Differences between college and school I've got one in each I can't believe the difference ?

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I've got one daughter in school doing a levels and my son is in college doing a course both want to go to uni.

I'm really shocked by the difference we don't get a parents evening at college and they are told we only get your parents in if there is an issue. There have been no discussions or help to see how he can improve ? He seems to be doing ok but it's hard to tell. When I emailed to ask how he's doing I didn't feel secure that the person I spoke to knew him well or his work?
By contrast my daughters school still has parents evening for everyone and she's doing really well and there are no concerns but it's really nice for her to have that time to get praise and they get reports ? Why would they do it differently in a college ?

With my daughter I know where she is at for her course and the exams .
I feel college is so much more removed than the school and at the school they know her much better.

We were also told in my daughters school how UCAS works and there was an information evening about it . They see their references and sign them off. At the college we have had no information about it and they don't show my son the reference !
This is not necessarily a criticism but I'm just wondering why the stark difference .

@BillieWiper they can't they have to be in education of somesort

Sorry, they can't do what?

I’m in Scotland so I think quite a different set up, but no we don’t directly get penalised for students failing. However our main PIs are student achievement and student retention - if either of these is poor then over time courses can be cut, and government funding is cut, so obviously jobs are then (ultimately) cut. The pressure to have students achieve is vast, and there can be all manner of reasons students drop out, from mental health to pregnancy to homelessness, to Betty is studying engineering because her dad’s an engineer, but really she wanted to do drama and isn’t into her course which are completely out of our control.