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What is the point in life?

252 replies

Baconbuttymad · 15/11/2025 13:51

Just curious to read about all your viewpoints?
is it to acquire money/career?
is it to provide for your children once you’re gone? (Leave money in your will so that they will be comfortable)
is it to enjoy life “in the moment” through travelling the world, experiencing cultures, eating out, etc
is it through charity and good deeds
or to just simply exist and be grateful for it regardless of anything else (finances, etc)

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Cornishskies · 16/11/2025 00:44

I don’t know the point of life, but what gives meaning to my life is to love and be loved.
I’m very lucky my life is full to the brim doing just that ( read that as being ridiculously busy taking care of and being taken for granted by some of those said loved ones!!)
I figure one day maybe the point of life will be revealed or maybe it won’t.
I’m happy with that.

breezyyy · 16/11/2025 00:48

HauntedBungalow · 16/11/2025 00:44

I dunno. Do you? Ask a ouija board or something, you'd get as much sense.

I was asking you a question regarding your understanding of what you believe is going to happen, that this planet won’t sustain humans. You’re quite adamant that that is precisely what will happen. I asked if you think it will still sustain animals. If you don’t want to answer, fine, but I asked politely.

breezyyy · 16/11/2025 00:49

But yes, I would certainly get more sense from an ouija board apparently. ☺️

breezyyy · 16/11/2025 00:50

AliceMaforethought · 16/11/2025 00:43

I certainly hope so.

Me too.

CactusSammy · 16/11/2025 00:55

I think the purpose is to find your own purpose.

HauntedBungalow · 16/11/2025 00:59

breezyyy · 16/11/2025 00:48

I was asking you a question regarding your understanding of what you believe is going to happen, that this planet won’t sustain humans. You’re quite adamant that that is precisely what will happen. I asked if you think it will still sustain animals. If you don’t want to answer, fine, but I asked politely.

I'm not adamant mate. I'm just aware that we weren't always here, in fact have only been around for a sliver of time re earth's existence so this notion that our purpose is to look after it, when it's been around for much longer than us, is flawed. Likewise on balance of probabilities, given that for the majority of earth's time there's been no humans on it, it makes sense to me that there won't be humans on it for a good stretch in the future. But I might be wrong, I'm just going on past data. Likewise all the animals that are on it now, they've not been around forever, likely they won't continue to be around for eternity, who knows. There's volcanoes and tsunamis and meteors and all sorts, there are no guarantees. Birds seem to do quite well. They're not dependent on the ground is I think the difference.

breezyyy · 16/11/2025 01:09

HauntedBungalow · 16/11/2025 00:59

I'm not adamant mate. I'm just aware that we weren't always here, in fact have only been around for a sliver of time re earth's existence so this notion that our purpose is to look after it, when it's been around for much longer than us, is flawed. Likewise on balance of probabilities, given that for the majority of earth's time there's been no humans on it, it makes sense to me that there won't be humans on it for a good stretch in the future. But I might be wrong, I'm just going on past data. Likewise all the animals that are on it now, they've not been around forever, likely they won't continue to be around for eternity, who knows. There's volcanoes and tsunamis and meteors and all sorts, there are no guarantees. Birds seem to do quite well. They're not dependent on the ground is I think the difference.

I admit I have a romanticised notion of this beautiful planet with its flora and fauna and like to think it will be here long after we’ve gone. I do believe it has the ability to self restore, put the damage right. I don’t like to think it will just blow up/disintegrate because what a waste.

Good to get different opinions.

HauntedBungalow · 16/11/2025 01:25

Oh my goodness I think flora/fauna/life etc is amazing, I completely agree with you and I include us in that. We've all somehow got here on the surface of our volcanic planet and survived and from its volatile fiery origins it now sustains life. It would be nice if that continued but it might not so I guess we can thank our lucky stars (literally) that we've got what we do.

maralagagirl · 16/11/2025 05:49

I think reproduction has to be the main purpose, otherwise we'd all be wiped out in a generation. That might be good for the planet I guess? Why are people so worried about animal extinction if it doesn't matter if a species reproduces or dies out? It doesn't seem a complex question unless you bring religion into it.

Peridoteage · 16/11/2025 05:56

Just to live? Have kids, form social bonds, take pleasure in simple things like a delicious meal, a glorious sunset, a bracing swim in the sea, sex with beloved partner, celebrations like christmas.

Look for the moments in your every day life that make you smile.

OtterlyAstounding · 16/11/2025 06:32

Biologically, 'the point' of life is to reproduce and multiply our genetic material. It's not a very inspiring point, but it is the goal of all life on earth.

Otherwise, there is no 'point'. I suppose you could say there are fairly universal drives - the avoidance of pain, for instance. But that's still not a 'point'.

Personally, I value feeling good, doing things I like, spending time with my close family, and raising my children...but I don't really think that's 'the point' to life either, it's just what I like to do.

ChessorBuckaroo · 16/11/2025 06:54

Didn't answer the actual question before (focused on our miniscule place in the universe, which I think answers the bigger question of our purpose), but I think the point in life is to have fun in the short time we are here, that's it.

