Aibu? I’m genuinely not sure

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I was in a position to do the “Delivering Joy” initiative in Dunelm. For anyone who doesn’t know it, you pick a tag off the tree and it’ll have the gender, age and what they’d like for Christmas.

I spent a lot of time on mine as I wanted someone who might not get anything actually feel special at Christmas.

I took it into store (it was really quiet) and gave it to the woman working the tills and the interaction went -

“Is this where you drop off the delivery joy gift bags”
“yes”

Handed it over. That was it. I just thought there would be a “thank you”. Literally nothing more was expected. I’m not this generous person they need to bow down to and so many people will have participated.

Aibu unreasonable to have expected a thanks?

And she didn’t show me where to place it. She took it and dumped it behind the till.
For which I would have thanked her. She would have done me a small act of service by responding to my question and taking the item off me so I would automatically give her a quick thank you. I haven't done anything for her so while a quick thank you would probably also be automatic for most people it makes less sense.

Right .. so an automatic thank you is expected from me? But someone taking in a donation doesn’t have the same expectation? Interesting

Yes. Because she wasn't taking in the donation. She doesn't represent the people ultimately receiving it or the organisers of the scheme.

It's such a minor thing though. Mostly I would expect both parties to say an automatic (and so automatic as to be basically meaningless) thank you but I wouldn't have even noticed if I was the one offloading my donation and wasn't thanked for it by the person who happened to be available to take it off me.

You're the one demanding thank yous, surely it's for you to answer this?
You're adamant she owed you one, but none from you to her (the one who actually should have)

You asked her a question/requested information and she provided it.

And, actually, in this scenario, I would have thanked her for taking the donation from me.

I was joking, OP😂