To drop my kids off at partying neighbours at 6am tomorrow

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I won’t do this (I think!) because it wouldn’t be good for the kids but ideas welcome.

My 3yo and 5yo couldn’t sleep 2 weeks ago thanks to a wild party held by our student neighbours (sound system, professional security, hundreds spilling into the street).

DH is away with work this weekend and they are having ‘pres’. In my day this meant shots in the house and games. Now apparently it’s 50+ people shouting and screaming in the garden.

I knocked on their door earlier and explained that, we know we live near a uni campus, some parties are expected. But having another huge party 2 weeks later and keeping my tired preschoolers up (with no notice, I’d have taken them to my mum and dads had I known!) is unacceptable. I said I was going to be up with them at 5.30am (as usual) tomorrow and threatened to drop them over while they’re nursing their hangovers.

Obviously I won’t drop 3 & 5 year olds in a house of hungover students at 6am but AIBU for being tempted?!

We had a group of neighbours like this for a year, partying and screaming random nights most weeks. Ignoring any requests to tone things down.

Then in the summer they sent a note through our door saying please could we be quiet and considerate for the next few weeks because they had exams. 🤣🤣🤣

And that was when you cranked up the decks, dusted down the glitter ball and invited everyone you could think of to a series of 'through the decades' garden discos, right?

And make noise for the other neighbours who will now not only deal with students but the kids too?

Absolutely 100% speak to the university and record the noise .

Don't worry about their degrees. The university will give them a stern warning so they wiĺl the. Hopefully not have any more parties like this!

Students paid for “professional security”? 🤔

I knocked on their door earlier and explained that, we know we live near a uni campus, some parties are expected. But having another huge party 2 weeks later and keeping my tired preschoolers up (with no notice, I’d have taken them to my mum and dads had I known!) is unacceptable. I said I was going to be up with them at 5.30am (as usual) tomorrow and threatened to drop them over while they’re nursing their hangov

you don’t mention their response

I would call the university and the police.

Dh works in a uni. It won’t screw their degrees unless they literally break the law and get arrested for something. But it likely will get them a stern talking to about bringing the uni into disrepute.

For being inconsiderate fuckers. Having parties isn't illegal but annoying the shit out of your neighbours should have consequences.

I would contact the Uni student services/accommodation officer, whilst they may not have security who can come out, I’m sure they will have a team who would get involved in some way. My son is at a diff uni and they regularly post on SM about antisocial behaviour in private student digs.

Also, do you have a community police team nearby? Could report it to them rather than the main police

Actually lots of kids down here (SE) know people who work in security. Everyone seems to have a built brother or friend now gyms are so popular.
Parties do get out of control as it’s so easy for everyone to tell their mates.

Arm the kids with kitchen pots and pans and let them have their own mini "disco" right outside these tossers' door.

I don't know where you are, but my local Uni has its own security service who will send a van out to a student house and tell them to dial it back. Check if yours does this. We had a student party in the next door house years ago, which was ridiculously loud until about 4 am. At 6 am my husband went and started/ran his very noisy motorcycle outside their house for a good 15 minutes.

I have to ask

you know “lots” of students who have contacts in the world of professional security?

You can call police and they’ll do a raid if it’s going on past unsociable hours, but if it’s not late then you can’t really. My DCs as students def went to some parties that were shut down!

its v selfish of them - DD lived in a residential area at uni last year (a few student houses but not many) and they were very considerate to the neighbours - and it was actually their attached side who pissed them off with non-reg building work after hours.

Their landlord had words and they apologised. Just to give a perspective that not all students are loud and obnoxious!!

I’d be playing really loud music next to their attached side round about now!!!

Agree with media, and posting it to socials. Your local newspaper will love this.

I’m surprised that no other neighbours in the area were up, out and addressing it?

is there a street WhatsApp group or similar op?

Being noisy back seems to be the only thing in my experience works with noisy neighbours. You need to inconvenience them.

Maybe have an epic party through exam season...

Morning all. Thanks for the sympathy! Currently sat with a cup of tea while the kids watch a film. Tempting to send them out in the garden to make a racket, but a) as others have noted that’s not fair on others, especially my neighbours on the other side (2x 60yos and a 90yo) and also b) I would then have to listen to the noise! (I’ll take Moana instead tbh).

Just to clear up, last night was a ‘normal’ pre-drinks ie normal speakers, probs about 50 people, lots in the garden shouting/smoking and they left at 11 on the dot. I’m used to those, most of the neighbours in the student house over the years have had one or two instances of this per term. It’s just the fact this is coming on the back of the massive party with amplified music/security two weeks ago (I know, the security seems unbelievable, apparently he’s a friend of a friend with a badge who does it. Plus the students around here seem to have some significant parental backing, based on the cars they all drive).

University won’t do anything unless it’s past 11 which isn’t ideal when I have kids who usually go to bed at 7.30! Once or twice a term is just a trade off (it’s lovely being next door to a student house in the summer, it’s silent as they’re not there!) but the frequency is amping up and they mentioned last night they’ll be doing it again next Wednesday as it’s another in the house’s 21st.

When I went over to complain last night the response was ‘it’s just pres, we’re allowed to have them’.

Id go and wake them up early and if possible park a car near their windows with music blaring

There is. Multiple houses called the police when the massive event happened a fortnight ago, but last nights wasn’t on the same scale so don’t think anyone did. As it was more ‘normal party’ level, me being next door would have been more affected - there wasn’t any commotion out the front like there was during the big event, so wouldn’t have affected the other side of the road.

When I was in halls, there was a payphone in every flat - with the phone numbers of all the flats on.
so when i had a flat that behaved like this, I called them and told them if they didnt pack it in I’d be calling them every morning for a week at 6.30am.
They carried on. So I followed through with this.
They didnt kniw who or which flat i was calling from.
They got the message.

Suspect you may be in my old uni city, where I lived near a famous bridge for 2 years. If you are, I’m jealous! It was a lovely place to be a student. Fairly sure the permanent residents would have come down on us like a ton of bricks if we’d started regular parties.

I’m with you, generally I love living here. But I was definitely sitting on Rightmove while gritting my teeth last night!

Thanks for this, by the way. The three year old was in with me at 5.30am as predicted, the five year old had the good grace to wake at 6.20. I welcome any suggestions to get them to sleep later (actually sleeping, not just ‘being in their room’). Should I drug them?

After half a decade of being woken at the crack of dawn 365 days a year, it’s clearly a selfish preference on my part 🙄

Suddenly find Jesus and play hymns super loud with the speakers against the party wall all morning?