To drop my kids off at partying neighbours at 6am tomorrow

[Cheepcheepcheep]

I won’t do this (I think!) because it wouldn’t be good for the kids but ideas welcome.

My 3yo and 5yo couldn’t sleep 2 weeks ago thanks to a wild party held by our student neighbours (sound system, professional security, hundreds spilling into the street).

DH is away with work this weekend and they are having ‘pres’. In my day this meant shots in the house and games. Now apparently it’s 50+ people shouting and screaming in the garden.

I knocked on their door earlier and explained that, we know we live near a uni campus, some parties are expected. But having another huge party 2 weeks later and keeping my tired preschoolers up (with no notice, I’d have taken them to my mum and dads had I known!) is unacceptable. I said I was going to be up with them at 5.30am (as usual) tomorrow and threatened to drop them over while they’re nursing their hangovers.

Obviously I won’t drop 3 & 5 year olds in a house of hungover students at 6am but AIBU for being tempted?!

Ah. Town starting with an F? I went to college there. I might be delusional, we enjoyed a night out at the Maltings, but no way would we have considered disturbing the peace like this.

Its quiet now but I didn’t get my 3yo down until 9.30pm and so I am terrified of tomorrow 😬

We’ve lived near to student for years, they’ve always been fab, this lot just don’t seem to give a shit about anyone else, it’s horrid.

They’ll sleep through it.

I have heard that, in our University city, you can ring University Security and they will send someone round in situations like this.

Report them to the university as well

I would suggest you need to keep a log and report to the council as noise pollution.

Surrey uni do have this, but it’s been cut to the bone. And in fairness, they only come over post 11pm. Which is fine as a one off, but it’s now seemingly fortnightly and it’s not fair on my 3yo and 5yo to be disrupted every 2 weeks because they want to scream and have a baseline (parties and drinks fine but this is a lot )

It was just supposed to be funny 🙄

But honestly OP, get your kids out being kids first thing in the morning even better if they are slightly grumpy, tired kids. Blast your music at silly AM as a lovely wake up call... You need to show that life continues even on a hangover and hours sleep when they live where they do. Continue to be civil when speaking with them if/when they are being antisocial with the noise etc - keep in mind we were all daft young folk at some point but also that everyone needs to learn to be respectful at some point. Definitely get some evidence and go to the Uni and police. Oh, and amazon do great noise cancelling headphones that I have been able to slip onto my little ones to keep them asleep during fireworks etc and I've found audio books played loudish is sometimes enough to direct kiddos attention to that instead of the party noise (and eventually be able to drift off having something else to focus on) Even maybe wireless headphones to listen to depending on kids ages.

Good luck. 🍀

We had a set of neighbours known for their amazing parties that often went on to 6am.
There was no escape from the sound system.
Another of the neighbours would always try to sell revenge by mowing the lawn at 8am on a Sunday.
I can categorically say two wrongs don't make a right!

I would also be keeping a record of frequency, recording noise levels and complaining to the university.

Report them for what? Since when was having a party illegal?

Just another jokey thought, could you sign up their address to get some free noise canceling demos from different companies? 😂🤘🏻 Or sign them up to hearing loss companies websites to get the crappy junk mail sent to them, or insomnia help ones, AA? 😂

I understand, but 5:30 wake up is unsustainable for a 5 year old and a habit to break for a younger child.

My cousin had this issue.
Herself and a couple of neighbours started recording the parties and drunken racket at 2-3am.
Rang the police, and sent it to the police.
They sent it to the President of the university and the media.
It went viral.
After years of bullshit and promises from the university, it was the media attention that did the trick.
It was sorted.

Start video taping and send it into the local media naming the institution they attend.
Nothing to lose.

She’s joking. She isn’t really going to do any of those things.
She’s just getting it off her chest.

@JudgeBread obviously I would be no more likely to actually do that than the op is actually likely to turn up on their doorstep early doors with her children!
I have awful neighbours on the estate at the back of mine. Sadly I’ve never yet thought of a suitable way to get them to quit being so selfish. Being kept awake due to people partying until morning is awful. It drives a person to consider all sorts of ways of getting them to pipe down. Just knocking on and having a word…… doesn’t work! They don’t care.
@Cheepcheepcheep you have my utmost sympathy x

One word

Recorders.

I would let the kids outside in the garden when they wake up. Buy an annoying whistle/recorder for them to blow.

The Barney 'I love you' song on repeat works wonders at dispersing noisy drunks outside our bedroom window. Playing it 10 times in a row really works. Get the kids to join in.

I'd warn the students that every time their noise disturbs your kids then they will get disturbed by your kids in the morning.

You just floated the very idea I would have recommended. You need to contact the university, give the address and detail the problem.

The uni won't let this affect their degrees at all, but they will get a stern talking to.

Universities highly value good neighbourhood relations, and hate to hear that students are causing issues in the community; this bad behaviour adversely affects how much housing (and in which areas) is made available to students in future.

Don't think twice about it; they will deal with it if they can find out who lives there.

Have you ever had a heavy night drinking? I remember my students days well and nothing would wake us.

Also, not fair for other neighbours who may be trying to sleep after a rough night too.

If you lived in Headingley, Leeds, either of your local councillors would offer advice as who to complain to, how to prevent future upset etc.

The council, there, have a number to call in such circumstances and will turn out late at night to wind down nuisance events such as this.

Video them and start a tiktok about student neighbours in a residential street tagging the uni

Do they have an external meter box? If so there will be the main house fuse in it. They are sealed in with an easily cut wire.

Put all your own lights out. Dress in dark clothes. Quietly sneak round. If the box is locked your key will fit it, they’re all the same. O

Snip the wire and pull the fuse out. Depending on your feelings - leave it nearby or dispose of it.

Silence and darkness will reign.

You could add to the confusion by complaining that your lights have gone out too.

They won’t know what has happened, they’ll think either the PA has blown it or there is a power cut.

Get the five year old a recorder and encourage them to practice every morning.

If you find anything left in the street knock on their door and return it.

Failing that contact the council/Uni. It won’t mess up their degrees if they respond reasonably e.g don’t be so antisocial again.

The TikTok shaming is genius but sdo it stylishly so they can’t write you off as a fun sponge.

Students will sleep through most things but the most irritating sounds likely to get on their wicks are - something very loud at about 6:30 am every single day. Yeah, they may sleep in after benders but they will need to get up for lectures normally. Nothing more irritating than being repeatedly woken up around 45 minutes to an hour before you actually need to get up.

And then you need someone to take up playing either the recorder or the violin before school. They are both intolerable.

Get the tunes on full blast and let your kids have a breakfast disco. See how they like it.

For breaking the noise bylaws. Having a party is not the problem, the excessive noise is.