Xmas present to help my Dd be one of the teachers favourites

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😂Joking-sort of

But seriously, what do you buy your child’s teacher at Christmas?
I worked in a school and there were 100% the mums/kids who bought the flashiest presents-good perfume, champagne, huge bouquets and it did have an effect and everyone knew who those mums were
I’m sure teachers will deny this 😅
A good, thoughtful present does make a difference

Aibu?

If the picture was done as a Christmas card by your dd with some nice words about how great she is as a teacher, so something that was just going to be for Christmas and then thrown away/put with the teacher’s box of nice notes, then I could see it would be ok. But not if it was anything more than that!

Also this would have to be done in primary school - at senior school it would definitely be odd!

Re the bracelet, I only know that it’s a swifty thing - would the teacher realise and get it? I’m also assuming that the name on the bracelet would be along the lines of Mrs Smith or Best Teacher rather than the DD’s name? I have no idea how these things go!

I was once given a key ring made by a child with my teacher name in square beads. That was nice and useful for my school keys.

I once got dd's teacher in Y1 a salad spinner 😁, DD had taken a piece of her salad spinner 'art' in to show and teacher asked how she did it and that she didn't have a one to try... She does now!

Other than that, I usually buy a selection of Christmas biscuits/chocolates/ sweets put them in a gift bag for the class team to share. When I am particularly organised (not!) I do this at the start of the new term in January 🤦

I will get stick for this but nothing i get them nothing its their job

I agree actually, even though we do get something small. They chose the job, and they get paid for it. We're not expected to get presents for everybody else we pay for a service, so why teachers?

I think its madness buying presents for teachers.....
I also think its sending the wrong message to our kids.....
If you dont buy an expensive gift your kids not in with the teacher!!😆......well thats a good a teacher isnt it .. that kinda person shouldnt be near any children

I support a less well known football team and I’ve had a mug and a biscuit cutter with the crest on from pupils. So thoughtful because they’d have had to go out of their way to find them.
Also a lovely notebook with my name on the cover

It's not a thing. They're just doing their job. A token is fine.

My favourite present of all, over 40 + years of teaching, was a little knitted pouch made by one of my 7 year old girls. Inside of it she placed a four leaf clover, that is now dust but the pink pouch has been carefully preserved since 1982.
Another much loved present was a hand carved house sign. This child kept asking me what I would call my house if I could. "The Sycamores" I replied as we had many tiny sycamores growing in our garden.
Guess what? Her daddy carved me that sign!
The 3rd much loved present from a child was a metal work candle holder that her daddy made me.
The only class joint present I ever received was a lovely Natural History book that my husband and I still use to this day with our grandchildren when spotting butterflies etc.
These presents were all received during my 9 years in North Cornwall 1978 - 1987, where the families had very little money.
Each has been treasured.

I’ve never once bought a present for a teacher, not in their state school or their private. My kids never mentioned it either.

No!
Premium Bonds, £100 minimum,
And a voucher for a Spa Day,
And a dark chocolate Toblerone.

if you really want to grease the wheels, buy a couple of tins of biscuits or chocolates for the office staff. Christmas and end of summer term.

Favourite parent of the office staff here who can’t do enough for me. Also former school office staff myself.

I was a teacher for a very short time but my job coincided with Xmas. I got a gift from one of the loveliest but quiet girls, of a pincushion that was a also a box to keep pins in. I still use it to this day, some 35 years later! So yes it's the thoughtful things not the flashy ones that are most appreciated.

I do the same thing every year. I do a gift bag of tea, coffee, biscuits, cakes etc for the staff room. I get them from ringtons every other week for a few weeks to spread the cost. Not creative but it is a consumable so not around for ever. Can be shared with other teachers etc.

they either like your child or they don’t, presents don’t actually make a difference.
Loads of the presents end up at the local charity shops, most say don’t bother as it’s a nightmare to get rid of the tat.

Me and my DD are making scented candles this year. Previous years we've made cookies or hot chocolate reindeers. All obviously made by my DD. They always seem to go down well as DD had thought in about what the teacher would like and put some effort in.

Stationary! It's usually a case of several gifts, not just one for a teacher IME. We've usually given something nice like a scented candle, handwash set and chocs or biscuits and a tub to share. No need to overthink, as a secondary teacher we don't expect anything so are grateful if any students have made the effort to write out a card! Xxx

The culture of buying teachers gifts is really weird

That is something that would be treasured. My daughter embroidered a picture for her year 5 teacher and when I saw her thirty years later she knew me immediately and still had the embroidery. Something made by hand is more valuable than any lavish gift and will be treasured.

@TangyJellyTot I would be “accidentally” leaving that in the staff room if I was given that!
Get your kid to make a lovely card/picture. So much nicer.

I think you forgot the tickets for a London musical?

Buy a decent present, preferably from a shop that accepts returns. Vouchers are very well-received. Many teachers go away/travel home at the beginning of the holiday so flowers can be a problem. Whilst home-made and personalised gifts can be sweet, pity the experienced teachers living in houses crammed with years of well-meaning tat.

This is a joke, right? Please tell me nobody spends £50 on a teacher’s gift? I taught for 20 years and I would have been mortified at an OTT gift

As a teacher for 20+ years, I can honestly say I never expected or wanted gifts. I often did end up with 10 boxes of chocs at Christmas and just gave them away to friends and neighbours. I never thought any better or worse of any student based on whether they gave me a gift!

In 20 years, the one and only gift I still have is a plastic golden pirate coin I was given by a yr 7 boy in my tutor group who loved pirates, so it really was a piece of treasure from him, which I found very touching. It has zero monetary value but I keep it in a little box of sentimental knick-knacks.

A hand written card from a child is perfectly sufficient for any teacher, if you really must give anything.

My kids went to private school but I don’t think anyone went OTT on presents. What went over best was when we made fudge (Martha Stewart’s fudge with marshmallows melted in is foolproof). They loved it and cost pennies!
But as fur influencing teachers? One of my kids was very likeable but always in trouble and my other was very by the book and academic. Everyone loved the former. I don’t think the parents make any difference, and certainly not either gifts! If they do - shame on those teachers and parents. Where I grew up (the US) you weren’t allowed to give teachers gifts.