Talk to me about Tattle Life

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Ive heard people talking about it on here before but didn’t really know what it was other than a forum. I’ve recently stumbled across a thread on there about an ‘influencer’ I’ve followed for years who has become progressively more annoying and false. Some of the comments on this tattle thread are needlessly unkind but others echo exactly what I’ve been thinking about her. Albeit I’m not sure id ever put those thoughts out there where they could hurt someone.

So is Tattle basically just a space for being nasty about people? Please excuse the naivety but other than MN, instagram and Facebook I’m not really a big social media user.

A quick search on here tells me there was a big reveal recently of the owner of the site, as if he was in trouble or something. So is it a site that’s looked down on?

Im not a member but follow a few threads.

On the ones I’ve followed mostly it’s about calling out that persons behaviour yes sure they can be mean about appearance but when that person is say promoting skin care and gym products again you open yourself up to comments about your appearance.

Influencers hate it because they call out their shit and they keep the receipts. So when an influencer says oh I’d never go to Dubai
its this that and the other. Tattles members will go back through their wiki and go ahem. Here’s post about how great Dubai is. How they want to move to Dubai. Oh over never said arsenal sucks I love them best team ever. Ahem on the 23rd December you posted arsenal suck and are not a real football team. What a glory hunter.

I keep my kids private. But you tell us they wet the bed and show us where you live and what their names are and how old they are. Not very private.

Im sure there are some bullies like every forum ever. But I’m sure a lot of influencers call it bullying just because they don’t like the truth being shared.

Websites like tattle give people the opportunity to be bullies and find safety in numbers.

Or it gives people a voice to call those out for the pariahs and grifters they are. I disagree with personal insults but so many 'influencers' are causing harm especially the ones that exploit their DC for financial gain (some you know where they live, where their kids got to school). I hope one day social services will get involved and those children are placed on child protection orders as I truly believe this is harmful for those who are not able to give consent.

Also most of those influencers are on there posting, often on their own threads. Their own families also spilling the dirt.

I sometimes lurk on a few threads about certain influencers who I think exploit their kids and the vitriol is quite strong but it's never about the kids themselves, more calling out the behaviour of the parents. Yes there are some comments that I think cross the line and it's a bit grubby. I do think influencers need more scrutiny though. I'm not sure Tattle is exactly the solution.

I have to say everyone on there seems pretty nice to other posters- unlike mumsnet!

There's a 'table of contents' 😭😭 oh dear 👀👀

They are bloody rude but usually spot on about influencers and celebrities who lie and / or exploit their children.

I've never been on the MN thread in case I've been slagged off at one point.

Hey, Tattle, send me an invite! I have opinions on Alice Evans I need to share. 😂

It’s basically GOMI (Get Off My Internet) 2.0, but less American and more British.

As long as there has been the internet places like to pick apart bloggers (or these days influencers) and celebs with some valid sleuthing followed by a plunge into rather unstable levels of vitriol and 2+2=seventy squillion.

They are founded, they flourish, they go slightly bonkers, then more bonkers, they get sued to oblivion or fall apart from infighting and people fleeing the increasingly shrill batshittery… and then the cycle repeats again in a new spawn.

I don’t understand Tattle. How do you become a member? Sometimes I see people on here asking for codes? Why is this?

Because they closed joining to new members without a code. They had a mass influx a couple months ago though when they opened up joining again.

Please check out the recent sands case, a weathly married couple from northern Ireland who silenced nasty tattle allegations

I follow a couple of threads on there but don’t have an account. When the site starting getting a lot of press over the summer, one of the beauty influencers I followed on ig made a comment about how it was an awful site and should be taken down. I messaged her and asked politely why she didn’t do what she suggests to people that don’t like her content - ‘if you don’t like me, don’t follow me, don’t look at my page’. I asked why she felt the need to look at Tattle if it upset her so much? She wrote back telling me I was a troll, that she knew who I was, that it had taken less than a minute to find me on Tattle (impossible as I don’t have an account) and that I should fuck off and that she was blocking me.

God forbid anyone calls out an influencer….

I came on to say this! I’m not a Tattle member and don’t post, but sometimes read threads. The MN thread is gold.

I’ve been on MN for donkeys but it’s important to be able to take the piss out of onself 😆

Teeny, tiny Mumsnetters cracks me up.

I read a couple of threads and find them spot on. I have read that posters on some of the threads can go a bit a far but I don’t read those so can’t really comment.

The bit of Tattle I read, I love! It’s no different from any other site/forum really. There’s some vile people on here for example but that seems to be overlooked by people who think here is superior to Tattle.

There is also a thread taking the piss out of here which I’ve just discovered and it’s hilariously accurate!

Yes, and didn’t Clemmie Hooper reveal herself on there a few years back?

I don't post but often read various threads including the Mumsnet one. They're absolutely spot on; people just dislike them because they call out all the teeny tiny Mumsnet waifs with 6ft rugby player hollow leg sons and they're able to recognise bullshit on here far better than most MN members or mods can.

It's not just that, they're pretty nasty about some people. Dressing bullying up as 'calling people out' doesn't stop it being bullying, anymore than does some people finding some cruel remarks funny

Any MNer I've seen referenced by name in a negative way on tattle has generally been pretty shit to people on here, or is an obvious troll. Mumsnet is far nastier than Tattle, it just disguises it under passive aggressive attitudes and undeserved superiority.

@DontGoJasonWaterfalls OK. I've seen a pretty vulnerable person trolled quite badly there

I joined because there was a time you couldn’t say anything negative about JM without it being deleted. Tattle did good work showing her up for what she is.

Tattle is quite a decent forum as it’s one of the only ones that exist now that doesn’t have insane levels of censorship.

Yes, of course some of the posts can be quite cutting and there’s the odd thread which may be nastier than others, but on the whole it’s quite a nice community with a lot of humour and a decent bit of advice. The behaviour on Mumsnet is far, far worse in my opinion.

I don’t go onto the Influencer threads. I assume this is where the bad reputation comes from. But the most controversial stuff I’ve seen there is probably from the Harry and Meghan threads - which have actually exposed a few things over the years.

I think I started there with the Phillip Schofield situation when he first came out. Every single detail (and more) was posted there many years before his eventual downfall.

Ha, I was waiting for a post about this person to pop up. Big Teefs gets around.

Yes that the ones. Those poor children and as you say, they’re constantly told they’re living their best life and how lucky they are. It’s abuse and neglect in plain sight. 😞

I can’t post on there as my account needs verifying and it doesn’t work. Secret Celebrity gossip threads are my favourite. Really funny and random. The mumsnet one makes me laugh. I don’t really follow any influencers except the Jake Quickenden one as he blocked me for commenting he shouldn’t have a pic of his naked son in the bath on insta 🙄 With all forums there’s a lot of supportive comments and toxic ones. Reddit and X are horrendous so I’ve never got why the focus is on Tattle.

It’s different from Mumsnet in that no one ever disagrees with each other. They join a thread to rip the shit out of whoever the subject is and they have that hatred in common.

So they seem supportive of each other rather than arguing like we do on here. It’s mutual stroking (there’s a cruder expression for this).

I would love to know what would happen if some of the (for example) Meghan supporters from here managed to infiltrate their Meghan hate thread and disagree with them in the same way that happens on Mumsnet. Because you never see a dissenting voice. Do they get banned?