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To have completely misunderstood the meaning of some sayings?

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KermitTheToad · 18/11/2025 20:53

I only found out today that the term Social Butterfly refers to someone who is outgoing and loves social events. I thought it meant you didn't like social events, as in you would fly away and avoid them. I also until recently thought that a Spendthrift is somebody who is frugal in their spending. I assumed that as thrifty meant not being wasteful, that Spendthrift meant being careful in what you spent.
YANBU..I see where you are coming from.
YABU.. You are a wally, go back to school!

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sunshinestar1986 · 20/11/2025 10:30

Makeitstop2025 · 18/11/2025 21:12

Tall, Dark and Handsome. I always pictured that to mean a white man and that the "dark" was in reference to features such as black/brown hair or brown eyes. A friend told me that the dark was in reference to skin colour and that it basically meant a person of colour.

Before anyone comments that it shows my bias, I am a person of colour!

Erm not neccassarily
Dark can just be exactly as you assumed
Dark hair, maybe a little tan?
Ive seen Italians described like that
And even White English men with Dark hair and eyes

Thistlewoman · 20/11/2025 10:32

I used to work with someone who regularly and happily trotted out the phrase 'change tact' when she meant 'change tack'. It used to drive me mad, but I was too polite to mention it.
Then there was the colleague who said 'pacific' when she meant 'specific'.. I had to leave the room when that one got used 🤣

alexdgr8 · 20/11/2025 10:46

WarrenTofficier · 19/11/2025 20:20

Modern electric kettle do......
But that is a relatively recent development, they are also turned on rather on put (e.g. onto the stove) these days but put on persists as a phrase.
In our house the response to 'put the kettle on' is 'It won't fit me'.

My Irish sister in law says plug out the kettle where we would say unplug.
I guess it's logical.
Plug in. Plug out.
Still sounds odd though.

Ladygodalmighty · 20/11/2025 10:52

Thistlewoman · 20/11/2025 10:26

Your definition is not what that saying means.

A friend in need is a friend indeed. Means that the person who is there supporting you when you need help is truly your friend. 💞

Thistlewoman · 20/11/2025 10:58

Maureenwasacat · 18/11/2025 22:49

My husband has recently learned that moreish doesn't mean bland

TBH regardless of meaning, I think anyone who uses that word should be shot on sight.

diddl · 20/11/2025 11:01

WaaWaaPedal · 19/11/2025 22:13

Always thought nonplussed meant not bothered. Now I know I say non-non-plussed to mean not bothered instead 😆

You could just say plussed!

Ladygodalmighty · 20/11/2025 11:03

soupyspoon · 18/11/2025 21:09

Spendthrift is surely an oxymoron, Ive always known what it means but it doesnt make sense

The original meaning of the word "thrift" was wealth and/or savings, so a SPENDTHRIFT was someone who squandered their wealth or savings Also referred to as a "scattergood" which I think is a brilliant word which I'm going to start using 😃

Fluffy40 · 20/11/2025 11:21

When I was nursing I saw another nurse type, patient is very poly.

k1233 · 20/11/2025 12:07

This is really interesting on how one word can mean a lot of things due to inflection and enunciation

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1FkNB9kXXG/

GoldenGail · 20/11/2025 12:19

Makeitstop2025 · 18/11/2025 21:12

Tall, Dark and Handsome. I always pictured that to mean a white man and that the "dark" was in reference to features such as black/brown hair or brown eyes. A friend told me that the dark was in reference to skin colour and that it basically meant a person of colour.

Before anyone comments that it shows my bias, I am a person of colour!

Actually in Scotland it does mean dark haired, We always ask for a tall, dark and handsome man to come first foot us at Hogmanay . A throwback from being invaded by tall blond vikings

verybighouseinthecountry · 20/11/2025 12:19

My mum used to say she was up to high dough, meaning agitated. I thought it was in reference to dough rising too high and the possibility of it going over the edge of the tin. I learned a few months ago it's high doh, as in music.

Leavesfalling · 20/11/2025 13:13

Ladygodalmighty · 20/11/2025 11:03

The original meaning of the word "thrift" was wealth and/or savings, so a SPENDTHRIFT was someone who squandered their wealth or savings Also referred to as a "scattergood" which I think is a brilliant word which I'm going to start using 😃

Yes I agree. I like the word "scattergood" too but just to double check what it means as this thread reveals many of us are complete nitwits including me. Is it a good thing or bad thing to be a scattergood? Im thinking bad but can't be 100% now...

latetothefisting · 20/11/2025 13:30

soupyspoon · 19/11/2025 17:12

I KNOW!!!
I know its 'looks like a bomb's hit it'

But over the years, in our family and neighbours/friends its turned into a descriptor of its own 'bomsisit'

Thats a right bomsisit. Its a bomsitit in here

But how have you "turned it into a descriptor of its own" when you're still using the same phrase to mean the same thing, just running the words together a bit more?

