Would you class this as flirting? DH with shop assistant

[Bex39]

DH is adamant I am being OTT and he was just being polite but I disagree. Please help settle this for me.

We were in a shop which sells chocolate and he was at the till with me next to him.

Shop assistant - those (the chocolates DH was buying) are my favourites

DH - I would eat so much chocolate if I worked here

SA - tell me about it, I can’t help myself with the samples

DH - you couldn’t tell by your figure

SA - you are being too kind

DH - seriously, you are in great ‘nick’

SA - laughs

Ugh - he might think it's flirting, but it's just sleazy.

Inappropriate from your DH but I wouldn't say she was flirting from that, just making polite conversation

Wouldn’t bother me in slightest , he did it in front of you so obviously not trying to hide anything . Huge overreaction on your part

Eeeew

Gross of your oh

gross, but not flirting, not really.

Did he tell her that they put it smell in gas?

Another non event that I couldn't get worked up about if I tried

I really feel for shop workers being a captive audience for pervy, leery men.

I bet she thought he was a right creep.

Sleezy not flirty

Yup sleezy not flirty

I work in a shop that sells chocolate and if a customer said that to me I would be giving him a 🤨 look.

If he did it in front of you then I’d not class it as intended flirting. It’s sleepy to comment on a woman’s figure though gross. I’m not slim anymore but when I was the amount of men who made comments like this was sickening

You’re not overreacting atall. Men like this make me sick. The assistant sounds like she was being polite and tolerated him because he was a customer.
Saying ’You’re in great nick’, whilst you stood there?! What a prat.

Commenting on a woman's body is never "just being friendly", it's being a creep.

If that's his idea of flirting, you have nothing to worry about.

As for the assistant, I bet she was inwardly rolling her eyes at the tragic creep who was eyeing her up along with the chocolates.

Another vote for sleazy not flirty! Perhaps it’s ok to say “oh you wouldn’t know, you’re so slim” but telling someone they are “in great nick” - just no. She’s not a used car 🙄

Yes I would say he was flirting, totally disrespectful to you and very embarrassing for the shop assistant.

Sleazy and gross. I’d be cringing but that’s not flirting it’s perving.

This. Flirting is mutual. She was probably cringing.

It's not polite to make comments about strangers' bodies to them what the fuck is he on. He was rude and sleazy, the opposite of polite.

I put it to DH that she was likely embarrassed to which he said he thinks he made her day!

I would be absolutely appalled if my husband (or in fact any man I was with) spoke to a shop assistant in such an inappropriate way.

She didn’t laugh because it was funny, she laughed because she was uncomfortable.

It depends, in hotel chocolat for example their staff wear aprons so you wouldn’t be able to see someone’s figure - if that was the scenario here, then he might have just clumsily worded “you’re not fat” to her in reference to the conversation about eating a lot of chocolate. But if she was wearing something where her figure was visible then I’d definitely think he was overstepping and making a leery comment.