Would you class this as flirting? DH with shop assistant

[Bex39]

DH is adamant I am being OTT and he was just being polite but I disagree. Please help settle this for me.

We were in a shop which sells chocolate and he was at the till with me next to him.

Shop assistant - those (the chocolates DH was buying) are my favourites

DH - I would eat so much chocolate if I worked here

SA - tell me about it, I can’t help myself with the samples

DH - you couldn’t tell by your figure

SA - you are being too kind

DH - seriously, you are in great ‘nick’

SA - laughs

See how he likes it. Next time you're in a shop that sells mens clothes start complementing the nearest male assistant on the shape of their figure and how they look like they work out etc.

Inappropriately over friendly/sleazy. And with you right there, disrespectful to you too. Yuck.

so embarassing for you, let alone the poor shop assistant who must have been thinking- what? his wife is just there.

A friend of mine did this to a barman at the weekend. It was horrible. Don't do that OP.

Some women like when men 'appreciate ' their great figure, some find it repulsive; so who knows how she took it 🤷🏾‍♀️.

There's no flirting though. Overstepping, perhaps. Flirting, no.

Would i like it if some man said i had nice tits that fill out my jumper YES without a doubt yes.
And i laugh about it.
Because i dont find offence in everything.
If anyone wants to tell me i look good even though i look rough im gonna take it because life is shit with everyone taking offence.

It was not a bizarre response, it was a simple question.
What is the value of your female friendship to your male friends? Very simple question. To put it simply, what are they getting from you as a friend that they would not be able to get from their mates?

Would you like this in your workplace? Someone in a higher position?

Please don't @Bex39

Also it works both ways. As previous poster said young men get this. Ds1's friend worked a bar and got groped and comments from older women. He didn't tell me until he'd left. His dm wouldn't have done anything but I would. No dad around for him.

Honestly if it gets me to the top yeah id play the boss like a fiddle to get what i want.

There's a world of difference between someone you know telling you you look nice and a stranger doing it while you are working and in front of his wife

One comment, fine. The second one, "you're in great nick"? Totally inappropriate 🤮

Id probably keep him talking to get closer to his wife if shes my type lol.
Im woman that like women.

Don’t use some poor young shop assistant, who has done nothing wrong, as a prop to score points off your husband. That’s hideous behaviour. Other people aren’t there to get involved in this creepy shit.

It’s cringy at any age, but more embarrassing at 54!

Well if you like strange men coming into your work place and commenting on your body, that’s fine. But as you can see by this thread lots of women (most?) dont like it so he should do it.

There’s a power imbalance at play, the shop assistant isn’t able to tell him to “fuck off” as she she would be free to in a social setting.

He wasn’t making polite conversation. He was commenting on a (much younger) woman’s figure - a woman he doesn’t know and who has no way of walking away from him if she doesn’t like it and isn’t allowed to tell him to piss off because she’s at work and he’s a customer - and he was doing it in front of his wife. Making two women feel uncomfortable by making comments about one of their bodies isn’t ’polite conversation’.

I don’t see any double standards on this thread.

And I would be equally appalled at women behaving inappropriately to a young man such as your DS.

No women I know would be have that way and I would challenge them if they did.

There is no way this thread hasn’t been flagged on some kind of incel chatroom with these latest responses

what would a man get from a friendship with a female that he wouldn’t get from his male friends? Just a totally warped view of the world. And I’d bet my hat it’s not a female view.

Flirting doesn’t make you want to slap someone. If he’d commented on my body like that he might have got a slap 😆

Some people like people pissing on them - doesn’t mean we should all go around doing it because we ‘don’t know who is who’

So then the poor woman behind the till has to deal with two creeps pestering her instead of one. Jeez.

Just let people do their jobs in peace ffs.

Completely inappropriate and sleazy to comment on a woman’s body. Never mind if he was flirting in front of you or not, the shop assistant must have been very uncomfortable with his comments.

Being from a ‘different era’ doesn’t excuse a thing. He needs to learn to keep his mouth shut and stop making women squirm.

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The same poster was on another thread recently claiming that anyone who uses a vibrator is a pervert, so my conclusion is that they’re either a troll or insane.