To drop my kids off at partying neighbours at 6am tomorrow

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I won’t do this (I think!) because it wouldn’t be good for the kids but ideas welcome.

My 3yo and 5yo couldn’t sleep 2 weeks ago thanks to a wild party held by our student neighbours (sound system, professional security, hundreds spilling into the street).

DH is away with work this weekend and they are having ‘pres’. In my day this meant shots in the house and games. Now apparently it’s 50+ people shouting and screaming in the garden.

I knocked on their door earlier and explained that, we know we live near a uni campus, some parties are expected. But having another huge party 2 weeks later and keeping my tired preschoolers up (with no notice, I’d have taken them to my mum and dads had I known!) is unacceptable. I said I was going to be up with them at 5.30am (as usual) tomorrow and threatened to drop them over while they’re nursing their hangovers.

Obviously I won’t drop 3 & 5 year olds in a house of hungover students at 6am but AIBU for being tempted?!

"One neighbour disturbed me so I want to disturb all my neighbours". Normal.

The university only coming out after 11pm presumes that the noise is of a level which would be okay during the day and only too much at nighttime. Might be worth going back to then and saying that the level of noise is such that it is unacceptable any time this frequently, not just at night.

Maybe make the point that you expect the students will appreciate quiet themselves at exam time, so the university should encourage them to be respectful in their turn.

Do your children have a drum or 2?

What times are these parties? If before 10pm you won’t get far with the council noise team re garden, if blocking the street the police may get involved. Professional security seems highly unusual for a student party, I’m guessing this isn’t your typical 5 kids in a 3 bed semi student house set up???

In your favour is that the weather is taking a turn for the colder so partying outside will loose its appeal.

I think a few posters on here need to take note that it was quiet by just after 11 pm. The fact that the OP has children that get up very early has no bearing on what is considered anti-social.

Genuine question

but if before 11pm, is it basically a free for all?

For many on this thread it would seem 😞

I had this. I reported them to noise abatement who then got in touch with the university who got in touch with the landlord. This was after me being ignored by the landlord and the students.

The landlord and the university came round and the landlord shouted at them to turn the music off. It appears it was too loud even though he told me from London it wasn't! That year's students were fine after that.

No it's not a free for all before 11pm. A noise can be unreasonable any time of the day in our city. Not that usually our city does anything about it apart from that one time.

Could you put some loud music on while they are rough with their hangovers? Put the tv or stereo against the adjoining wall with some really loud music the kids will love. Banging on wall constantly and claiming you’re doing DIY.
Kids playing outside and making loads of noise. Play with them outside and all be really noisy. 😄

I lived in a shared house in my early 20’s of 12 young women. Obviously the house was huge. We once had a shared party that become the stuff of legends. Several of the girls had boyfriends who were club bouncers which gave us our professional security!

Im fairly sure given the size of the house, driveway and space between neighbouring properties disturbance of neighbours was pretty minimal.

Youd also think that a house with that many women in would be constant bitching and arguing but it really wasn’t.

You’d all left uni or were at uni?

12?? So this was a 12 bedroom property? Or sharers

I can’t imagine the…. Carnage

did you all get on? How many bathrooms???? @LoveSandbanks

We hadn’t been to uni. Most of us were working ft. There were several bathrooms and kitchens, not enough bathrooms but kitchens were fine. There was a huge shared living room but not often used. We all had our own rooms, no sharers. Boys were NOT allowed to stay overnight. Sometimes they did but we covered for each other. The landlord kept an office in the property so he still had a legitimate reason to visit 🙄

I genuinely don’t remember much carnage to be honest. We were all utterly skint with minimal family support of any type so we all looked out for each other, even those who we weren’t close with. It was back in the day of j mobile phones so if you got a late night phone call on the shared phone you’d have some grovelling to do 🤣

a lot of us had 2 jobs so sleep was sacrosanct. You never disturbed another woman’s sleep!

Report them to Uni, they will get a warning. Might be enough to encourage more respect

Please don’t bother the police with this. If it is an issue speak the council

Please don’t clog up the police systems with this

Well, I’ve had this off them (or rather, the one girl over there who I think gets that it’s not ok - she was unofficial spokeswoman last night) today. I’m inclined to give them the benefit of the doubt for now, although the contents are certainly worthy of a law student (or politician!) - no actual commitment to change but acknowledgement that they’re in a community here. It could be worse I guess.

I will leave to one side the fact I took my kids out for an hour and came back to the parents of one of the students having blocked access to my drive. I took great pleasure leaning on my horn until he came out, apologised and moved. Anyway. For now an uneasy truce lies!

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The local bus stop outside Sainsbury's was a social partying meeting place. It was sorted out by the store playing loud, depressing dirge music, with occasional bursts of Schoenberg and squeaky-gate music.

I’m sorry! I’ve not done it before! But I had a supermarket shop and two kids to get in and my tolerance is somewhat depleted after last night!

If only you knew where the President / Chancellor of the university lives. You could park outside his house and play your car stereo up hiiiiigh every night until he got the message and the message trickled down

I have a weirdly enthusiastic mod on here - honestly please don’t feel like you need to delete mildly critical points, I’m very happy to debate stuff!

Can’t see what this said, but assuming it was having a go at you for leaning on your horn. It isn’t you that’s causing the problem for your neighbours, it’s the inconsiderate prick who blocked your drive.
However, the note did make me chuckle 😁

I know right! I want to be my usual acerbic self about it but to be fair it’s the sort of well intentioned thing I would have done when I was 20 and not quite as bitter and bitchy as I am now

Yep, the post was critical of me leaning on my horn but I’m a bit confused as I didn’t think it was mean, just saying they hated it, hence my justification just this once!

The dad was very apologetic. I’ve spent most of the afternoon kicking myself for not saying ‘sorry, wouldn’t usually but my patience is a bit short after all the parties they’ve been having/the lack of sleep etc’. L’espirit d’escalier!