be fine, but seeing as she called you she'd probably be happy for you to contact her dorms for a welfare check.

Other poster is right. Sugary drink. She’ll wake up shorty and want to eat the contents of the kitchen. She will be fine. Xx

No I have called and called and she hasn’t answered. And I haven’t called the halls (although I have and still am agonising about it) because I’m really concerned that doing so might make things 10x worse. That she will freak out. They’ll end up calling an ambulance or something. That is what by DH thought. I actually did get a welfare check on her a few weeks ago because she did something else worrying - not drugs. But she called me back then and I called them to say it was fine. And she was very freaked out that I’d done that. She was always so sensible at home. Did competitive sport etc. But she’s been having a weird time at uni - her flat mates never come out of their rooms- so she’s been going out every night to compensate for being lonely . She’s very young for her age.

The problem is, she doesn't necessarily know what she took or whether it was adulterated. I'm not trying to scare you but I would get a welfare check. https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/coroner-s-inquest-into-uvic-overdose-death-begins-monday-1.7520574

If the other concerning thing was something to do with self harm or similar, I would definitely get a welfare check if there’s a history of that combined with a bad trip isn’t a good combo.

Please call the halls for the welfare check!
This will not be the first or the last whitey they’ll witness and if she’s hurt herself in any way, you could be delaying much needed help by hesitating.

Update: huge thanks to you lovely people for the handhold. I really really appreciate it. I called security. They were lovely. Just as I was speaking to them she calls me. Sounded drowsy but insistent she was ok now . Which is obviously the best outcome and I’m very grateful especially after reading that terrible fentynl story above (glad I did read it though so thanks - it was what gave me the push I needed to ring security)). Thanks again

I have to say, the good women of Mumsnet are x1000 more useful and supportive in a crisis than my blissfully snoring spouse

I am so relieved for you - Sidney was the daughter of a friend of a friend. Her mother has been ruthless in driving changes to the way incidents are handled at the university, and in widening education and access to nasal naloxone. Something good coming from such a horrible loss.

We didn’t all do this at uni- I didn’t.

Once she’s ok tomorrow I’d suggest ringing her and bollocking her tomorrow for scaring you, and telling her you’re not giving her your hard earned money for her to spend on drugs at uni. I’d also be reminding her that modern skunk is far stronger than old school weed and that she could end up with psychosis if she mucks about with this stuff too often.

Tragically a little boy died recently when the cannabis farm in the flat beneath his exploded. There are real human consequences to illegal drug use. It isn’t a game.

Terrifying to read, as the mom of someone recently started at VIU

Oh I’m so sorry for her. Unbearable.

Yes I quite agree. She’s never done it before - and I do believe her because she does tell me everything (as evidenced by her feeling able to tell me about this). I will be doing everything in my power to make sure she never does it again. Life is too precious to take stupid risks. And yes it’s a horrible business . Right, it’s nearly 2.30 am , better get some sleep. Night all and thanks again!

The only thing I'd add is that if you were to ever call the halls of residence for a welfare check, be mindful that some might kick her out for drug use (even though all this experimental stuff is rife at uni). So just consider how you'd ask for a welfare check.

So glad she’s ok.
I don’t agree on the bollocking. She’s called you twice when she’s really needed you and I wouldn’t want to jeopardise that especially as she’s lonely and finding uni hard.
As someone who emerged relatively unscathed from 90s rave excess and a far few years of absolutely wild times, I experienced something similar to your daughter. The experience was horrendous and even reading your daughter’s experience, 30 years after mine, I shuddered at the memory. I never ever ever touched anything like that again. I sincerely doubt she’ll need anyone else to tell her… She’ll still be fragile tomorrow and likely deeply ashamed.
you sound like a great parent with a wonderful relationship with her. Continue to speak to her from a place of love and concern at this point.
Really glad she’s ok.

Based on your info, it doesn't sound like she told you what was in the edible. Yes, most commonly used for cannabis but, 1) a small minority of people react very strongly to cannabis with induced psychosis, or 2) the edible also had mushrooms or Salvia divinorum.

So a welfare check is definitely not overreacting.

Hope all turns out okay!