Is this dress considered ‘black tie’ enough?

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I’m attending my first black tie party next weekend and have, in true ‘me’ style; left the dress to the last minute.

I am really struggling to find anything I like / that feels suitable in stores, everything’s shifted to Christmas and short sequin dresses…

This is the only one I came across that was full length and I kind of liked. I am extremely self conscious after having lost a lot of weight and having lots of loose skin around my stomach, and I hate my arms so having them covered is an absolute MUST for me!

would you say this is suitable for a black tie event, or is it too casual?

I haven’t got shoes on in this photo, and would wear some nice statement jewellery etc.

Thank you!

Thank you ❤️

Ive added some photos to my new thread as I couldn’t attach them here for some reason!

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5446226-is-this-dress-considered-black-tie-enough?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

Smoking 🔥 great dress and congrats on the weight loss 🎉🥳👏

Exactly

You are not doing yourself enough justice op

Lovely colour on you xxxx

Looks like you’ve got a fabulous figure that’s hiding under the dress. Shop for an alternative dress that fits & flatters you.

Its not very flattering. There's too much material I think something a bit more A line would look better

You looking stunning! 🤩

Dress makes you look a bit ‘mummified’. It hides so much yet doesn’t flatter. It doesn’t have to be a dress - I find dresses hard to wear due to belly sensitivities. I go for luxurious trousers and tops with jewellery - or a top and skirt, so I don’t have to display my slightly lumpy middle to the world. Sleeves don’t need to be to the wrist although that would look fine in a streamlined top.

Whatever dress you go for, the important thing is the right underwear underneath. Control pants/ bodies etc don’t just hold you in, they smooth your form, so if you are concerned about extra skin etc, it will help with that.

That’s very nice in green.

I know what you mean about the arms! Following drastic weight loss, I wouldn’t dream of leaving my upper arms uncovered, they swing in the breeze! I quite like the red dress in the op, try a size down and some hoick it all up bodyshaper. I have excess skin round the stomach, just get big shaper knickers from Primark.

Agreed. Sorry.

I love it, looks great on you

I don't like the sleeves on the black one but I have never liked that style. They look like they need to be hoisted back up.

Yes...gorgeous colour too❤️

Congrats on the weight loss.

I am gonna lay it out ..the red dress looks awful on you (although I suspect it would look awful on most people) but I caveat it with I think you have probably done what I do and tried it on with whatever undies you were wearing at the time. So with a decent lift bra etc it may look different. That said my other reasons are as most others have said...
It doesn't scream black tie to me
It's too big on you
Too much fabric so it isnt showing off your figure like it should
Sits too high on your neckline to be flattering
The ridiculous belt thing hanging down the front looks awful and draws attention to the worst part of the dress (not you just the dress in general)

The latter dresses you have ordered are much nicer and imo more "black tie" and I suspect in the right size and with the right underwear will suit you much better.

I have been to a few formal black tie events and less is always more. Keep the dress simple and elegant. Dress it up with statement jewellery if you must but honestly simple = classy

No. It makes you look lumpy. Figure hugging dresses only work if one is a (true) size 10 or less.

Thank you all. I’ve linked my new thread with the photo of the black dress here - unfortunately I wasn’t able to add any more photos on this thread for some reason.

thanks!

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5446557-is-this-dress-considered-black-tie-enough-part-2?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

You look like a nicely wrapped parcel. I’m fairly sure the shoulder part should be off the shoulder.

This is a picture of it from the shop website (when it loads), it's not meant to be off the shoulder - the trussed-up vibe is the intended look.

Love the dress, it’s gorgeous and you look fabulous!

That was my exact thought. Not because of OP but because of the abundance of wrapped fabric.

As you’re in a hot climate I would go for something softer and more floaty.

Hi love the black dress you look lovely very elegant