Xmas present to help my Dd be one of the teachers favourites

[Justlookatthatrain]

😂Joking-sort of

But seriously, what do you buy your child’s teacher at Christmas?
I worked in a school and there were 100% the mums/kids who bought the flashiest presents-good perfume, champagne, huge bouquets and it did have an effect and everyone knew who those mums were
I’m sure teachers will deny this 😅
A good, thoughtful present does make a difference

Aibu?

Similar to the above we each put in £10 to cover gifts for the teacher and the TA's, someone checks with them as to what vouchers they would like to receive, there's no pressure to contribute though, if a parent would rather do an individual thing or nothing that's fine. I dont think any option would help in terms of making your child teachers pet 😂

A good present never made me look more favorablely on any child. Ever.

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I stand by the ' i would of loved that'

Sorry you find this so terrible 🤣

Are you that bored 🤣

I never said i was a teacher 🤣🤣🤣

I didnt say i was a teacher... But thanks 🤣

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Thats hilarious 🤣

A collection from the class converted into a voucher is most welcome.

Please don't do this. I used to work in a school where the parents of the most neglected kids would come in clutching a fancy present. Send a nice card and spend your money on your family. Teachers don't need presents from parents. They need appreciation and to be treated like the dedicated professionals that they are. Be the parent who puts their foot down and calls out this nonsense.

I taught for many years and one of my favourite presents was a very simple, hand made Christmas decoration. I got it about 12 years ago and still put it on my tree each year.

Yellowbrixlane oh yes, I’d forgotten that, me too! Not a tatty one, a little shop bought wooden one that the child had painted- still got mine too ! Incidentally for those outside teaching world complaining re gift giving - it isn’t compulsory but be aware on an average year I spend at least £150 on extras - pencils, rubbers, spare books ( we never have enough ) , colouring pencils, folders and craft/ support materials and the dreaded glue sticks - and I’m not even the class teacher !! Two other extremely welcome ( mid term) gifts from parents have been a bundle of 10 glue sticks , and from another really thoughtful soul a mammoth stack of old office paper they were going to chuck which was spare drawing paper that lasted over a term for the children. Another time I sourced paper cups on freecycle - useful for science experiments and numerous children who forget their water bottles. Honestly you’d be v v surprised what schools are sooo grateful for! One family upgrading their microwave handed it to a friend’s school and their staff room had been without one for a whole term!! Ditto dreaded kettles!

It is wrong though @ChocolateAndCrispsAndBiscuits
honestly!!

Out of interest - are you American? Maybe it’s different in American English??

It's still wrong and makes no sense:

I would have cooked the dinner ....(but didn't because ...) Conditional tense.
I have cooked the dinner. Past tense - present perfect.

Nobody says 'I of cooked the dinner.' It's just nonsense.

I don’t think that poster wants to admit she was incorrect. Her immature posts and laughing emojis show that. Hopefully, despite the childishness she is showing with her responses, she will improve her grammar IRL.

Some most definitely did this in the 80’s, I remember at primary school the teacher getting a present from her favourite child’s parent and making a comment about how lovely and thoughtful it was, I also remember going home and telling my mum that we had to buy her a present, she naturally said, “don’t be daft why would I buy her a present, she’s doing the bare minimum as a teacher as it is” she also couldn’t stand this particular teacher 😂 I wasn’t the only child who asked their mum to buy her a gift either, she got a couple more, but the majority didn’t!
For my children I wouldn’t spend over £2 per teacher. I bought useful things like reusable shopping bags that fit in your handbag, could go either way things like a Christmas decoration and not useful things like pretty mugs with coffee/tea - knowing full well they would end in the staffroom or charity shop, I refused to join the classroom gift fund, because I wasn’t ever going to spend more than £2.
If you really want to spend money, donate to charity and write that’s what you have done in the handmade card telling how wonderful they are and they inspired you to do it!

@ihavetocookagain OMG reading your post I've just remembered something similar happened in my class in the mid nineties. The teacher made a big deal to the class about a really lovely present from a particular pupil (who was not very nice to have in class tbh) describing it and how much she loved it - and it made me feel like 💩 because I knew my parents didn't get the teacher anything (there wasn't really such a culture of this back then I don't think).

Just echoing others - teachers are professionals and gifts are not going to change the way we treat your children.

An email to the head and governors that mentions how the teacher has helped your child will always be hugely appreciated. Without wishing to dampen the tone, we are in an era of excellent, experienced, top-of-pay-scale teachers being put on capability procedures to force them out due to budget deficits- evidence of the teacher’s impact is always welcome.

I always love the hand-made cards with pictures of things the children have learned that year, but any thoughtful messages are genuinely appreciated. Most teachers will say that they went into the job to have a positive impact on children’s lives and learning , so it’s always good to know that that’s happening.

Gifts are never expected. I’d be enormously grateful for a pack of glue sticks or whiteboard pens, because it would mean I don’t need to buy them.

Things that are personalised for your child are tricky, because displaying them looks like favouritism. If your children are creative, perhaps they could decorate Christmas decorations for the classroom Christmas tree?

An appreciative card will endear any teacher to you. Kind words in a card, which clearly display time and thought taken, are so much more valued by a teacher than any monetary gift. They're what I've always valued the most and kept over the years.

I’ve taught for almost 30 years and the best present ever was when a girl collected a load of miniature Cadbury dream bars from Cadbury Roses (see I do go back a long way!) and popped them in a little bag for me. She knew I liked white chocolate and this was sooo thoughtful.
A personal handwritten card means so much as well.

I do know of teachers who expect and want the big expensive presents and this is just such a ghastly attitude.

I’ve had the big presents and vouchers, champagne etc and iI guess unit’s lovely but makes me feel very uncomfortable - as though the parents are trying to buy me.

This is MUMSNET

Calm the Hell down

Im checking out from this thread as it has been derailed by this stupidness 😝

I would of loved you all to be kinder 🙃

See ya - 🌵🌵🌵🌵

How could you expect the teachers among us not to correct blatantly bad grammar?

No-one is talking about being perfect. But it's pretty silly, not to mention embarrassing, to correct a person's grammar like this only to make such a howler of a mistake yourself.

That's funny, because I was just about to mention NOT to send in homemade food. I used to work in an industry where we got a presents from clients when we completed a job, and homemade stuff was always binned - especially if they mentioned the children had helped to bake them. Vom.