Big fall out - who is (most) in the wrong?

[Dibrew]

I would welcome opinions on this situation which is currently playing out.

Person A is a masseuse, working part time evenings out of a leisure centre attached to a secondary school.

Person A told Person B that she had terminated a session with the male partner of Person C. Person A doesn’t know Person C, but she knows Person B is friends with them.

Person B tells Person C of what was said by Person A. The session was terminated due to him offering money towards the end of this for sexual services.

Person C’s partner strongly denies this. Person C accuses Person A of breaking data protection rules and says Person B is attempting to shit stir.

I don’t think person A did anything wrong, this behaviour needs to be called out and reported.

Of course he fucking is.

to misquote someone or other, he would say that wouldn’t he!

it’s quite common for women to warn other women about men who sexually harass them.

"You know that friend of yours, C? Her husband came for a massage at work and tried to pay me to wank him off. I kicked him out, the dirty sod. You might want to seer clear of him. His poor wife. What a sleazebag."

In what universe does C's husband expect anyone to believe the masseuse propositioned him? Yeah, right.

The real villain here is the sleazy man. He deserves everything he gets

Not just you, it was like a riddle on 1% club 😂

Too many ‘persons’ to follow. I just got that someone’s boyfriend wants a happy ending.

I don’t think the masseuse will get into trouble for this. I hope they have reported it officially.

The blokes partner must be pretty thick to believe him. Or sadly desperate.

Person A at fault for gossiping to person B.

Potentially a GDPR issue: The masseuse identifying customers by name without their consent is probably technically a data breach.

More of an issue is potential slander. Both by the Masseuse and the gossip (B?). Although with the update of the partner of C also accusing the masseuse of 'trying it on' the partner of C may also be committing slander.

It all comes down to he said / she said and is like an episode of Hollyoaks.

Can't they all just get into a ball pit and fight it out? Whilst you run for the hills away from this mess.

Person A was unprofessional to tell mutually known people, but there shouldn’t have been anything to tell and creeps offering massage therapists money for sexual favours don’t deserve professionalism. They are all better off dropping it.

The bloke.

The man is the most in the wrong.
Following that, A is in the wrong and has made a very bad business move!
I don't think B did anything wrong. I don't like to gossip or get involved in others peoples business but if I found out my friends DH had done this, I would have to tell my friend and I'd expect a friend to tell me too if it was the other way round.

It's not so much about whether it happened or not, it's whether telling a friend that you pretty much knew would tell the partner was the correct procedure to follow. It depends on whether there are relevant contracts involved between the client, leisure centre and/or Person A that commit to some sort of privacy around your attendance/membership. It depends if that is to be assumed from a professional masseuse if Person A even is professionally accredited.

Person C could be 100% guilty and Person A still 100% wrong in how they handled it.

I can see why A might have legitimately felt the need to warn B - to protect her from a known sleaze in her social circle. B could likewise have had the best of intentions to protect her friend.

Person C is obviously reacting in shock but will hopefully wake up. And divorce the twat.

If person A’s actions make other men think twice before propositioning her, it sounds like an eminently sensible business move.

Ha brilliant. She tried it on with him - of course. The world is full of sexually voracious masseuses working out of local leisure centres. Wouldn’t be caring about his mantrum but wtf was the friend of both thinking.

@BeCalmLilacLion - A didn't know B would tell C. She was telling her friend about a creep at work that B's likely to interact with. I'd want my pals to tell me if the guy I'm seeing at social events was actually a gross sex pest/offender.

I don't know if I'd tell C in B's position. People in denial about their horrible partners tend to shoot the messenger.

Fine for Person A to report what happened, but I'd have thought the correct way of reporting it would to report it to her employer (or if she's freelance, the premises she rents space from) rather than gossiping to Person B about it and naming the man in question.

Either way, Person B should have kept her mouth shut rather than running off to Person C to say 'Guess what your awful husband did'. Frankly, nobody here is behaving terribly well.

Obviously the person most in the wrong is Person C's husband who seemed to think that a masseuse at a local authority leisure centre would give happy endings. What an absolute wrong'un.

Person A was moderately unprofessional to be sharing that level of information with a mate like Person B, unless Person B is also a masseuse and needed to know for safety reasons. Person B was an absolute twat to go running off to tell Person C. Person C should be worrying more about being married to a sex-pest husband than getting irate with Persons A and B.

How do you know that A didn't know?

C sounds like a right idiot if she's even thinking about believing her boyfriend's rubbish that he had to reject the advances of a masseuse.

He's a sleaze who deserves having other women warned about him.

Telling someone you were sexually propositioned in your job isn’t gossip the woman was more than likely gutted.

I was doing all right until person C entered the discourse, went back to eating my crisps at that point.

Man acts like sleazebag and other women bang on about GDPR and confidentiality like the masseuse is a priest. We’re doomed. Doomed I tell you.

Stupid man FAFO. The end.

@BeCalmLilacLion How does anyone know what other people are going to say or not say? Unless the accusation is "Please tell your friend C what her disgusting husband did."

But that's not what C is saying, she's saying A acted illegally in naming her husband as a client (claiming a GDPR breach)

And then saying it was A who was the sexual predator, not her sleazy bloke.