Nanny wearing my slippers when I'm not there

[SilverDoublet]

This is a bit of a weird one - so I popped home today unexpectedly while the nanny was in my house with the kids. Everything seemed fine, but then when she was talking to me I looked down and saw that she was wearing my slippers. It made me feel sick. They're not the cleanest or newest of slippers, but I didn't know what to say. I don't know if she's been doing this the whole time or what but I feel like binning the slippers and hiding my slippers in future. I also feel like letting her go over it. It just makes me wonder what else she might do when I'm not there. She's from Brazil. Is this normal in Brazil to just wear someone else's slippers? Am I being weird to have a total icky feeling about this?

Omg I had a Brazilian cleaner who did things like this. Extremely over familiar. She would do things like this too! When i spoke to her she was really offended.

To me it was really OTT to say this made you feel sick!

When I'm a guest at a no shoes house I look for a pair of guest slippers to put on. If there are none, I request a pair. I must be rank.

I don't know about Brazil but I've heard it is normal to provide slippers for visitors in some countries.

@SilverDoublet is Unreasonable to 'feel sick' over such a trivial thing. Talk to her and ask her to bring her own in future if it bothers you.

She thought they were house slippers for guests. We have those. I have a bunch of slippers by the front door for guests to use.

Just buy new slippers.

Sorry ignore this post - I read the whole thing thinking it was a cleaner not a nanny. Been one of those days.

I wouldn't care but I do usually wear slippers with socks. In the summer I just have inside sliders or flip flops and of someone wore them barefoot, I would give them a wipe with an antiseptic wipe when they'd left.

Even if I was totally grossed out, I would not think it's a stackable offence for someone who takes care of my kids and has built a bond with them. That's just the height of ridiculous selfishness.

My lovely Brazilian cleaners take their outdoors off and put indoors on when they come 🤷‍♀️. Maybe she forgot her indoors. Bin the slippers, buy new and her a pair for Christmas

Bit like our Brazilian cleaner caught taking a dump in our en suite when there are other loos around the house.....it felt like a violation.

Why should the OP buy the nanny some slippers? If the nanny wants to wear slippers there's nothing to stop her buying herself some is there?

See this is the over familiar issues I had with our Brazilian cleaner. She did things like this or would just ask a very personal question as if she was asking about the weather.
I also had kitchen gloves and I bought her a pair in a different color. She would use mine all the time 😡
Dh bought the kids some treats and she helped herself because she thought he bought a lot and one or two wouldn’t make a difference. She was just too overly familiar and no boundaries

Buy her a pair of slippers for Xmas to use in your home.
Also buy yourself a new pair as you can catch verruca or foot fungi from sharing footwear.

Please stop the cultural comments.
I am from Brazil, everyone has their own flip-flops.
Using other people's shoes without permission is just bad manners.

If the op wants the nanny to remove her shoes to do her job, she needs to provide the nanny with slippers. It's a tool required for the job.

No, I've never asked her to take her shoes off in the house, we have hard floors downstairs so there's not too much to get dirty that can't be mopped. So that's partly why I found it so strange.

I would hate it. Id buy her slippers to use at yours and keep your slippers on your bedroom going forward

I usually wear my slippers in the mornings, in bare feet before I have socks on. So I don't think it's very hygienic for someone else to be wearing them. And I certainly assumed I was the only one wearing them.

This is peak mumsnet: the gold-plated en-suite that nobody must ever shit in: certainly not DH, and only the lady of the house would do so in the most dire emergency.

As for all this “Brazilians are over-familiar and have no boundaries”: we could turn that around, and say “Brits are too stuffy and up tight”. I think Hyacinth Bucket lives on. RIP Patricia.

We actually have underfloor heating, so don't think it's that she's cold 😂

Then that's weird. She should just wear her shoes if she's cold or wants something on her feet.

It must be a cultural thing. We had an excellent Romanian cleaner who, for some reason always cleaned wearing kitten heels.

I can't imagine having a fit about such a non-event, nevermind considering sacking someone over it.

This is a woman you trust to take care of your actual children, the most important people in your life, and you're bothered about her wearing your slippers?

Just get yourself a new pair and leave the old ones for her to wear? Nice reason to get a lovely new pair of slippers.

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Do you have hard floors upstairs too? Or separate slippers for upstairs and downstairs? Or you're just not that fussed about bringing the outdoors in?

Just wondering how it works if you don't take shoes off at the door!