Big fall out - who is (most) in the wrong?

[Dibrew]

I would welcome opinions on this situation which is currently playing out.

Person A is a masseuse, working part time evenings out of a leisure centre attached to a secondary school.

Person A told Person B that she had terminated a session with the male partner of Person C. Person A doesn’t know Person C, but she knows Person B is friends with them.

Person B tells Person C of what was said by Person A. The session was terminated due to him offering money towards the end of this for sexual services.

Person C’s partner strongly denies this. Person C accuses Person A of breaking data protection rules and says Person B is attempting to shit stir.

Person A is in beach of confidentiality as she should not have identified her client to person B.

I don’t see what data protection has to do with this.

ultimately this will be his word against the masseuse and he will obviously lie if he did so no way to get to the truth.

if it had happened to me I’d be appalled.

I'm not sure data protection is there to stop people calling out sexual harassment...

What on earth was the masseuse doing talking about what had happened? Surely what to do is covered in training? Person B shouldn’t have passed on the nugget. I guess the least at fault is person C.

Am I the only person who had to read that 5 times to understand it. I thought I was fairly intelligent 😆

Not sure that there are any data protection rules attached to offering someone money for sexual services.

I think the only person in the wrong is the dodgy partner or the masseuse if they are lying.

Person A should have kept schtum, but I don’t think it’s GDPR. Very indiscreet to tell Person B who was involved. By all means, say a client was inappropriate, but not who! Unfortunate and Person C was a fucking idiot/disgraceful for offering.

The DH of person C for being a sleazebag.

Person C's sleazy partner.

I think the masseuse handled it unprofessionally. I'm sure there is a way to handle such incidents that don't include telling the friend of the partner of the person you are accusing.

Person C's revolting partner is the one in the wrong.

The poor woman sexually harassed at her work and telling her friend about it isn't.

Person A should have written an email to sleazeball outlining what he did and stating he isn't welcome back, just to keep a paper trail if nothing else.

Sleazeball is most in the wrong though.

I don't think you have to protect the anonymity of someone who sexually harasses you at your work.

I’m not sure gdpr covers warning people about possible clients trying to pay for sexual services does it.

The man was most in the wrong.

i do think A was also wrong for telling a friend in that way, does seem a bit like gossiping

The way it was phrased was as if she told the friend of the person's partner with the intention of them telling the partner. Not that they wanted support from a friend. If this was the US and this could go to a civil court, that's what they'd say.

Did person A tell B with the express wish that B pass the info on to C? Was A genuinely trying to protect C from sleazebag husband? Or was A gossiping, and B took it on herself to gossip too?

A shouldn’t have been passing info on as gossip, but I can imagine if she was specifically trying to warn C, that’s a bit different. If she was just gossiping, she put B in a hard situation - pass info onto her friend or not?

C’s husband is most in the wrong if it’s true.

Can't believe people are criticising the masseuse. Why on earth should they have to keep quiet about sexual harassment in the workplace?

I would assume that when you get qualifications as a masseuse, they do cover these issues and how to handle them professionally/legally.

Does person A have a camera in the room? At no point should any client be fully naked anyway but protects both customer and client in these situations.

Nope no camera. The bloke is alleging that she tried it on with him and she is hurt at being rejected hence making an issue.

I doubt it since some of these courses you seem to be able to do barely cover the actual topic let alone legal. Sadly.

The suggestion is gossip rather than a deliberate warning.

Person A for telling person B. They should have just asked foe person Cs contact details directly if they wanted them to know what happened

Person B decided to throw the shit at the fan by telling Person C. Person A was likely feeling shaken and shocked by the encounter and told Person B whilst upset. Person C is shooting the messenger and talking nonsense about Data Protection (what data?!).

So all of the above Alphabet people have their reasons. Meanwhile DH of C is obviously a sleazy toad so hopefully PC will soon realise and walk away.

Ah so now the wife has been told his a sleeze ball now his flipped it that the lady tried it on with him.

Didn’t think to tell his wife that at the time no?