To ask how would you feel if your do was going on a weeks holiday with their family?

[Loveduppenguin]

Just as the question says. Partner going on a holiday with their parents and brother (just the 4 of them) no partners. Parents are paying for the flights and accommodation. Your partner will just have to pay for food and entertainment etc.
you are not being left with dc or anything.

I would think it a bit rude of his parents not to include partners in the invitation tbh.

Op would then be at liberty to say no if they wanted to.

That’s a totally different scenario to not being invited in the first place as if you didn’t exist.

Sounds great. I regularly take my adult DC away and pay for everything. We have a lovely time.

I can’t imagine their DPs complaining about it. Why would they?

Much as i love my DH, my brothers / sisters in law and all the children, I actually think it would be awesome to recreate the original nuclear family for a weekend / short break, so id be fine with it

Totally different to be eg the only DIL left at home

My PIL are heading towards 80. Still fit (FIL could probably outrun me at 77), but they are getting older.

I suggested that dh and SIL go away with them for a long weekend to a place they always used to go when they were little. They are doing it next Easter holidays. I lost my dad recently (my mum a long time ago), and it made me realise how lucky they are both to have thier parents still here. They should make the most of it, all relive some childhood/family memories together.

Would depend on how old DP was tbh

I'd be jubiliant 😁

I wouldnt mind at all.

Myself, DM and DSis go away for a week every year, just the 3 of us. It's a girls holiday.
My DH and sons stay home and never complain. It's tough if they did complain tbh, you dont get forever with your parents.

Free hoooooouse

I'd immediately have a big girls night in (not that I couldn't do that anyway but I don't like to inflict it on my husband too often, me and my pals get rowdy!) and then spend the rest of the time loafing in my jammies and eating all the crap I love but I'd be far to embarrassed to cook for another human.

Caveat here is that my husband and I get boatloads of leave so it's not like we can't also go on holiday together as and when we like

Yes. This.

it’s what I was getting at in first post. It’s just impossible to know.

I’ve been on holiday with MIL and left DH.

Is this a 50 year old in a 30 year relationship leaving partner to go five star all inclusive every year.

Or a new relationship and a long planned family holiday.

I wouldn’t care less in my particular family set up, with four kids, would think it lovely. It wouldn’t happen, but would be lovely if it did. Without kids, would also have thought lovely.

I’d feel like I should book myself a holiday without him too, which would be quite exciting.

I don't think it would bother me. I can see that it's probably a nice thing for the family to do together and I like my own company

I’d wave him off and enjoy a week of watching crappy telly and having the whole bed to myself 😂

Pre children I think it’s great. Unless as someone said you have big travel plans that require all thier annual leave or expect you to help fund it.

I'd be absolutely fine about this and hoping they have a fabulous time.

Are you serious? That’s a great thing to do! I didn’t realise having a partner means you can’t have fun without them!

I agree, but some Mners feel it’s ‘disrespectful’ that they’re not included in the invitation.

It’s like a race to who can be the most offended on here sometimes, especially when in laws are involved. I am quite capable of looking after the children alone for a week while dh enjoys some time with his parents and sister. Who knows how many years they will have left together.

It’s madness how so many people on here would take such offence to that.

I have absolutely no issue at all if dh and his family spend time together without me! I love having the house to myself!

But it depends on the context doesn’t it?

If you are continuously and purposefully excluded from family events by pils then it could be deliberately disrespectful. And most people would find that hurtful.

If though op’s relationship with in-laws is ok, friendly and normal the rest of the time, then it’s fine.

Op hasn’t been back to provide context so we don’t know do we?

Nice! Peace and quiet

No kids to look after? I’ll drive them all to the airport!

Partner going away with 'their' parents? That sounds like more than one 'partner'. Then you say partner, brother and parents (4 people). It's a bit confusing,

You "are not being left with dc or anything"; does that mean you will be left alone, have no children or children are elsewhere?

It seems a bit odd for these parents to be taking their two adult children away for a week without the children's partners, if they are in long-term and committed relationships. I wonder why.

I wouldn't mind being alone for a week, if everything was above board.

@Loveduppenguin It really would help if you added some context, as you were asked to 1min after you first posted, nearly 3 hours ago.

I agree, the first post is difficult to navigate.

Sorry I fell asleep. Yes I’m the one going away with my family. My DP is actually fine with it, it was my friend who was surprised and thought it was unfair and that her dh would not be happy. Neither my dp or my SIL mind to be honest so just gauging opinions.

this is not annual, this is the first time since we were children ourselves that we are doing this.

If my partners siblings had partners going I’d be feeling a certain way but I don’t see what’s to get upset about if it’s literally parents and siblings.

You’re not being victimised or purposely left out.