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Middle earners punished

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Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:18

I am feeling so disheartened and frustrated by how middle earners are constantly suffering at the hands of ridiculous government priorities. My husband and I have a greater household income than other families we know but have less cash in hand due to increased taxes coupled with the fact we receive zero benefits like child benefit or tax free childcare etc. ZERO. If they want middle earners to fund the country thought tax then at least support us with childcare costs. It’s a joke that two parents earning £99k each get childcare funding but parents with one £101k salary and one £25k salary receive nothing. I just need to speak to people who understand the burden of raising a family amidst the current financial climate and then the potential of further tax rises!

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Limered · 26/11/2025 13:01

I just had to turn it off as it’s like listening to fucking toddlers

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 13:07

Coffeeandbooks88 · 26/11/2025 12:47

Still be nice if they acted like grown ups.

Exactly. They’re acting like school kids!
it doesn’t matter if OBR was leaked, that isn’t her fault and they need to respect her announcement

LookingforMaryPoppins · 26/11/2025 13:07

AntiHop · 26/11/2025 12:16

I'm not a high earner to be clear.

I chose to have a gap between my children so one was at school before the other came along. No one is forcing high earners to have two children at nursery simultaneously.

That is so blinkered. Assuming everyone can choose exactly when they meet their life partner and fall pregnant which we all know is not the case. High earners are more likely to have spent longer in education, longer training to do the high income jobs. They will in all likelihood have had student debts to pay off.

High earning jobs don't simply get handed out straight from school - high earners become high earners over time and generally start a family later as a consequence of working towards stability first.

SlugoftheLimberlost · 26/11/2025 13:11

LifeBeginsToday · 25/11/2025 21:31

I have a degree in Economics, and there are so few families where two earn £90k, that those arguments are a moot point.

Good point. I also have a degree in Economics and think people need to look behind the sound bites that certain types of media are peddling.

LookingforMaryPoppins · 26/11/2025 13:13

DrCoconut · 26/11/2025 12:14

Absolutely this. Anyone on £100k+ household income who seriously thinks people on universal credit are better off than them needs to wake up and smell what they're shoveling. I don't like to think of anyone being unhappy but come on. Struggling as in would like more (most people) in no way compares with the reality of being actually poor - things like living with no heat or lights and eating cold baked beans due to energy bills (thankfully fewer but still too many people).

Nobody has said that someone on £100k plus is worse off that someone on YC.

Someone earning slightly over 100k can be significant worse off than someone earning slightly less - it is that which is wrong and makes no sense

Baconbuttymad · 26/11/2025 13:13

Year6dramallama · 26/11/2025 12:36

Hmmm. DH and I are both high earners. I can simultaneously understand what OP is saying and also recognise that people in my position are incredibly fortunate (which i think the OP recognises as well). For me the issue is living standards, and the way our system pushes middle and high earners to tear each other apart. The main advantage to being high earners (top 5%, not top 1%) from my experience is that it allows you to save more for retirement and luxuries so you do not have to carry debt to have a holiday for example. It doesn't necesssrily translate to having a 'rich' life of travel, fast cars and shopping. People in my position often don't realise how many people have credit card debt, loans etc that they are using to fund holidays/car or esssential running costs like paying for a new boiler. DH and I earn a lot but we are also really careful with our money - we have one second hand car, one 1-week holiday per year with a carrier like Jet2, we don't eat out a lot or buy expensive clothes. We certainly couldn't afford 2 kids in private school without it requiring us to move house or take on debt. Being careful allows us to save to fund our kids going to uni (hopefully) in a few years, and put more into our pensions. These are luxuries that we don't 'feel' in our day to day living standards but are huge privileges that most people can't achieve and will pay forward to our kids. We do sometimes look around and think 'bloody hell, how are others able to afford that ski trip/private school/new Audi/wardrobe' etc but we quickly slap ourselves and acknowledge that it's either a choice to spend rather than save, or quite likely mounting up as debt. Society's perception of what a wealthy lifestyle is, and the reality, do not match (at least not until you are in the top 1% or higher). That's not a complaint, it is what it is and we're very lucky. But I can see how high earners might not feel rich because of this mismatch of perception and reality. Living standards across the board have plummeted and that makes it easy to feel resentful.

