To drop my kids off at partying neighbours at 6am tomorrow

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I won’t do this (I think!) because it wouldn’t be good for the kids but ideas welcome.

My 3yo and 5yo couldn’t sleep 2 weeks ago thanks to a wild party held by our student neighbours (sound system, professional security, hundreds spilling into the street).

DH is away with work this weekend and they are having ‘pres’. In my day this meant shots in the house and games. Now apparently it’s 50+ people shouting and screaming in the garden.

I knocked on their door earlier and explained that, we know we live near a uni campus, some parties are expected. But having another huge party 2 weeks later and keeping my tired preschoolers up (with no notice, I’d have taken them to my mum and dads had I known!) is unacceptable. I said I was going to be up with them at 5.30am (as usual) tomorrow and threatened to drop them over while they’re nursing their hangovers.

Obviously I won’t drop 3 & 5 year olds in a house of hungover students at 6am but AIBU for being tempted?!

I wouldn't actually do this, but on a flight to Canada I had booked the cot seat - they have a cot which hangs in front of the seat for a baby to sleep in. Another couple with a baby were sat next to me. I asked the air hostess for the cot as my dd was needing her sleep. Cot was set up in front of me and before I had a chance to put my daughter in it the other couple quickly put their baby in the cot. I called the air hostess back and I explained what had happened but she couldn't/wouldn't ask the other couple to take their baby out of the cot. I stood up, thrust my baby into the arms of the air hostess and walked off to the back of the aeroplane. My daughter did the rounds of the air hostesses and a couple of passengers who fell in love with her for most of the flight as the other couple did not once take their baby out of the cot, giving it a bottle and changing it's nappy in the cot in front of me!

If your "nice student with the letter" would tell you when they plan a gathering (in the spirit of rapprochement) would you be able to arrange to stay with a friend or family that night? Not easy parcelling up you and the kids, but still....

I know it's not the same thing, but my neighbour informed me that a big teen party would be happening in their garden with marquee (if you don't mind) on a Saturday night during the Summer. I went to my sister's house. Admittedly I don't have young children.

101 for noise complaint every single time and keep on at the council. Harder for council to ignore multiple 101 records.

This is usually the arrangement with the bigger student parties and it works well. My issue is the frequency - I can’t be impinging on my mum and dad that often (my dad is seriously ill and has carers 4x a day, which means hosting at theirs isn’t the easiest with two busy kids). Plus in the heat of last night I was informed the next party is Wednesday as one of the girls is having her 21st. I work, as does DH, the kids are in nursery and school, so we can’t just stay at my parents’ 10 miles away on a random weekday. And it will mean we’ve had 3 parties in 3 weeks. I used to be a big fan of a weds night out, but that was 15 years ago when it was a Varsity night not now when I’m running a department meeting the following day at 9.30 so don’t fancy two grumpy kids late at night and in the morning before that 😬 I’m not saying my schedule or my kids schedule takes precedence, it’s all give and take, but surely neighbourly consideration means it’s not a weekly occurrence?

I’m seriously hopeful Wednesday will be pared back after the note but we shall see.

I’d write them a letter telling them that you’ve had enough and if they don’t wind it in a bit you’ll report them to the university.

I wouldn't worry about screwing up their degrees. They couldn't give a shit about you .Make a phonebvideo recording of their noise and keep a diary.

Anybody who an afford so called professional security is well off and very entitled. Rich Mummy and Daddy?

Then get down to their University and complain like mad. See your local Councillor as well.

Good Luck

I did something a bit like this years ago. My neighbours seemed to have an all weekend party when the parents were away. So at 9am I put a very loud annoying song on with speakers at the wall and went out. It went something like ‘badger mushroom’.

I had noisy neighbours once everytime parents went away party started. I was heavily pregnant so I got up at 5.30am put ac/dc in full blast and took dogs out for a walk, they never did it again

I don’t care if it mucks up their degrees, I would contact the university Every Single Time. When I was a student we never had house parties. That’s what the union was for!!!

And I would ring their doorbell on the half hour for the next few hours.

Your kids are a perfect age for a drum kit!