If a new person came into your family and you said "this room looks like a bombsisit" they wouldn't think "what the hell does that mean and start googling "what is a bonnsisit?" They'd realise you were saying "it looks like a bomb has a hit it" but just think you needed to enunciate a bit better!

KilliMonjaro · 20/11/2025 14:39

Thistlewoman · 20/11/2025 10:58

TBH regardless of meaning, I think anyone who uses that word should be shot on sight.

Ooo those picky bits are very moreish! 🤣🤣🤣

Leavesfalling · 20/11/2025 14:45

KilliMonjaro · 20/11/2025 14:39

Ooo those picky bits are very moreish! 🤣🤣🤣

Oh thank you so much. Now I feel sick.

I see M&S have got an aisle dedicated to "picky bits" with a Picky Bits sign, which I avoid, often at great inconvenience to myself having to travel a further distance within store to get to the non picky part.

Member984815 · 20/11/2025 14:47

Ladygodalmighty · 20/11/2025 10:52

A friend in need is a friend indeed. Means that the person who is there supporting you when you need help is truly your friend. 💞

Isn't it friend in deed not indeed ? As in they help out

diddl · 20/11/2025 14:52

Isn't it friend in deed not indeed ? As in they help out

No.

They are indeed a friend as they help you out when you are in need.

Friendlygingercat · 20/11/2025 15:00

Many interesting sayings have come down from military usuage📧

Keep your powder dry – remain prepared and ready to act

Bite the bullet – endure something painful or unpleasant

Charlie Foxtrot - a chaotic or disastrous situation

Friendly fire – an army hitting its own forces

Its not rocket science – not very difficult to do or understand

TattyBluebell · 20/11/2025 15:14

Nope, you're not being unreasonable at all! I totally get it and I do exactly the same! xxxx

LadeOde · 20/11/2025 15:18

'Crocodile tears' as in its all crocodile tears! - Pretentious tears, insincere grief.

'The wisdom of Solomon, has nothing to do with the age of Methuselah' - Wisdom is not necessarily tied to age.

' Rain does not fall on one roof alone' - Trouble will come to everyone eventually.

'The child who refuses to allow his mother sleep, will himself not see sleep'.- If you are determined to create problems/trouble for your neighbor, you yourself will have no peace of mind.

Leavesfalling · 20/11/2025 15:23

Friendlygingercat · 20/11/2025 15:00

Many interesting sayings have come down from military usuage📧

Keep your powder dry – remain prepared and ready to act

Bite the bullet – endure something painful or unpleasant

Charlie Foxtrot - a chaotic or disastrous situation

Friendly fire – an army hitting its own forces

Its not rocket science – not very difficult to do or understand

Going over the top
In the trenches
In the line of fire
In my sights (that's Richard Armitage although Ive recently found out he may not be that interested in ladies otherwise he would be knocking at my door(

RescueMeFromThisSilliness · 20/11/2025 15:28

I always used to think that the John Lewis motto of 'Never knowingly undersold' meant that they would charge as high a price as they could get away with.

Whereas it actually means that if a competitor's price is lower, they will match it.

Thing is though, I reckon I was right the first time!

sweetpickle2 · 20/11/2025 15:37

Crying my eyes out at some of these! Or should I say, balling my eyes out, as I often see on here (which just sounds painful).

See also: chester drawers and sneak peak.

RescueMeFromThisSilliness · 20/11/2025 16:01

MissDoubleU · 18/11/2025 22:40

In context the prodigal son was a bit of the golden boy. He’s the son that ran off and didn’t care for his family, did his own thing, spent all his money and lived a lavish selfish life of hookers and blow. Then, on returning to his father was welcomed back with such open and loving arms the father killed the fattened calf and threw a feast. The sons slaving away at the family business all those years didn’t ever get a feast, but the whore meister prodigal got a damn fattened calf. 100% golden child.

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I've never been all that much of a fan of that parable, to be honest. 😁

Deeply unfair towards the loyal, honest, hardworking, trustworthy sons, yet we are supposed to believe it is a Good Thing when GoldenBalls returns and gets handed the lot on a plate.

MissDoubleU · 20/11/2025 16:04

RescueMeFromThisSilliness · 20/11/2025 16:01

I've never been all that much of a fan of that parable, to be honest. 😁

Deeply unfair towards the loyal, honest, hardworking, trustworthy sons, yet we are supposed to believe it is a Good Thing when GoldenBalls returns and gets handed the lot on a plate.

Agreed!! I hate it so specifically because my mum used to use it towards me when I went “off the rails” as she put it. We’ve been NC for 15 years, here’s to many more 😂