THIS

Baconbuttymad · 26/11/2025 13:16

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 11:34

Just because there are poorer people out there compared to the OP, doesn’t mean that the OP’s difficulties aren’t valid… Evetyone is struggling in this economy except the ultra rich and large corporations.

Yes this. Op struggles are very valid!

LookingforMaryPoppins · 26/11/2025 13:16

Hellohelga · 26/11/2025 11:32

OP you seem to be saying…
you are worse off than others because you earn more,
poor people can’t possibly understand your problem,
you’d like new cars and holidays every end of term like your neighbours.

Astonishingly crass. Im in your income bracket and I thank my lucky stars every day.

Research the facts and then come back with an informed opinion as to why it is fair and good economic sense for a person earning 99,999 to be thousands better off each month than someone earning 2 pence more per annum.

AlltheHedgehogsontheWall · 26/11/2025 13:17

Beddiem · 26/11/2025 11:25

Don’t you think those on £100k deserve to be much better off than those on £70k though? They have clearly worked to get useful skills. If we tax everyone into getting the same sort of after tax earnings no one is incentives to be more productive.

Not particularly no, useful skills don't necessarily equate to higher pay. A nurse is infinitely more useful than a stock broker, but that's not reflected in pay.

However, that's irrelevant.

Take home pay for someone earning £100k is approximately £1500 a month more than someone earning £70k. That's almost the entire take home salary of someone earning minimum wage.

To suggest that people are anywhere near making that up in CB payments and tax free childcare is just not true. You'd have to have 10 kids in full time childcare for tax free childcare to save you £1500.

I agree that household income should be the relevant thing to focus on with regards to benefits, which it is when it comes to claiming UC but not when it comes to maximum thresholds. It's not logical at all.

AutumnClouds · 26/11/2025 13:22

Why do so many people seem to think salaries are some mystical market-determined measure of actual worth, and only tax is a political matter. Income inequality has rocketed, not because people in the top brackets are suddenly performing so much better. I actually do think that some predistribution would be more effective than redistribution, but presumably the people arguing against paying enough tax to sustain public services would also not want rules about maximum income ratios, or rent caps, or UBI.

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 13:23

Baconbuttymad · 26/11/2025 13:16

Yes this. Op struggles are very valid!

Quite. Many middle to high earners have made lots of sacrifices and compromises to get to where they are. For example, I held off having kids and went to university for undergrad and postgrad study. I still don’t earn a huge amount but to say “well at least you ain’t poor” is quite insulting to the amount of work people like myself have put in. It’s disgraceful. I work in healthcare too.

Fargo79 · 26/11/2025 13:24

Beddiem · 26/11/2025 08:09

I am real. I’m so heartily sick of paying for endless benefits.

But would (quite rightly) no doubt be happy to accept them if your lot in life was different and you became disabled and could no longer work or had a disabled child, for example. And I imagine you'll also be claiming your state pension when the time comes which is an incredibly costly benefit that the taxpayer covers.

Paying for benefits is part of living in a civilised society.

Baconbuttymad · 26/11/2025 13:27

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 13:23

Quite. Many middle to high earners have made lots of sacrifices and compromises to get to where they are. For example, I held off having kids and went to university for undergrad and postgrad study. I still don’t earn a huge amount but to say “well at least you ain’t poor” is quite insulting to the amount of work people like myself have put in. It’s disgraceful. I work in healthcare too.

Absolutely. People like you worked hard and got degrees (ended up with student loans possibly that need to be paid off too ) to succeed, so you deserve high wages and less tax in return for all you’ve done responsibly and for all you’ve sacrificed.

Fargo79 · 26/11/2025 13:28

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 13:23

Quite. Many middle to high earners have made lots of sacrifices and compromises to get to where they are. For example, I held off having kids and went to university for undergrad and postgrad study. I still don’t earn a huge amount but to say “well at least you ain’t poor” is quite insulting to the amount of work people like myself have put in. It’s disgraceful. I work in healthcare too.

I'm not undermining the hard work you've put in, I'm sure you've grafted, as have many people who earn well. But I really hate this idea that hard work correlates to high earnings and vice versa. It absolutely doesn't. Some of the hardest workers in this country are in some of the lowest paid jobs. Some of the highest paid jobs are extremely cushy numbers.

