To not really get why people don’t like clothes?

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I’m not talking about specifically liking fashion or following certain trends.

I mean in general, clothes are a personal choice. They can express who you are, there’s do much choice out there. Why people say they don’t care what they wear?

Definitely. My big fear is a favourite item being discontinued, so I always have a spare pack/item on hand in case that happens, so I have time to find myself a suitable replacement.

This exactly!

People dressing identically to express their individuality has always cracked me up

I'm not sure why comfort means that you don't care what your clothes look like though.
I care what I look like and enjoy dressing up ( at least my version of it!). However I wouldn't pick anything to wear that wasn't comfy. All my clothes are picked for style and comfort.
I have too many memories of being a teenager and lying on the bed to get my jeans done up.....im not going there again!LOL

Because due to my autism, I have so many sensory issues that finding clothes that are both stylish and tolerable to wear for long periods is like finding a needle in haystack, and I honestly don't have the energy to bother lol.

If I can find something that's comfortable and that I can tolerate on my skin all day without wanting to have a meltdown, I've already hit the jackpot and will buy about ten of them. What they look like just doesn't matter at that point.

@henlake7 I don’t think it’s difficult to understand. The question was about people’s criteria for selecting clothes. For some, the answer is ‘comfort’ while others will say ‘comfort AND style’.

Yes it is possible to care about comfort and style equally, but not everyone does- it’s as simple as that.

Yes, exactly.

For me, shopping for style as well as comfort would be too stressful and limiting to be worth it, so I go for the most important thing - comfort.

There is enough clothing to clothe the world six times over and most of it is shitty, microplastic shedding, fast fashion

By all means express yourself, but stop buying new every time

Is it really? Never anything more?
If it's just comfort, then why would we ever take off our pyjamas?

I don't wear pyjamas

And I don't think it would go down very well if I turned up to walk people's dogs in nothing but an oversized t-shirt - not very practical either!

So yes, comfort for me is the priority, and that includes practicality - what's comfortable at home is different to what's tolerable and comfortable at work.

But people who care about style often make better choices. I still wear dresses from 20 or more years ago. I've never fallen for fast fashion and I buy things to last. I'd rather spend on one decent dress from Toast that will last me years than grab 10 items from Primark that will have no longevity.

There are whole Daily Mail articles and mumsnet threads complaining that some people don’t!

clothes have 3 functions:

1. to preserve modesty
2. to instil self confidence because you feel "good" in them
3. to attract or please a mate because you look sexy (see 2 above)

But that's also a privileged position to be in - as not everyone can afford to save up for a better quality item. If you have one pair of trainers and they've fallen apart, and you have £20 - then you have no choice but to pay a pair of £20 trainers. You can't wait until you can afford the £90 pair.

It's the Boots Theory again.

And also to protect.

I mean why does it bother you so much what other people choose to wear?

I would honestly absolutely love that.

But PJs aren’t suitable for my work- I have a practical job. Aside from that, I do wear PJs to sleep in and also wear them to lounge in at home. When I walk the dog, I wear old ‘loungewear’ which are basically PJs. So in fact I am wearing PJs and PJ adjacent clothing a lot of the time.

Yep.

I personally don't like pyjamas (too flappy and loose) but wear leggings all the time at home and at work. But for work I will adapt and wear fleece-lined ones in winter, or shorter length ones in summer. I'll wear thicker teddy fleece hoodies on colder days, loose t-shirts on warmer days etc.

I basically DO wear pyjamas, just more practical versions of them.

I like clothes and am aesthetically minded. Very visually driven. So everyday I wear jeans and a top, which is what my life requires generally. For a funeral or wedding, I dress for the occasion. But day to day, the choice of jeans and the choice of jumper are never just 'that will do'. I buy items of clothing to reintroduce old stuff, I think about how colours will work together and I only throw stuff away if it is completely past it. For the last few years, this has meant motheaten so quite a lot has had to go. I don't look dressed up ever, but in my opinion, even my jeans and jersey are chosen carefully. Today I have on a cotton Guernsey jumper my late mum made 30 years ago and red jeans I have owned for six years. Thermals under. Other than a Buck House investiture, there's not much I could not pull together an outfit to suit from my wardrobe, and I could make a decent stab at Buck House too.

I love certain types of clothes. Well the idea of wearing them. I have many beautiful dresses, coats, shoes etc. Despite not being a dress.person at all. I think I just like the look of them.
However...I never get to wear them as I spend most of my time alone, at home or in the countryside. It would be utterly pointless and uncomfortable to to go camping or traipse around the woods in such items of clothing. As such I spend the vast majority of time in comfortable practical clothing appropriate for the weather.
I also have sensory issues and dislike the feel of things like shoulder straps, jeans, anything around my waist, tight clothing. I also have no desire to make any statement and do not care what strangers think of my appearance. Never have.

I've decided to keep a few favourites for 'just in case'/the odd social event etc and flog the rest on Vinted.

I'm slim and pretty attractive (if I do say so myself 😂) but am happy in a hoodie and joggers most of the time. Might put on jeans if I'm leaving the house. Only really make a proper effort for events or if on a night out.

But I spend Mon-Fri driving heavy plant vehicles around in the mud and most of my evenings in the gym lifting. Not a girly office worker type tbh. I scrub up quite easily though so don't need to make much effort. Some people need a lot of make up to not look like a troll so it's different for everybody.

EDIT: The humour may not have come across quite as planned. I probs shouldn't post when I've had a 🍷 lol.

It’s funny, I am very interested in clothes, and I was just thinking earlier tonight that I wish I wasn’t. I noticed a woman around my age in very plain, practical clothes - perfectly appropriate for the weather and the activity she was doing, but clearly no effort had been made to match anything or put anything together in a flattering or interesting way.

I looked at her and thought “god, I wish I was like that. Life would be so much simpler, and I’d gain so much spare time if I didn’t care about what I wore other than for purely practical reasons.

But sadly I’m a vain, superficial baggage, and I can’t see that changing at this stage in my life!

Try walking to work in the lashing rain in pajamas and tell me that's comfortable. Also my boss thinks that pyjamas are unsuitable work wear, not sure why!

I’m not even sure what putting together clothes in an interesting way is. What do you mean by that - genuinely interested

Me neither

I kind of understand how to dress to flatter my shape (not that I generally bother) but interesting? How do you do that?