Dick Van Dyke alludes to this in The Times this week:

"I’ve made it to 99 in no small part because I have stubbornly refused to give into the bad stuff in life: failures and defeats, personal losses, loneliness and bitterness, the physical and emotional pains of ageing. For the vast majority of my years, I have been in what I can only describe as a full-on bear hug with the experience of living. Being alive has been doing life — not like a job but rather like a giant playground."

Is there a purpose or a "higher force"? Dunno. What I will say is I'm not surprised the vast vast majority of scientists are atheists. Our existence is a fluke. Had the dinosaurs not been wiped out we wouldn't be here. The chain of evolutionary events that led to us, that could have been altered at any point. One of those species dying out, as 99% have, that would have prevented us from being here.

Then there is astronomy, and how remote we are, which is sobering.

The nearest sun to our own is Proxima Centauri, 4.2 light years away, that's 9.4 trillion km, or 270,000 times from Earth to the Sun (which itself is about 150,000 km). One of the planets orbiting that star is Proxima B, which is in the habitable zone, so possible to sustain life. If we wanted to get of Earth and survive as a species, that could be our best bet. The problem is getting there. The fastest vehicle we have today is the Porter Solar Probe, and that would take us 7,800 years to get there. The pyramids were built 4,500 years ago.

The idea of aliens visiting is is almost laughable when you consider the eye watering distance and time it takes to get from A to B. And the speed of light applies to all species. And the question of "are we alone", given that we are just one solar system of 400 billion on this galaxy alone, so a trillion planets (at least), a thousand billion, just on the Milky Way, and there between 100 billion to 2 trillion galaxies in the observable universe each with billions of solar systems, when you grasp all that it has to be the most short sighted question ever asked. We are a speck. A grain of sand in a vast desert. When the bible was written we thought we were the centre.

Titasaducksarse · 16/11/2025 08:16

It is really interesting for me when I read about past life/memories etc.

When I was younger I believed we were on this Earth as an experiment. A higher being is literally conducting a laboratory experiment and we're the lab rats. An unusual belief for someone to have from the age of maybe around 10 and the Matrix etc wasn't out so goodness know where I got this idea.

However, in the face of everything I am beginning to think it's the only answer!

Itsnearlyxmas · 16/11/2025 08:21

Baconbuttymad · 15/11/2025 14:15

For me it’s the monotony I can’t stand, working, coming home, dinner and repeat. I need change and to spend time with my family, ie I need a holiday or a change in scene and quality time with them, without work or household chores and responsibility.

Do you enjoy your job? We spend so much time at work I think it's important to enjoy what we do. Also, personally, i like having things to look forward to. They don't have to be big things.

Parky04 · 16/11/2025 08:33

No point at all. That's why I have never been bothered about death. Some days I feel envious of people who have died.

JamesWebbSpaceTelescope · 16/11/2025 08:33

In the grand scheme of things, nothing we do matters. So the only thing that matters is what we do.

Quote from the green demon from Angel.

breezyyy · 16/11/2025 08:35

JamesWebbSpaceTelescope · 16/11/2025 08:33

In the grand scheme of things, nothing we do matters. So the only thing that matters is what we do.

Quote from the green demon from Angel.

Is that not a contradiction?

echt · 16/11/2025 08:47

I'm paraphrasing Bruno Bettelheim: Life has no purpose but we must behave as though it does.

On the money. But then he did kill himself, so you have to wonder.

breezyyy · 16/11/2025 08:49

Parky04 · 16/11/2025 08:33

No point at all. That's why I have never been bothered about death. Some days I feel envious of people who have died.

Same. I want to be in control of it when I’m ready and I’m not happy about the difficulty of doing it.

breezyyy · 16/11/2025 08:50

echt · 16/11/2025 08:47

I'm paraphrasing Bruno Bettelheim: Life has no purpose but we must behave as though it does.

On the money. But then he did kill himself, so you have to wonder.

I guess he couldn’t kid himself anymore.

Baconbuttymad · 16/11/2025 09:48

breezyyy · 15/11/2025 21:58

We definitely have the need to be entertained/fill our lives up with something. Other species survive. Their life is purely about survival, the same as plants. . It’s innate in all living things.

Yes this

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Baconbuttymad · 16/11/2025 09:53

Itsnearlyxmas · 16/11/2025 08:21

Do you enjoy your job? We spend so much time at work I think it's important to enjoy what we do. Also, personally, i like having things to look forward to. They don't have to be big things.

No I don’t really enjoy it, I do it for the money, sad but true. That’s why I guess I book up holidays so I’m in a nicer place with my family and no distractions, nothing to think about like work or TV or cooking etc

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randomchap · 16/11/2025 10:07

Seeing as the universe is heading to heat death and nothing really matters in the end.

I've taken the view that you should live your life in a way that makes the world a better place if you can. Even if it's just small acts of kindness.

Nonamelass · 16/11/2025 10:56

I dont know what if any point there is ,but everyone living on the earth now has one huge thing in common we are all here together in a tiny second in the timeline of the world’s existance yet people fight amongst themselves , it’s mad .

breezyyy · 16/11/2025 10:59

randomchap · 16/11/2025 10:07

Seeing as the universe is heading to heat death and nothing really matters in the end.

I've taken the view that you should live your life in a way that makes the world a better place if you can. Even if it's just small acts of kindness.

How is it heading to heat death?