LookingforMaryPoppins · 26/11/2025 13:30

AlltheHedgehogsontheWall · 26/11/2025 13:17

Not particularly no, useful skills don't necessarily equate to higher pay. A nurse is infinitely more useful than a stock broker, but that's not reflected in pay.

However, that's irrelevant.

Take home pay for someone earning £100k is approximately £1500 a month more than someone earning £70k. That's almost the entire take home salary of someone earning minimum wage.

To suggest that people are anywhere near making that up in CB payments and tax free childcare is just not true. You'd have to have 10 kids in full time childcare for tax free childcare to save you £1500.

I agree that household income should be the relevant thing to focus on with regards to benefits, which it is when it comes to claiming UC but not when it comes to maximum thresholds. It's not logical at all.

Doesn't usefulness depend on need?
I would rather a stockbroker invest my meagre pension in the hope I may stand a chance of being able to retire before 90 than a nurse.

As for your example, can you explain the logic for a system that results in someone earning £99,999 pa being far better off than someone earning slightly more? Even with your example, the child care costs and 60% tax still could result in the person earning slightly over £100k being worse off. Envy aside, the £100k plus earners are the net tax payers that the majority of tax payers rely upon. Removing incentive ultimately risks reducing tax revenue and increasing benefit cost.

Baconbuttymad · 26/11/2025 13:31

Fargo79 · 26/11/2025 13:28

I'm not undermining the hard work you've put in, I'm sure you've grafted, as have many people who earn well. But I really hate this idea that hard work correlates to high earnings and vice versa. It absolutely doesn't. Some of the hardest workers in this country are in some of the lowest paid jobs. Some of the highest paid jobs are extremely cushy numbers.

Because often hard work requires a degree or multiple exams/courses (like masters degrees and specialities) in order to be rewarded financially.
my sister is an actuary and earns very well, however she’s constantly doing extra courses/exams to be and stay in that role.

Benjithedog · 26/11/2025 13:31

Coffeeandbooks88 · 26/11/2025 12:40

Plus you had to work to be entitled to do this. You do realise many on UC work??

Yes but not full time as it affects what UC they receive

Kirbert2 · 26/11/2025 13:46

Benjithedog · 26/11/2025 13:31

Yes but not full time as it affects what UC they receive

If your child is over 3, you are expected to work full time on UC.

GentleOlive · 26/11/2025 13:47

Congratulations to the half a million people who have chosen to have kids they cannot afford get a £5k windfall per year paid for by those who choose to have only the kids they can afford.

Baconbuttymad · 26/11/2025 13:48

GentleOlive · 26/11/2025 13:47

Congratulations to the half a million people who have chosen to have kids they cannot afford get a £5k windfall per year paid for by those who choose to have only the kids they can afford.

This 👏

Beddiem · 26/11/2025 13:51

Fargo79 · 26/11/2025 13:24

But would (quite rightly) no doubt be happy to accept them if your lot in life was different and you became disabled and could no longer work or had a disabled child, for example. And I imagine you'll also be claiming your state pension when the time comes which is an incredibly costly benefit that the taxpayer covers.

Paying for benefits is part of living in a civilised society.

Edited

I have a disabled child and don’t claim. Why would I? It’s called social responsibility. My child, my costs. If I was unable to work through illness I would receive a 75% of my current salary indexed each year until I reach retirement age. I’m insured. It’s called social responsibility. There is no need whatsoever to be reliant on the taxpayer.

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 13:51

Fargo79 · 26/11/2025 13:28

I'm not undermining the hard work you've put in, I'm sure you've grafted, as have many people who earn well. But I really hate this idea that hard work correlates to high earnings and vice versa. It absolutely doesn't. Some of the hardest workers in this country are in some of the lowest paid jobs. Some of the highest paid jobs are extremely cushy numbers.

I don’t care. Like I said I studied hard and hard and hard. And I graft in my job every day. We don’t live in a communist state.

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 13:53

Baconbuttymad · 26/11/2025 13:48

This 👏

also by the child free *

Hellohelga · 26/11/2025 13:53

Caps44 · 26/11/2025 12:46

He will reduce taxes...more money in our pockets.

He won’t because he won’t win.

Beddiem · 26/11/2025 13:53

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 13:51

I don’t care. Like I said I studied hard and hard and hard. And I graft in my job every day. We don’t live in a communist state.

If you want the ‘cushy numbers’ too why not do the academic work behind it?

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